As time goes on (most) people learn more and get wiser. There's a reason the words young and dumb go together. Young people without a lot of life experiences make a lot of mistakes. Bad decisions comes with immaturity. Priorities change when people grow up.

A lot of people have problems in their relationship and break up because of problems caused by immaturity. They may have huge arguments and fights over very teensy tiny problems. Yet when they step back and look at it from a more mature view, all the arguments and fights seem stupid and pointless.

By putting priorities in order and changing the way they view things, couples can avoid a lot of problems and love and cherish each other more than ever.

For example:

1.John gets upset with Sally over something stupid.

2. Sally gets offended and gives John the cold shoulder for a few days because she didn't like the way she was talked to.

3. John doesn't understand why Sally is being so cold towards him and gets upset.

4. Both are upset with each other and constantly argue.

5. Weekends they always go out and do something together. Since they are not getting along, they ignore each other all weekend, creating even more anger and problems.

6. Sally decided not to cook and go out with her girlfriends instead of hanging around and being miserable with John.

7. In retaliation, John goes to spend a few nights with his brother.

8. Sally feels John has abandoned her and breaks up with him.

This example shows how a LITTLE, TINY, STUPID thing ended up breaking up a couple that loved each other. They forgot all about the tiny thing that ended up started the series of events that would break them up.

This could have been avoided by changing the way they think and handle things.

John could stop making comments over tiny things. John needs to learn Sally's feelings get hurt easily and not to make comments that will hurt her feelings over little issues. He needs to stop sweating the small stuff and learn to pick his battles carefully. If John had any idea that that one comment he made would start a series of events that would break them up, he would never have opened his mouth.

Sally could stop being overly sensitive. She can stop retaliating against comments she doesn't like by giving John the cold shoulder. Instead of holding a grudge for several days and being cold, she could be straight forward with John and say, "That really hurts my feelings when you make comments like that." She can understand that John speaks without thinking and doesn't intend to hurt her feelings, she just takes things too hard.

After the break up, both John and Sally are broken hearted. They both wonder what went wrong and realize they both had it good.

Hindsight is 20/20.

This shows how changing your thinking and acting more mature can save a relationship and prevent breakups over dumb stuff.

If you want to get your Ex back, there are some things you should and shouldn't do.

Be sure not to overwhelm them. Don't call several times a day, don't email several times a day, because if you lay it on too strong, they might be frightened off or feel pressured.

On the other hand, let them know you are interested in getting back together. Your Ex isn't psychic and if you haven't told them you want them back, how are they supposed to know? If you don't let them know, they may assume you have moved on and they may move on too. They could be actively looking for a new boy/girlfriend.

So the moral of the story is- let them know you want them back without hounding them, pressuring them, or overwhelming them. Give them time to think about things.

TIP- A good tip in getting your ex back, is by sending them a picture of the two of you during happy times. You can send an email, but the BEST way is to send an old fashioned card. Make a copy of a picture of the two of you happy together and mail it to them with a note saying something like: I miss us like this. Doesn't this bring back good memories? Don't you want to go back to this, the way we were?

1. Pray Together- The family that prays together stays together

2. Have fun together- Do something that you both enjoy. This can be going on walks, going to the arcade, or movies. The family that plays together stays together.

3. Write little love notes and leave them around where the other will find them.

4. Do something extra nice for the other without expecting anything in return. Such as bringing breakfast in bed.

5. Brush off and don't get upset over little stuff.

6. Give your partner compliments.