If you've just been dumped, don't panic! When you're stressed out, you are going to act irrationally. There are lots of mistakes you can make with your ex that will drive them further away.

Don't call too soon after being ditched. They asked for space, respect that. They cant start to miss you if you're always in their face.

Just as you mustn't call your ex, don't send them text messages either. They will find it more annoying and irritating than seeing it as a grand gesture of love.

Don't act all 'poor me, look what you’ve done to me'. Crying and telling them how sad/depressed/miserable/lonely you've been is not going to push them back into your arms. Would you respect someone who carries on like that?

Don't even think about confronting your lost love and getting into a fight with them. Logically, you know this isn't appropriate behaviour. Do you think you are going to argue them back to you?

Insisting to your ex that they have just made a huge error is only going to aggravate them and make things a lot worse.

Do you think they really care about what you think right now? Acting in this way is going to make them angry and drive you away even more.

Stay away from their friends and relatives. This is truly one really bad mistake and can push your ex away from you forever.

Stay away from 'accidentally' running into your ex at places where you know they will be. As much as you try and make it appear coincidence, practically everyone will see right through your act. Do you really want people to see you as a weak, obsessed stalker?

So now you know exactly what NOT to do when your ex dumps you. Do you know there are lots of things that you CAN do to get your ex back?

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It’s that moment we all dread, even if at times we’ve seen it coming; your ex tells you that your relationship is over. Like most people in this situation, you are coping with the shock of loss and figuring out what you can do to make them understand what a mistake they have made. Even though you are feeling anxious and miserable, try to refrain from contacting your lost love asking questions about the break up - they need some space right now.

It is the period just after you have broken up that is the most crucial. Saying and doing the right things at this time are vital factors in your relationship with your lost love.

First off, the very best thing you can do is to agree with your lost love that breaking up is a smart idea. Doing this may sound strange, but it is guaranteed that this is the very last thing your lost love is expecting to hear. This is the most effective reponse in this situation.

If you have been guilty of acting like a whining, needy fool by constantly contacting your ex, checking up on them or just text messaging them 500 times, then there is a trick you can do that will go a long way to redeeming your conduct.

If you want to try and show your lost love that you are really a calm, rational person then you need to make the effort to do this. What you need to do now is to write them a very short letter. Just tell them that you have had time to think things through and that they were right, a break up is probably the best thing for you both. It will cause your ex to think twice and see you as being potentially unavailable to them, which makes you more alluring to them.

Just keep it very short and sweet and simply tell them that they made the right decision. Please don't think of sending this as a text, or telling them over the phone. Only a proper, written letter will do.

Why does this work? It's a concrete, solid assurance that they were right. You are considering their feelings. They feel listened to. Why would yet another call or text message make a differrence? If your lost love has been bombarded by them, they are not going to take much notice of another one. A letter says you have taken time and effort to communicate something to them, making it much more likely that they will treat it seriously.

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