Get Your Wife Back
65How to Win Your Wife back - 5 Quick Tips
"Should I try to win back my wife?"
If you love your wife - then it may well be worth the try. Everyone deserves a second chance. Here are some important tips:
- Become a better man. When your wife sees that the change is genuine and that it is there to last, she will start to open up her heart once again.
- She fell for you once. Try to remember what she fell for and then reinforce those characteristics again.
- Tell her how you feel. Be honest and sincere about your feelings.
- If you want to win your wife back, the best thing to do is to give her the space she needs. In time she might realize that she really misses being with you and that she might want to try it again.
- Read self-help ebooks. Learn more about about breakups, getting your wife back, and find information that applies to your situation.
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my wife has fall in with love with another man and spend a lot of time with him, while we are still married. I have taken her for granted, and the fundamental of getting married was not strong, with so many wrong doing that I have neglected and led her into loniess, not being trustyworthy, and no common interest. But, deep inside me I still love her, and will hope to get some good advice to build the chemistry that we did had before.
i ve been with my wife for ten years this thanksgining i decide to leave she kept call another man we have three kids i moved out she moved him in everything i bulid for my family another man enjoy now it hurts it makes me angry but i been out here so long bye myself i start to enjoy it she calls try to find out what i am doing ask question she should be asking but i still feel alone
Wow I thought I was the only one... My wife wants me out of her life for another man... and it all happened so fast I don't know what I did wrong... well I do but it hurts.... I hurt my wife before and now I guess it is her turn.. I don't think she really knows how much I love her... Instead she thinks that I am some a-hole trying to hurt her.. I can't get feedback from her... damn what do I do...
My wife left after 12 years on system overload,the hurt was devasting to me and still is,she itemise all my failures,most finacially due to business slowdown and a loss of security.Plus having female friends coaching to reinforce her decision is out of my control.For me I am invovled in church and got into a support group of men,it makes a difference and helps the hurt a little.I am not giving up on my wife,I love her and want her back.Theres a inexspensive book out there by Ed Wheat how to save your marriage alone,someone emailed me with this info,it has some great wisdom.For now I continue to pray,and helps get me thru the day.I truly love my wife.
My wife told me she is confused a few weeks ago and she wasn't in love with me anymore. she told me what i did wrong and i tried to change but changed to fast and to strong. I left for a night and went crazy, she took me back the next day to try and work out her feelings but by the end of the week I was told nothing has changed. She says she needs her space and time will tell. All I can do is give her the space she needs and hope for her to want me back. we have 2 kids and a home plus I run a business out the house which is a strugle now since I had to Move back with parents for a minute. We have been together for 11 yrs and married for 3. I have found it easier day by day and hopes she will figure it out.
recently my wife met a man on her myspace page,love is said over & over now.she says she is confused & not sure what she wants.i take it day to day.i hope she comes back to me cause i truly love her.i will not give up on our 12yrs. together for this couple months w/him.she will see what she has w/me i hope.
i fell for this girl n things went so smothly but couple of months back she told me she slept with another guy it hurt so bad esp when we as guys give it all we have makes me wonder what i did wroung i jus cant trust anyone esp her yet ilove her so much ino its sappy but sometimes we cant just help it
i found out my wife was having an afair with an old friend of ours two weeks ago,we have been married for 17 years and going together for 22 years,she has been having this afair for 4 months and he asked her to marry him 6 weeks ago-she said yes.apparently she had a crush on him as a teenager,she saw him briefly at a party we were at in june and decided to have him the very next day.we have two great kids,which i am keeping along with the house,she has already told us she loves him more than the kids.i started divorce proceedings after only 5 days after i discovered their dirty little secret,she was quite shocked at the speed of my actions.we are talking as if we dont there will only be 2 casualties-the children,but,there is no way to save this marriage and i for one am moving on with my life and am actualy smiling again,she on the other hand always looks as miserable as sin,i tell her to cheer up as this is what she wanted but deep down i believe that she believes she has made the biggest mistake of her 40 year life,i hope everything turns out good for her as i still love her dearly,but i hope the parrasitic shit eater she left me for gets cancer and dies a slow agonising death.
p.s. i didnt have a clue any of this was happening,i and everyone(except her/him)thought we had the best and most solid of relationships,it just goes to show----there is no such thing as perfect.
Yep,I feel the pain you guys do. My wife and I have been together for almost 13 years now. I have ,over the years,taken her for granted. I have no one to blame but myself. I guess this makes me a mental and verbal abuser. My wife and our kids are my life and soul. We have always both been shy and only really dependant on each other. We have 6 beautiful kids. My wife has raised our two oldest kids basically on her own. She didn't give birth to them but you could never tell by the way they love her and she loves them. They are both from a previous loveless marrige that I made the mistake of getting involved in. Our daughter is 14 now. My wife and I have had her since she was 12 months if that tells you anything. My wife met someone that she likes,maybe more. I was too damn stupid to realize my mistakes until this happened. Even though my wife has opened herself up to me many times before about her feelings in her heart about me not showing her all that I needed to. This has finally made me dead awake. I love my wife with all of my heart and soul. But,I am the F up here. My heart is now totally torn out.=(.She says she also needs her space and I only come home for a day or two at a time. She is ok for a short time then she gets very cold. She has the most beautiful big blue eyes. They turn dark and cold after I am here for a certain period of time. She also has a myspace. Those big beautiful blue eyes are sad in a lot of her pictures on there. I can only hope day by day that she is truthful when she says we still have a chance. I am not so sure . She doesn't like to hurt anyones feelings,so I don't know if she is simply sparing me that torture. I hope but I don't know for sure if we can right our issues and be a family once again. I cry alot. I'm not ashamed to admit that. She is the only one that I have cried for in many years. Her and our kids. I am not a religious man by any means but I pray to god that we can work this out. Any thoughts from anyone would be greatly appreciated.
For all of you who wish to mend you marriages, a christian pastor named Emmerson has a DVD series called Love and Respect. This is an amazing series that showed me alot about myself I did not know about in me and my relationship with my wife. I am also having problems with my marriage and am trying to figure out how to win her heart back. We have been married for 16 years and I made a ton of mistakes through my pride and not loving her like I should. Woman need loving totally different from me and the Love and Respect series showed that to me. This should be a prereq for marriage! My prayers are with all of you.
My wife left me on Thanksgiving. Telling me she don't love me anymore.. says she has mixed feelings since the miscarriage.. claims she can't live in the house or stand to look at me cause everything reminds her of the child we lost.. She met this guy at boxing class she told be about him I didnt think anything of it Now she is with this guy she is driving his car he is taking her to work. He even had the nerve to bring her to my house to get some of her things... I was mad as can be I confronted this guy and asked why he is messing with my wife.. he said I had nothing to do with her till she left you she ask me for help... I still mad... I love my wife dearly I want her to return to me I dont care about the other guy I just want my wife back I can learn to deal with the fact she went to another man... how can I get her back she calls me I been super nice with her about everything.... I just want to work things out... what do i have to do..??
My wife of 10 years left right before our anniversary. She went to her 20 year reunion, and found that she thought the grass was greener on the other side. She had an affair with a "friend" of hers from the reunion (we live in VA and she went to Alaska). They had the long distance affair while I was in hell. I love her deeply and, like so many others, took her for granted. We waited four years before having our daughter, which I thought would cement us forever. I didn't know divorce was even an option. She and the guy have now broken up, and I am praying that I can earn a second chance. I've made a lot of changes in my life, like finding God and being the best father I can be. I would do anything for this lady, and am having a hard time making it day by day. It's all I can think about, and it's always painful. Feels like it happened yesterday, not eight months ago.
My husband is the one that had the affair, so it's very different for me, but tell these women how you feel, then show them you mean it. Show them & tell them every day as often as you can until it's a part of who you are.
It's so important that your words match your actions & vice versa.
She will push you away, she doesn't trust you to not hurt her again, but you have to keep resisting her push. When you allow her to pushyou away, to her it says "see I could push him away. He wasn't committed to making this work in the long term & it never would have been what I needed because he wasn't interested in what I needed."
It won't happen over night, we're talking months of slow progress & may be some backwards steps, but if she still loves you, if you want her more than anything in the world, this is what you have to do.
I am one of those women who is being taken for granted. This is my first and only marriage. There are no limits to what I would do for my husband but he seems to be more interested in pursuing friendships with other women. He told me once that he does not love me anymore and that he meant it. He also told me that that woman in particular was more interesting than me. So I called it quits and he immediately had a change of heart. We are still together of course but the female friends are always becoming a priority. Men seem to be instantly attracted to me and that makes my husband possessive and jealous but he still must have his female friends.
Please give me advice. I am planning to file for a separation or a divorce. Lately, I've become in constant contact with an ex high school boyfriend that is passionately interested in me and would love to spend more time with me.
I would love to hear from you men.
my wife left me....now i must go
To anyone who might read this, I want to share my story. I'm 31 and my wife is 26, we've been married now going on almost 7 years. We have a beautiful little girl thats almost 2. Right at this momment I'm at home depressed, lonely, sad, in a lot of pain, because of what my wife and I are going through. Over the past 4 months I guess you can say were going through a sort of growing pain. This isn't the first time I've been away from my love by any means. Back in 2002 I was mobilized to go fight in Iraq then afghanastan, and was gone almost 3 years. When I came home it was great, life I mean......but apperantly over time I've turned into a self centered, egotistical, mean, parranoid (war will do that to a person) and heartless individual. I see now that I've been taking my love for granted over these last couple of years, and holy fuck have I been wrong......see people its taken me a long time to let my demons go. i guess you can say finally grow up, because I now have found out what is truely important in my life. Because it's gone. For the past 4 monthes my wife and I have't been good, she left me 3 weeks ago and went to stay with her grandparents, she tells me that she needs time and space that she thinks that she still loves me, but is unsure, she wants time apart just to be sure. And I'm realy trying not to push for ansewers, but I'm not willing to stop fighting for my marriage and her love. I must win her back, I know she is my soul mate. But when I ask her questions the only answer she can muster is "I just don't know yet, it's to early to tell". and tells me to stop pushing her. people I just can't help that, not knowing is driving me to insanity. Sunday was fathers day and she and our little girl came home for a couple of days. It was fantastic, we spent monday at the zoo, followed by a nice (but fast) dinner, then cuddeled up on the couch to watch trueblood after the kid went to bed. Monday night we made love (more like a quicky, we were both tired and exhausted from walking in the blistering heat all day) but none the less we slept in the same bed for two nights. Well today was okay, we spent the morning outside drinkin coffee and smokin cigarettes and I talked while she mainly listend. After little girl woke up I fed her breakfeast and played with her. It was fantastic, Then we went out to wallmart and stocked her up on diapers and wipes, and we had a decent lunch. Now the shitty part. Granted it was planned, she went back to stay with her grandparents for some more time. (still unsure how long though).......I pray, ....if there is such thing as god.....please lord give me back my family....I am a changed man for sure, these past 4 months have been far worse then any of the killin I experienced in combat abroad.....please I beg you.....give me back my family......we will see how this goes.....thank you for taking the time to read this....out
Charlie says:
2 years ago
I couldn't do it I'm afraid, I could never trust her not to cheat on me again.