Getting back with your ex means you will need to take a step back and understand from some of the mistakes you made and face the truth about your relationship. Before you go about making up you first need to appreciate and be aware of what they are similar to any other dilemma you may have faced in the past except this one may be a little more fragile. Women often think the same thing when trying to get an ex back like I want to get my boyfriend back! Men will move forward without thinking and end up blowing whatever probability they may have had so these steps are significant right now.

Once you have made up your mind to get your ex back, you will be ready to deal with the hard reality. What did you do that perhaps played a role in the whole breakup? People make mistakes so dont be too hard on yourself. But you can control what happens from here on out so just take into account that much.

So sit down on your own and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened.  Don't worry yourself too much with what you see as your ex's mistakes, leave that for the yet to come.  Only involve yourself right now with what you can sway.

Whatever issues you uncover in your past behavior, can they be forgiven?  Don't be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your problems are basically unwarrantable.  You would be stunned at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later mend from.  So don't think that your issues are beyond pardon.  There is always hope!

Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, especially if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with ex, then you need to do this.

You might realize that you had certain things going on in your life that was very difficult to deal with..  Maybe life at work was especially difficult on you??  Or that you were just not feeling like yourself, which caused you to behave the way you did? Sometimes family pressures can have affect on people as well.  Doesn't matter what you realize when you look back at what happened, you will in time need to sit down with your ex and give reasons for in detail just what you have found.

If your problems were the result of you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is somewhat about you and your makeup that can quite easily be fixed.  This will take some effort on your part paying attention to your actions, however if you are truly committed to getting back together and saving your relationship it will reap benefits for your efforts.

When you have come to the point where you have begun to gain perspective about your mistakes, then call your ex and arrange to meet.  It is usually better to arrange a face to face meeting somewhere public and neutral because then there is less chance of either of you becoming emotional.

Try and stay calm and fouced about your meeting as well as the things you want to express to them. Ask to be forgiven and then listen carefully to their perspective feeling a sense of understanding and appreciation.