It is hard to lose a boyfriend regardless of the reason for the break up. Whether it was a long relationship or a short relationship it can still be devestating. There are numerous strategies on how to get your ex back but the most important thing to remember is don't give up.Outlined below are ten steps to on how to get back with an ex boyfriend.

• Don't play the blame game: The worst thing you can do is start pointing fingers at your ex boyfriend for what he may have done wrong in the relationship. It is also a bad idea to blame yourself. Accept that something went wrong and that it takes two people in order for conflict to arise.
• Stay calm and act in a mature manner: You will not have much hope in repairing your relationship if you cause a huge scene while breaking up. It is a good idea to ask questions in a calm manner, but if you are hoping to get him back you will not want to act crazy and start yelling and screaming.
• Take a few days to yourself: Once you have broken up take sometime to clear your head and let all your emotiions run there course before you try and talk to your ex boyfriend.
• Be civilized: Remember there is a good chance that anything you say about your ex boyfriend is going to eventually make it back to his ears. So be sure and only say nice stuff about him to others.
• Don't act desperate: No one likes desperate people. Give him some space to work through the break up himself before you try and call him or talk to him. You may be pleasently surprised at just how effective this can be.
• Let him know you don't need him: No matter how strongly your feel about him it is important for him to know that you do not need him to have fun and that you can move on in life without him. It is also important to your own well being to go out and enjoy yourself without him, you can't just sit around feeling sorry for yourself if you expect to get him back.
• Avoid him: Most people do not agree with this part, but it is an important part of letting hime know you don't need him and also vital to giving yourself and him some space to think about what went wrong.
• Get your hair done: I know, it probably does not sound important, but you should take some time for yourself to get your hair done to help you feel better about yourself.

Before you move on to the last 2 steps it is advisable to have a well planned strategy in place. Here is some help with how to get your ex back. You will find tons of advice from experts who have proven time and again that these strategies really do work.

• Tell him how you are feeling: Once you have taken a step back, thought about how you feel and improved how your self image, tell him how you feel about the breakup and let him see the real you. The one he fell in love with.
• Ask if he is interested in trying again: This may seem like a deperate act, but if you have waited for the proper amount of time before you ask him it will not seem desperate at all.

In order to get you ex back you are going to have to an open line of communication which is not always easy. This is a very possible scenerio: You call your ex and leave a message and they never return your phone call...Sound about right?

My question to you is what are you saying in your message that is causing your ex to not want to return the call?

Are you pleading with your ex to call you back? The pleading call sounds something like this "Please, please call me. I have tried to call you hundreds of times. I really need to talk to you. Please just call me back"

or

Are you Using the emergancey tactic? The emergancy phone call sounds like this "It is really very urgent that you call me back. I need you to call me ASAP! It is an emergancy. Please call me as soon as you get this"

If this is what you are using then you already know why it does not work. So I see no reason to continue discussing what doesn't work. Let's move on to what you can do do get that return phone.

You need to utilize to very important elements when leaving a message to your ex.

1. Curiosity
2. Self Interest

These are two of the most powerful forces of the human mind. So when you use them together it will be a very powerful combination that will work MAGIC in getting your ex to call you back.

Know you are probably wondering...How do I combine the two?

It really is very simple. Give it a try yourself and you will see it works nearly time. In a pleasent and friendly tone say:

"Hi Jason, it's me Cindy. I just thought I would let you know how much I appreciate what you did for me. Call me back so I can thank you in person"

See how you have sparked curiosity and involved self interest? Guaranteed your ex will not be able to resist calling you back to find out what it is you appreciate so much. Because it is a positive and upbeat phone call your ex will be even more willing to call back as you have made him/her feel positive about what you have to say.

Warning

This is very important to remember before you call. You need a "set up." You will need to figure out what your ex did that you can show appreciation for. It doesn't have to be something huge...Just something realistic.

Important

Before you make that phone call remember you NEED to have an uderlaying strategy like the ones descibed in the Magic of Making Up if you stand any chance to getting your ex back. If you are not properly prepared to handle the return phone call you may cause more damage the good.

So, what I am saying is if you use the above technique alone, without an overall plan..you run the risk of damaging your relationship more than if they never returned your phone call.

How to get back with an ex boyfriend?? Simple...Just have a soilid plan of action and work towards your end goal.