This is the rule to follow when giving value in pickups. If you want to give a fun value to a girl, YOU have to come off as a fun guy.

Telling some street joke to a girl about a parrot walking into a bar won't get you her attention. The reason why such pickup lines fail is that you always appear trying too hard to impress and get her attraction. You are just putting too much effort into it, and at the same time you don't come off as original by telling someone elses joke.

And every time you try to give a girl a value without you being the value itself, you will lose attraction! Every time you try to give a girl something that doesn't reflect who you really are, you will lose attraction! Women can easily sense and pick that out.

If you want to gain lots of her attention, you will have to BE the value that you give. You have to BE the value in order to give the value.

If you give a fun value to a girl and deep down inside you are a fun guy, you will get lots of her attraction.

For instance, I can use the wild bubble wrap story to give a fun value and come off as a fun guy at the same time. "You know what I would do with you... I would wrap you in a bubble wrap and put you in my luggage... And take you to Tiffany's where I would deck you all out, so when we came to this bar right here... You would be my Tiffany's princess... And all your friends would be completely jealous."

And if you tell a wild and fun story like this, she will expect you to be fun at other times and in other situations, and you will get more and more of her attraction.

But if you tell her an unoriginal, canned street joke like the Parrot joke above, then she won't be able to tell if you are fun as a person, and you will lose her attraction. Coming off as the value itself instead of just giving it makes you appear as a naturally fun guy who is not trying to impress!

You are just being yourself. You are a fun guy who will probably tell another funny story to some other girl at any other time. In a girl's mind, a guy being the value is worth a lot because she knows she will always enjoy you being fun instead of enjoying you being fun only one time.

But remember anything I will say follows the same rule: You have to BE the value in order to give the value.

A student emailed me saying, "Are there any guidelines on how to be the value?"

The answer is simply, Yes, there are.

The first thing to remember is that you always have to covertly communicate the being the value aspect while openly communicate the value aspect itself. You can also covertly communicate both the value and the being aspects. Consider the bubble wrap story above. This story is openly fun and emotionally exciting, and both are examples of openly giving value.

But remember the rule: You have to BE the value in order to give the value.

So you have to covertly communicate that you are both a fun and emotionally exciting guy.

Let me explain how this could go wrong: Im a fun guy... Check this out... I will tell you a funny story.

This will not work in a million years! You are trying too hard to impress her. In order to get the being aspect across right, you have to learn the four covert communication techniques below:

(1) Tell her the story as if youre telling it to your little sister, and tell her funny stories all the time because youre a fun guy and youre just being yourself.

(2) Tell her the story as if you have told stories like this countless times to countless girls, but this particular story was improvised just for her.

(3) Dont just narrate the story! Give her the impression that the story was truly improvised on the spot, and pause while talking as if youre thinking about what to say next.

(4) Rid yourself of any nervous body language and delivery signs (twitching, scratching, etc.).

If you learn the above techniques, you will be able to covertly communicate the being the value aspect, and you will automatically give the value without thinking too much about it!

You will see that my Get the Girl book focuses on covert communication for that particular reason.

In the next episodes, I will explain how to give value and how you should covertly communicate the being.

Now, master the above techniques and be social.

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