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1. Anyplace where you're going to be together10 to 15 minutes

On average it takes 10 to 15 minutes of talking before someone feels comfortable sharing their email or cell-phone. But you don't want to gab too long either - my chef friend tells me that the secret to a meal is to leave them wanting more. Don’t monopolize the woman’s time. After 15 minutes move on. If she returns your eye contact later in the evening - go back and have a deeper conversation.

2. Bars are good places to get a drink, but lousy places to find a match.

Most people can easily picture the worst place possible to meet someone. It would
be noisy, crowded and dark. This would prevent talking, moving around easily to meet people or getting to know anyone in more than a superficial way. Hey, you’ve just described
most singles bars. The competition is fierce because there are usually more guys than gals. And the time is now, because what are the chances you’ll ever meet the person again?

3. Small is good

You have a better chance of meeting somebody at a dinner-party for 15 than a lawn party for 300. The small group allows you to get to know people more deeply. If you're at a big
party, try to find the small party within the big party. Hangout in the hot tub room. Or stake a spot in the kitchen.

4. A streetcar to romance.

A bus stop is a good place to meet women. You have a captive audience for 10 minutes with nothing to do. Ten minutes is long enough to know if there’s a spark. And there’s little
risk. If you hit it off continue the conversation on the bus. Otherwise grab a seat far away from her. For a conversation opener, make eye contact, smile and say, "Hi. Does
the ## go ####?" Or on a rainy day, try, “Are you a rainy day person?”

5. Courses are good

Choose a hands on course instead of, History of Greek Philosophy. It’s hard to meet someone while listening to someone else talk for three hours. Massage class, dance, theatre art. pasta-making or the art of wine-tasting sound like good bets.

6. Avoid Supermarkets and Department stores

I've had great luck striking up conversations with women in Asian grocery stores. Opening a conversation can be as easy as holding up a lotus root plant or daikon and saying, "How do you prepare this?" I've had some short conversations, and shared smiles over, “No speak English.” And looks that say, “Why are you talking to me?” Usually the person walks away after a few sentences to carry on her shopping.

The supermarket is not a place where you see people standing around the produce section gabbing. A few sentences sure, but you’re unlikely to have the ten minutes necessary to make her feel comfortable before asking her for a coffee.

7. Cruising the local bookstores

Before hitting the dance club - hit the relationship/self-help section at Chapters. Any woman spending her Friday evening in the bookstore is probably intelligent, literate and if not leading a life of quiet desperation probably a life of desperate quiet.

Cruise the relationship/self-help section. "Any recommendations on a good singles book? ..." or "What do you think of Leo Busgaglio? "There are usually comfortable chairs to sit in. And nowadays the big bookstores like Chapters even have their own coffee shop.

The literature section is my hunting ground. If a woman is eying The Catcher in the Rye. I might
say, “That book brings back a lot of high school memories." If she looks interested continue, "Where were you when you read it the first time?”

Cruise the recipe section.”Isn’t it hard finding just the right cook-book? What kind of recipes are you looking for? ..."

8. Cruising the Laundromat

A captive audience with time on her hands and nothing to do. Big Smile. Say “Hi. Lost any socks lately?” Talk a bit. “Hey, I’m going to get a coffee next door. Want to join me?”

9. Café Due. Busy coffee shop or Cafeteria.

Start talking to the people while you’re in the queue. Check if any women are giving you the eye. After paying, walk by her table. If she makes any eye contact. “Is this chair free?” My buddy Delaney is a whiz at meeting Asian ladies at Starbucks with the unlikely line, "You look like you need an English tutor." Sweet!

10. Art Gallery Conversation Starters:

Here a starter for the Art Gallery that's worked for me before

"Isn't it cool how the painter uses warm and cool colors to bring parts of the painting toward you." If she looks at you strangely and runs off toward the security then time to radio Houston. "Houston we do not have lift-off," and high-tail it to the next room If she looks at you with interest - keep going - "That's why the stop signal on a traffic light is colored red and the go light is colored green ..."

Good luck. Leave you own ideas in the comment section.