Dealing with an addict is never easy. Matter-of-fact it is probably one of the hardest things to deal with because there is concern and love for the addicted person. Pornography is one of the worst forms of addictions because it can be so secretive and lie dormant for many years but like all addictions they start to rear their ugly head and end up hurting their loved ones. However, the addict does not realize he/she is hurting a loved one because they feel it is a personal thing they are doing. How could it be hurting others? Well until they can step out and separate the addict from who they really are they won't recognize it.

A common question asked is, "What can I do to help?" The first thing you can do is gain an understanding of sexual addiction issues. This will not get rid of the hurt or the pain but it will help to give you an understanding what is going on inside your loved ones head.

You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink.

Until the addict recognizes there is a problem, he/she will not change. It has to be their choice. We have had individuals coming to group sessions for the last 3 years and it was just recently one individual finally completed one of his assignments. Why? He was coming for his wife and not for himself. However, this year he recognized it was affecting his life and now he is starting to recover. It took 3 years before he wanted to make the change for himself.

I say this so that you can recognize the importance that there is only so much you can do. The addict has to do it for them self. Pornography is destroying families faster and faster. There are many programs and systems out there. We have created a treatment system that helps a person overcome pornography and sexual addiction but before any program will work the addict needs to want to change. Change comes from within, not from without and only influences can come from external sources.