HOW TO BE SEXY: A woman's perspective

Anyone can be sexy. It doesn't matter if you look like a walking can of coke or if you got a booty that would J.Lo to shame, heck, you can be as attractive as that head cheerleader in your school. Being sexy is having the right state of mind and the right attitude. IT all starts from within and it'll work its way outward to your appearance.

CONFIDENCE

It all starts with yourself. Ever wonder why some women attract more men than the others? It is because they are confident and comfortable with what they have. IF YOU KNOW YOU GOT IT, FLAUNT IT. Be proud of what you have. Concentrate on your good traits and assets than on the bad ones. The number 1 confidence killer is too much emphasis on your bad parts. That is the problem with most women. A cousin and close friend of mine complains about not being pretty enough when she could pass for a celebrity, what, with a great voice and a pretty face... Who is she kidding? Ladies. Let go of that negative self perception. It's all in the mind. If you think you're ugly, than chances are, people will agree with you. But if you think otherwise, you'll imbibe that positivity to others and the next thing you know, you'll be turning more heads than Paris Hilton in her 2 piece bikini.

Here's a fact: NObody's perfect. And it's no rocket science. Everyone has his or her own imperfections, no matter how perfect they are. The trick there is to take away attention from your bad parts and emphasize on the good parts. Let's say you got great gams. Why not show it off with a pear of minis or bermuda shorts? Got those sexy doe eyes? Emphasize on that with the right eye make up, eye liner and a layer of maskara? Show em what you got.

THE RIGHT POSTURE

Nothing exudes more confidence (and sex appeal) than a woman walking tall with her shoulders back.

DON'T JUST WALK, STRUT IT

Never drag your feet. Walk with confidence. A combination of the right posture and the right way to work will work wonders. Remember, one feet over the other...

AWKWARD ABOUT STRUTTING IT?

Play your favorite, feel sexy tune on your mind, or fill your ipod with sexy RnB tunes to keep that sexy vibe going on.

MY TOP 10 FEEL SEXY TUNES:

1. FEEDBACK- JANET JACKSON

2. GIMME MORE - BRITNEY SPEARS

3. NO DIGGITY - BLACK STREET

4. KINGDOM OF PRETTY - BONNIE BAILEY

5. SWEET SEXY THING - NEW FLAVA

6. SAY IT RIGHT - NELLY FURTADO

7. ME & U - CASSIE

8. OH - CIARA

9. DANGEROUS - YING YANG TWINS

10. GOODIES - CIARA

SMILE

Show them pearly whites. Nothing exudes friendliness but a little mystery than a smile. You don't have to go on and say "Hi" and shake hands everyone you meet, unless you're running for president. A simple smile goes a long way. And don't forget to brush your teeth.

IT'S ALL IN THE CLOTHES

Dressing sexy doesn't always mean stilletoes and that little black dress. You can be sexy even with a pair of jeans and a simple shirt. It's all about choosing the right style and the right fit. The trick to looking effortlessly chic is to wearing something nice and yet you could still move around in them. Let's say you're bottom heavy like me. Go for dark denims and tops that go below the hipline. It not only flaunts your assets, it also takes away attention from huge thighs and big hips. (for more tips on dressing up for bottom heavy women, check out my blogs.)

HAVE A "FEEL SEXY" ITEM

Whether it be your favorite black number, that black underwear that makes you feel sexy or that favorite perfume, always have an item or a garment that gives you that confidence everytime you wear it. Wear it like a lucky charm, or in our case, a "sex appeal" charm. Save it for a very special occassion. I have this favorite pair of Victoria Secret sky blue thong with a little ribbon at the back that makes me feel dangerously sexy and flirty everytime I wear it. I usually wear this on ladies night outs or when I'm out with my beau.

LESS IS MORE

Nothing screams "Trying hard" than putting on too much make up. Kim Chiu never wore make up when she tried out for PBB teen edition and yet she won the approval of the judges during the audition. Less make up exudes youthful freshness and glow as opposed to piling up more of it. So opt for a little blusher and a peach tinted lip gloss and you're good to go. Nothing's sexier than exuding that girl next door look, even if you're 24 years old.

EXERCISE

Excercising not only keeps fit but also keeps you feeling good. Research shows that excercising can release those feel good hormones called endorphines - those hormones responsible in giving you that feeling of well being and improves your mood. This same hormone is also our very own natural pain killer, so the longer you stay on the treadmill, the lesser you feel tired and sore.

Plus, it ups your energy and confidence up by a notch. And besides, nothing looks sexier than that natural flush on your cheeks. Want to make exercising more exciting? Enroll in a pole dancing or cardio strip tease class. Or do hip hop abs. You burn more calories while shaking that ass than the regular work out.

GOOD ORAL AND BODY HYGIENE

Be sure to take a bath everyday and brush your teeth regularly. Having a pretty face is nothing if you have poor hygiene practices.

TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH

Exercise daily. Eat the right food. Avoid those bad habits. Eating and drinking right promotes great skin and great well being. Increase intake of veggies, fruits and lean meat. Avoid drinking and smoking... Or atleast, minimize on that one to have clear, smooth skin.

WATER... MORE WATER

Increase fluid intake if you can't seem to quit smoking. Water therapy not only keeps you hydrated, it also keeps flushes out toxins fast through urinating. So chug down on water or juices or eat watermelons.

KEEP IT NEAT

Nothing increases sex appeal than a woman who's hair is combed and styled, clothes are fitted right and clean and fingernails and toe nails are trimmed and pedicured. You don't have to be a regular in salons to look neat and pretty. Just take good care of your face and body and practice good hygiene.

IT'S IN THE SCENT

Remember, perfumes must only be worn during the night. Perfumes are a bit overpowering as the heat during the day (plus the sweat) can magnify the scent of your perfume. Opt for something sweet, subtle and light during the day, like cologne. I swear by Victoria Secret Pear Glaze and Johnson's Baby Cologne in Summer Swing. Another option would be Calgon body mists.

MODERATION IS STILL THE KEY

Never overdo anything. Too much is something is no longer sexy. The key to being sexy "without lifting a finger" is not overdoing it.