I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel".Ephesians 23-31. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. [Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything]. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it . . . So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . . For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shal.1 be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh". 1 Peter 3:7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (NASB ©1995) 1 Timothy 3:3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle ... Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Husbands and Fathers, your role in the household is that of leadership. It is a prestigious role to be taken seriously. It is a privilege and honor given by God.

Ephesians 23-31. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body.

Now, exactly what does this mean?

As husbands and fathers you are to provide an income to support your family. I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel". You are to oversee the management of your household's budget and expenses. This does not mean that you can not sit down with your wife and prepare a budget together and make decisions together, but it does mean that you are supposed to put your final stamp of approval on it! At the end of the month you are to balance the check book and know exactly what your financial status is!

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it . . . So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . You are to love your wife, taking care of her in every way. You are not to harm her, just as you would not cause harm to yourself. God gave His very life (through manifestation in the Son, Jesus Christ) for us, because He loves us. He expects husbands to be willing to give their all to their wives (and children.) 1 Timothy 3:3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle ... He exhorts you not to fall into drunkenness because you lose control of yourselves when you drink, it changes your very character and you do things you regret later. He tells you not to be violent but to be gentle and (care for your wives and children.) Ephesians 5:25-27 1 Peter 3:7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. (NASB ©1995) Husbands you are to be understanding with your wives, if there is a problem, discuss it calmly and honor them with the same respect you want them to give you. They too are children of GOD. Communication is a very important part of marriage. Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. if you have a dispute, do not be angry (harsh) find a common ground, your love for GOD, and find a solution to the problem calmly and with love.

"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. "

Husbands treat your wife with gentleness. You and your wife own each others bodies. Treat them with respect.  Do not use sex as a weapon against your wife. Sex is to be used for boding as much as pleasure. Do not withhold sex from your wife without discussing the reason with your wife. It should be in mutual agreement.

Ephesians 6:4 "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath:but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."Ephesians Colossians 3:21, "Fathers provoke not your children to anger lest they be discouraged" A father will correct a son in whom he delights, Prov. 3: 12. Fathers, Fathers, God instructs you to deal in a calm manner with your children by nurturing and loving them. You need to show them respect! If you only succeed in making a child angry by berating them by yelling at them then they will be discouraged and not learn, they will rebel. You are to instruct them to be obedient to God and to their parents. A father must correct or discipline their children when it is necessery. Punishment is not the same as discipline! Discipline teaches, punishment kills the spirit!

It is also the Husband and Fathers responsibility as head of the household to lead his household in Spiritual matters!

In short: Husbands, treat your wives and children with love and respect always caring for them financially, physically, emotionally, educationally and spiritually. It is your job as head of the household to see that your household is safe and secure in earthly and spiritual ways.

Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians.

It is the wives duty to remain with her husband both in body and mind. She has given herself to him (signed a contract on the day of marriage) and is not to have sexual relations with anyone else. She is not to fantasize about being with anyone else either. Her heart and mind beong to her husband, just as a Christians heart and mind belong to the LORD.

5: 33b .and the wife see that she reverence her husband."

Wives reverence means 1 : honor or respect felt or shown : deference; especially : profound adoring awed respect *(Merriam Webster Dictionary). This means you do not argue with your husband, you may calmly discuss a matter with your husband, but he has the final say! You do not disrespect his family, you do not have to like them but you never show them disrespect! You do not talk badly about them to him either!

Tim. 2:11-12, "She shall have no dominion over a man".

Wives keep their place! Wives do not try to take authority away from their husbands. If husbands say NO. It is no. No argument.

"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. "

Wives do not use sex as a weapon against your husband. Wives and Husbands own each others bodies. Do not disrespect each other.Sex is an element of bonding. Your body belongs to your husband, Just as a Christians body belongs to GOD. No good ever comes from using sex as a weapon. It only allows separation between a husband and wife. Do not with hold sex without discussing the reason with your husband, it should be by mutual agreement. God wants you to join together and feel the love between the two of you to heal any rift. AND husbands are told the same. Sex is never to be used immorally or as a weapon.

Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."

Wives are to be educators of young women on how to be wives. Not to abuse alcohol (I will add drugs) and to love their husbands and children. Not to be sexually impure, but to stay virgins until they are married. To keep their homes clean and to stay out of trouble. When they are married to be obedient wives, listening to their husbands ( remember husbands have been told how to treat their wives. Fairly, with love and never doing them any harm.)If these young women do not do this, they are going against the word of God.

1 Peter 3:1-2 "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear."

Wives once again you are instructed to listen to your husbands and do as they say because they have been given the place as head of the household by GOD. This means that you will be obeying God's word. If younger wives are not doing this and see that the older wives in the church are they may be won over by listening to their conversations about staying true only to their own husbands and to God out of respect and obedience to GOD ALMIGHTY.

Wives you are further told to care for your home. You are to keep it clean and inviting. You are to prepare meals for your family and see their maintenance needs. This does not mean that your husband and children CAN NOT help. It means you are responsible to see that it is done!

If your husband is gentle, loving, respectful of you he will offer his hand to help you!

If your husband is teaching the children as he is supposed to about responsibility they will be set a list of chores by him.

I Pray that this Hub will help many husbands and wives. It is a wonderful way to live with harmony in the household. There are very few things to argue about if husbands and wives follow these commands set by GOD. I know, my husband and I live them.

We attend A local Community Church. We are simply Christians who believe in God. I love my husband and respect him. I chose this way of living. It works.