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How to Save Your Marriage in 15 Ways

Entering and breaking up a marriage is definitely easier than keeping the marriage intact. Nevertheless, a broken family is no good to anyone so if you think there's still a chance to salvage your marital relationship with your husband, here's what you can do.

1. Apologize.

A lot of petty misunderstandings end up being blown all out of proportion simply because one or both of you are unable to admit your mistakes and apologize. Don't let yourself be bothered by who apologizes first. At the end of the day, you'll remember that it really doesn't matter just as long as you and your partner stay happy.

If you're going to apologize, do so humbly and sincerely.

2. Give each other space.

Contrary to popular opinion, having a cool-off period is not always a prelude to divorce or annulment. Sometimes, quarrels ensue because too much proximity and togetherness make both of you blind to the truth. Give yourselves space. Spend a bit of time apart just so you can allow your heads to cool off, for the scars of hurtful words and actions to fade, and for your common sense to come back.

3. Put the spark back in your marriage.

Spending years together as a couple doesn't mean that the spark in your relationship has to die. Married couples may end up being bored with each other not because the spark's gone but because either or both no longer put as much effort as they did in the past in keeping their partner happy and showing their love.

Putting the spark back does not of course mean you have to do something naughty or exotic. All you have to do is remember the good times you and your partner has shared and think of ways to get that back again.

4. Don't assume your partner knows your mind.

And then there are those individuals who assume that their partners are aware and reassured of their feelings just because they've said "I love you" the first time around. This is one of the silliest mistakes you can do.

Your partner can't read your mind. Don't assume that he or she is aware that everything you do is for the sake of your relationship. It's quite sad when people who genuinely love each other end up suffering from neglect simply because they haven't taken the time to constantly remind themselves of their love. Words of endearment are for free so do take advantage of them once in a while!

5. Know how to prioritize.

Marriages also fail because either or both partners don't know how to prioritize. If you want to save your marriage then you must acknowledge and respect its value in your life. Give it the attention it deserves. Earning a living for the betterment of your family is a noble goal, but so is keeping your family together. Both of you must let each other feel that your marriage is one of the most important things in your life - certainly, more important than your work. Learn how to manage your time effectively, making sure to allot the appropriate amount of time for the things that you care about most. And yes, that does include your marriage.

6. Always aim for equality.

Just because you're earning more than your spouse doesn't mean you should be the one wearing the pants in your marriage and that you should always be followed. Those pants must be unisex. Equality is very important in a marriage. You must treat your partner with equal respect regardless of whatever failings he may have outside your marriage.

7.Discuss problems rationally.

So you have a problem that makes both of you very touchy. That doesn't mean both of you have the right to say deliberately harmful things about each other. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. Anger has a way of making your common sense disappear and forcing you to say things you don't really mean. It's important to exert conscious effort to discuss things rationally. Give each other time to speak. Take turns and do your best to listen with an open mind.

8. Stay faithful.

Last but not the least, never ever practice infidelity! This is one of those things that your married partner, man or woman, will rarely understand. This is the ultimate betrayal and when you do this, it's hard to win back your partner. It's hard but not impossible. If this is what's causing your marriage to fall apart, you still have a chance of repairing the damage you've caused but only if you're sincere and willing to atone for it - even if you've already been forgiven.

9. Learn how to forgive

The most common reasons why two people end up divorcing is infidelity, faults of the other partner, and differences. What is a sin so big you can't forgive? Actually, if you love the person enough and you feel that he loves you back, forgiving can be a very easy task. Before you decide for the dissolution of your marriage, give yourself a break from it all. See how much you still love a person that you are willing to forgive his mistakes. And try to feel how much your partner still loves you by the way he asks for forgiveness.

10. Admit your mistakes.

The truth hurts, but the truth is also liberating. The best way to solve things is to admit your mistakes and move on from there. If you don't admit your mistakes then you will lose the trust of your partner. With it, you also lose the chance to save your relationship.

11. Try not to dwell on the faults.

All people have their own faults. And no matter how bad your partner is, you will still end up with another person that has a room full of them. The trick is to weigh which faults you cannot stand and which faults you can live with. Don't make your partner's faults bigger than life. There are still worse things that could happen. For as long as you are not hurt, used, and abused by your partner, the marriage should still be fine.

12. Do not blame each other

Blaming each other will do you no good! It's rare for relationships to have problems wherein one of the partners is completely to blame. But even so, blaming will only make things worse. If you want to save your relationship, skip the blaming part and move on to the part where you find the best resolution for your problem.

13. Get counseling.

Sometimes, couples themselves can't solve their problems on their own. For these cases, a marriage counselor would be your best bet. Let the counselor explain things to both of you after hearing your individual stories. He or she should be able to give you sound, professional advise about the struggles the two of you are going through. If you heed your counselor's advise without doubts or complaints, it would almost always work for both of you.

14. Get support from families and friends.

No marriage would work if families and friends were not a strong force inside a marriage. Strong force doesn't mean influence against the marriage's good intentions. Families and friends should be the first people who are in favor of making the marriage to work. They should help the couples fight their way through. Keep your real friends near. And for the others that are against your marriage in the first place, don't ask them for advices. If you want to save your marriage, try to do it with friends who genuinely want to help.

15. Understand

When it comes to saving marriages, understanding is always the biggest factor. If you can't understand your mate, there's no way the two of you can resolve your personal differences. For such cases, saving the marriage could just be the hardest thing in the world.

Marriage is still the most intimate relationship of two people. If a couple agrees to get married, that means that they are willing to make sacrifices for each other in order to preserve the bond that goes between them. However, marriage is not as hallowed as that today like it was before. People get in and out of marriage for the wrong reasons. And there are a lot of people who think that marrying another entails nothing more than being his companion. Sometimes, people have to grow up and mature rather than leave themselves trapped in a high school mentality. These are the very things that make marriage disposable.

Amy Waterman designed " Save My Marriage Today" to be the most practical, easy-to-follow and comprehensive system available for people like you, in a marriage crisis, who wish to rescue their marriage and get back on track to a healthy, long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Thousands of people worldwide, just like you, have used her unique methods to put themselves on the marriage rescue fast-track, while regaining their inner happiness in the process. Will you be next?"

Now, if there's even the slightest chance to save your marriage then you owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to save it. There's a superb course that will help you put the love and respect back into your marriage, all you have to do is be brave enough to follow it. It's called Save My Marriage Today just click on the link to read a review of the course.

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