Help for Victims of Cyber-Bullying
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Tragic Stories of Cyberbullying/Internet Predators
- Dr. Phil : Cyber Bullies
- The Surviving Parents Coalition: Member Bios: Mary Kozakiewicz
Mother of Alicia Kozakiewicz, who was abducted by an internet predator in 2002.
What is Cyberbullying?
"Cyberbullying involves the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others." -Bill Belsey (cyberbullying.org)
CYBER TIPLINE
To make an anonymous tip to The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, go to their CYBER TIPLINE
According to the NCMEC, "The Congressionally-mandated CyberTipline is a means for reporting crimes against children including:
- Possession, manufacture, and distribution of child pornography
- Online enticement of children for sexual acts
- Child prostitution
- Sex Tourism Involving Children
- Extrafamilial Child Sexual Molestation
- Unsolicited Obscene Material Sent to a Child
- Misleading Domain Names
- Misleading Words or Digital Images on the Internet
Reports may be made 24-hours a day, 7 days a week online at www.cybertipline.com or by calling 1-800-843-5678. "
Stop, Block and Tell
Parry suggests to victims that once you encounter a cyberbully, here is what to do:
STOP typing. Stand up a physically move away from your computer.
BLOCK the person
TELL a trusted adult, immediately
Record of this Information is helpful to law enforcement
TO REMOVE A HARMFUL WEBSITE
First contact the Social Networking Site or Network Provider (texting). If you don't receive a timely response don't wait! Do screen prints, save texts, copy down the URL's and screen names and contact the CYBER TIPLINE.
You can also contact cyberbullying specialist, Parry Aftab, Esq. Aftab is a lawyer and advocate for anti-cyberbullying. In one televised interview, a cyberbully victim recounted that Ms. Aftab was able to pull down a bully site in 15 minutes from the parents' call.
Parry Aftab is also the founder of anti-cyberbullying campaign group called Teen Angels. Lead by Aftab, this group of former cyberbullying victims speak out to children and teens about how to protect themselves from cyberbullying and how to handle a cyberbully.
Parry's Other Sites on Cyberbullying:
Cyber 911 Wired Safety
Parry's Guide To Cyberbullying
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More information on how to STOP cyberbullying: StopCyberbullying.org
HELP AROUND THE WORLD
As always, your local police can direct you to whom you need to speak with to rectify a cyberbully situation. In the U.S, Cyberbully cases have gone all the way up to the Federal Bureau of Investigation, the U.S.'s top law enforcement acency. (Specific contacts in each country were not available)
Australia: Bullying, No Way!
Canada: ----Safe Canada.ca----Cyberbullying.ca----
United Kingdom: Wired Safety
These were the only countries that I could find cyberbully information from...I will keep looking though! TBC...
Norton Family Online-SpyWare
Using a "spy tool" for home computers connected to the internet is a MUST these days. Although social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook have implemented "keep children safe" tools on their sites, the internet is NOT a safe place, yet.
Use an online service and/or software to help monitor your children's online activites. Keep in mind, cyberbullies and predators are aware of this technology and can thwart your attempts to keep your children safe online.
The BEST way to prevent cyberbullying is to have open communication with you children about which sites they like to visit. If you do not have luck there, you will need to manually check the history and do your "homework" on your child's online activities. By coupling the legwork with the internet spyware you will be able to successfully protect your child from cyberbullies and predators.
A free online service to help monitor online activities.
Set up your FREE account here: Norton Family Online
Here is information on software for tracing IP addresses (To find out where the harasser is) Network Tracer
On a Side Note, How Ridiculous!
A Cyberbully student sues her high school Principal for "freedom of speech" infringment. Article.
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Comments
This is vital information and this Hub should be recommended and spread by all of us. I'll post it on my FaceBook page and Twitter later today and add a link to it in my blogs within the next few days.
We now need one with similar information for UK parents - and any other country really, with contact phone numbers and details.
Thank you Teresa, and Iphigenia...I am on it! These editions are on the way
It is very important for parents to keep an eye on there kids online behavior but at the same time they shouldn't be too intrusive too. It is a delicate balancing act raising teenagers :D
This just doesn't happen the children and teens but adults too. Great information! Thanks for the Hub!
I am going to send this to all I know ,really useful and informative hub.
Lady, I would be very interested to hear cases of adult cyberbullying. I hadn't thought about adults being victims too, but it totally makes sense. Adults will have even more of a backlash from untrue information posted (Employers, Clients, Church etc...) Great point!
Look in the Hubbers Hangout. There are two threads about Cyberbullying and Stalking.
Thank you Lady Guinevere
Great and informative piece, thank you. It's sad to know that these things are so prevalent. But if they tread on me I have enough media and other connections that they would wish they never owned a computer.
Again thanks for the terrific Hub
Thanks Sandman. Yes, sometimes I wish one of these bullies would try this on me... they would never bully anyone else after that. It is so unfortunate that these victims are mostly young, impressionable teens who do know how to stop it. Hopefully they find this hub and see how to stop it.
I am an adult victim of cyberbullying I believe BY A LAWYER!!
She imagined something I posted on a forum to be of detriment to her friend and posted a negative remark on my Facebook profile page. Mind you, this woman is an attorney and is 40 years old. She never contacted me about the post. She just ranted and ranted on the post on FB and at the forum. It has been a nightmare for me. She then deleted me as a friend on FB. I never got the opportunity to tell my side or defend my actions. She just tore into me with:
"Hi XXXXXX. I just wanted you to know how disappointed I was when I read the thread you started at www.debateandrelate.com.
You took my good friend’s private, painful problem, posted it in a public forum, and then proceeded to mock her, calling her crazy, making crude sexual comments and jokes.
Yes, you removed her name. But it did not take a mental titan to instantly realize to whom you were referring. Frankly, I was appalled.
What you did may not have violated any rules at that particular website. And doing such things may have been entertaining to you. But what you did was immoral, cruel, and completely classless. Frankly, you should be ashamed. You owe my friend an apology. There is absolutely NO excuse for your conduct.
I am telling you this on your wall because at this point, I don’t believe you deserve the courtesy of privacy. For what it is worth, I think you should use more discretion on the internet in future. Do onto others. . ."
I can longer be at the forum or on facebook for I feel so violated.
Nonames: Thank you for sharing your story. I am absolutely shocked that a grown woman would take such offense to an anonymous comment you may/or may not have made within a forum. Her choice to defame you on your FB page is inexcusable. She said herself that you were not using names in the forum. Bottom line, if the lawyer did not want anyone to pass judgement on her friend, she should have kept the information private like her friend undoubtedly wanted her to. I would be very interested to know if the lawyer's friend found the post and realized the lawyer aired her dirty laundry. This seems like a classic case of projection. The lawyer feels embarrased and ashamed so now she wants to make it YOUR problem.
I just wanted to say my piece on this. It would be great if you made print-outs of everything and contacted a lawyer (different one of course)about a defamation suit. She has embarrased you on your very own Facebook page where you probably have many friends, family and networks set up through there. Your personal identity has been tarnished not just to you, but to your Facebook contacts. I hope she doesn't think she can get away with this.
Best of luck!















Teresa McGurk says:
8 months ago
Great information -- parents should bookmark this one. Thumbs up.