"What becomes of the broken hearted;who has love that's now departed. I know I've got to find; some kind of peace of mind, Baby"  He is probably just not that into you.  You may just have to face the music or his music whatever the case may be. 

Those are the lyrics of a popular song of years gone by but the condition still exist today. To be broken hearted is to be disconnected to the one that you may have loved dearly. This condition is mostly found in women because of their propensity to give of their hearts to someone who they feel have the same feelings towards them. When these heartfelt feelings of love are not returned or if the relationship is broken, then the woman in love sinks to feeling less of herself as a person. Feelings are basically what being broken hearted is about. The woman's feeling has been hurt tremendously and she suddenly finds herself in the land of the brokenhearted. What is she to do to get her self out of this self-defeating state because the one person who use to complete her world has walked away into the arms of another?

The worse thing to do is to let him know that he was responsible for breaking your heart. Even though men are thought of as insensitive, believe it or not, they distinctly knows when they have hurt your feelings with a heart break. eep you distance away from him and do not try to hold on to something that is no longer true for one or both of you. Whatever you do, do not play Jerry Springer on him and show up on his door step with your high heels shoes in your hands ready to bop him.

As superficial as women's magazines may be, the advice from these publications can lighen the load of all of those bad feelings tumbling down on you. This is the time for you to get to know yourself as an individual of worth again without the partner you thought you could not exist without. Pull yourself up from the dark days of being alone once again and start enjoying going places and meeting with your friends. Get your credit card out and treat yourself to a dinner out at your favorite restaurant. Feeling better is worth the small investment of enjoying a meal someone else prepared for you. Whatever you do, do something. Don't just sink there with the blinds closed in the dark trying to figure out what went wrong or even worse, what did you do wrong. For some apparent reason the two of you were not meant to be together or you will still be together.

The person who broke your heart is probably out with his buddy having fun and enjoying the freedom from having to stay connected to a girlfriend. So the best thing to do is to return the favor and get with your girlfriends and start having fun again. In any relationship, one of you anticipated that the relationship was going to end sooner or later. Relationships do not just end all of a sudden like Suddenly Salad. There are alway certain warning signs and as the woman in the relationship, the sensors are usually on the female. So like the old saying go, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't get caught up with the one that got away. Like Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, if there is any getting back together, the damage would have been done and the reunion will not last.

Broken hearted land, would be a good place to recommit yourself to being the best person you can be and get involved in church, community or national affairs. Even if you are not a democrat or did not vote for President Barack Obama, you can find change in your life. Now would be a good time to find that change in your life and to get on with it to your new beginnings and to the new you.

What becomes of the broken hearted, who has love that has now departed? She finds herself a new love like Jody Watly used to sing and get on with the business of her life. Do not waste money on professional counseling unless the relationship was a marriage and you lost a lot of yourself when you lost your mate. The best defense is a good offense. Your offense in the land of the broken hearted stay busy with your interest, to get up and running, and like Hilary Clinton said in the primaries, to immulate Harriet Tubman and to keep going.