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Helping a Friend Who is a Bad Dresser

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By bingskee

WHAT IS BAD DRESSING?

In simpler words, bad dressing is dressing in bad taste.  This happens when a person chooses the wrong type of dress for his or her personality, or age, or size, or the improper outfit for an occasion, or the wrong color matches for one’s pairs of clothing and accessories, or the inconsistent match ups against a current fashion trend.


TRYING TO HELP

You cannot change a person straight away and if you will force the change, there will be a strain in the relationship. Do it little by little and let the person decide if he or she needs the change. How do you tell a friend therefore that he or she is a bad dresser?

  1. Decide on how to let your friend know that the dress does not fit her or him, or that the dress is really in bad taste. Perhaps your friend really does not know how to dress right, or do not simply care how he or she looks like.
  2. Know if you have the guts to be truthful to him or to her. It is very possible that he or she will be hurt or be offended. You will definitely not spend that much time just to manage the way your friend dresses but are you ready to be truthful and say the truth? How will you make the relationship intact after telling the truth?
  3. Buy something that you know he or she will like. That way your friend will try a different style and will probably appreciate it if it matches her taste.
  4. Go with him or her when shopping and tell your friend what type of dresses you like on him or her.
  5. When with him or her, you can mention a part of your friend’s body that needs improvement. You can encourage him or her to make an effort of improving that part of the body that will also improve the way he or she dresses. Your friend will truly appreciate this effort.
  6. Repeat reminders number 3 and 4 after several months. You will definitely see a change in your friend’s style. He or she will begin to adapt to the new style of dressing and will be alert in choosing the right clothing for him or her.
  7. Be ready to compromise. If they are ready to change just to make you happy then it’s good.
  8. Be sensitive. You have to know that your friend has his or her own identity and they will not choose a dress that they will feel not comfortable with. Do not therefore force him or her to choose an outfit he or she is uncomfortable with. You have to be sensitive of your friend’s choices, too. You are only there with your friend as a guide.
  9. Do not try to change his or her traits. It is your friend’s decision to change.
  10. Remember that whatever a style means to a person depends on the person. Always let her be comfortable though you share some tips in dressing right.
  11. Be patient enough to always share your knowledge though your friend cannot take constructive criticism that well. At least, you gave an effort of saving her or from bad impressions.

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barryrutherford profile image

barryrutherford  says:
5 months ago

I really love your articles well done !

natureheals profile image

natureheals  says:
5 months ago

Telling your friend that he or she dresses funny is hard and your tips really encourage people to approach them in a more gentle way. (Because you can't just tell them they look bad) Thanks for the tips!

bingskee profile image

bingskee  says:
5 months ago

thank you for appreciating, barry! :-)

not really easy, natureheals. thanks for visiting. :-)

Julie-Ann Amos profile image

Julie-Ann Amos  says:
5 months ago

Nice hub thanks! Like the pictures!

Leader Writing profile image

Leader Writing  says:
5 months ago

I think the friends personality determines which strategy stands the better chance of working, but the only person we can change is ourself, so the friend has to want to change for any stratagey to be effective.

I must say, anything that anyone can do to keep people from wearing sleepwear in public has my blessing! Very nice hub on a timely subject.

bingskee profile image

bingskee  says:
5 months ago

thank you, julie-ann!

very true and i agree, leader writing. the friend should also want to change but a friend can help by being a guide. thank you for sharing your thoughts.

DoodleLyn profile image

DoodleLyn  says:
5 months ago

Nice hub, bingskee. I always find it awkward addressing this issue with friends. your hub gave me some ideas that I will try. I certainly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but try to be honest when asked about an opinion.

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