Are you asking yourself this question right now?

How do I get my husband back? How do I save my marriage?

If these thoughts are going through your mind then naturally it is safe to assume that your husband has left you emotionally or has physically left the home. You're devastated and are not interested in divorce. You want your husband back right?

There is hope. There is no such thing as an impossible situation when your husband appears to be indifferent and not interested in any counseling or even trying to make it work. He is for better or worse... done with you.

There is work to be done and it's very possible to save your marriage.

You may be thinking to yourself that in this situation of a man who does not wish to join you in counseling, or even remotely try to work at saving the marriage...

...how do you get your husband back?

The first step in the initial separation is not to argue, fight, plead, beg or otherwise panic. When the first stage of a break up, divorce, or separation is suggested by your husband, the first reaction for any wife is uncontrollable emotions and panic. This leads to some very emotional outbursts and arguments or desperate pleading.

This will create a situation where your husband is pushed away even further and just wants to get out faster. You are an emotional wreck and it is sometimes impossible not to behave devastated when that is exactly what you are. Devastation is such a lousy feeling that you can't help it but this is important to at least try and practice. Simply do not panic, cry, or to the best of your ability "appear" to be distressed.

This will damage your chances of getting your husband back. I understand why women do this and it makes perfect sense. It's actually natural human behavior in the panic stage to grab on tight and try not to lose something you adore. Your brain is not willing to let go and convinces you the second he walks out the door it's over and completely hopeless. It FEELS like a death but you have to try hard not to be a wreck.

First stage... give him his space and time he needs. You have to allow this time for him to actually miss you where you are not calling, texting, stalking, or otherwise doing things that are in desperate nature. Cease all communication in the beginning... just for now at least. Any communication can lead to uncontrollable sobbing and even arguments. These will hurt your case and push him farther away from you. You're the woman he's trying to get away from right now and understand that these are likely some of the reasons he wants out of the marriage.

Simply give him the time he needs. This will work a psychological effect where once he realizes this... "Hey.. my wife hasn't called me all week, or even tried to contact me. I wonder what she's doing?" (then the thoughts of insecurity and possible affairs pop in his head) Now he thinks to himself... "she doesn't want me? ...how come she's not even tried to call once??!... what the heck is going on?!"

Take it from a man's perspective. It's not correct in every situation, but this is typically the stereotypical nature of a man's thought process.

Understanding the reason this happens is a powerful human emotion. We want what we can't have. Simple as that. Mind you... HE's the one that left. HE's the one that can't be around you and wants to end the marriage. YOU'RE the one that's devastated ...right?

Suddenly, he finds himself in a situation of not being around you and he has no heard from you. What could possibly be the reason that you have not pestered bickered or nagged him and begged, pleaded, or cried relentlessly to return home? Now his mind is going wild. This is simple stuff and this method works magic.

A wife who acts irrationally and panicked is not attractive in her husband's eyes. And if you truly want to know how to get your husband back, then you need to start off with not calling, texting, following, or arguing all of the time. Give him space, and stop all contact for a little while.

Once you can manage this phase then you can work on a blueprint and total plan for getting your husband back and lay out the steps