How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls
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Cultural Society Places a Man's Opinion of Beauty on the Forefront
Unattractive guys get gorgeous girilfriends and beautiful women because of a cultural society that places a man's opinion on the forefront and overshadows that of a woman's. Also the cultural society places enormous pressure on a woman to be gorgeous. The newsstands are inundated with airbrushed models and photo shopped cosmetic advertisements. Most women magazines instead of providing information about job promotions are focusing on relationships and beautification products and procedures. Men's literature has more substance and less information about beautification although there is no restraint on showing the barely nude pictures of gorgeous women.
To better understand why unattractive guys get gorgeous girlfriends, take a look through Maxim magazine which is a lightweight copy of Playboy gentleman's magazine. Each page had gorgeous girls basically just draping the pages for no apparent reason than to be sexually appealing to the guys. If you were to do research on the accomplishments of these girls,you may find out that their credentials included a spread in Playboy or that they "earned" the cover of Sports Illustrated. Women beauty is played up in these gentlemen magazines and there are few ads for "handsome" enhancement products for men. Then look on any opposite page of these gorgeous girls in Maxim and you will see a guy eating fried foods in a rumbled shirts talking about how gorgeous the girls are and voicing their sexual intentions because of these gorgeous girls' loveliness.
Men in the American Culture do not Strive to be Sex Symbols
As in real life, there is no response or text from these gorgeous girls on what they think about the guy with the unkempt hair and the rumpled clothes. Men in American society are not viewed to be sex symbols except in the movies but most men do not strive to be Brad Pitt or to look like George Clooney. What women want to look like is starring up at them from airbrushed gorgeous girls on magazine covers. Dating women and other women began skimping on calories to get gorgeous.. Women are spewing sweat at their local gyms in an effort to be as gorgeous as the magazine covers of Cosmopolitan and Vogue.
Men because of the norms of society do not think of themselves as attractive or as unattractive. Most men characterize themselves in America with their earning power. These men attractive or unattractive would love to have a beautiful fast driving convertible sports car. And guess what girls, no man wants to be driving that flashy red Ferrari with an empty seat beside him. Regardless of his looks, because of his earning power, most men will approach a gorgeous girl. The gorgeous girl would look at his personality and not at his looks. There is something about a man whether he is attractive or not without regarding his actual looks that makes him attactive to gorgeous women.
Gorgeous Women Thinks That The Strength of a Man and His Practical Nature is Worth the Relationship
Most gorgeous women thinks that the strength of a man and his practical nature is worth being in a relationship regardless of his looks. The norms of society has an effect on who women attract. Society places less emphasis on looks for men and places more emphasis on how gorgeous or beautiful the woman is.
Most Men Characterize Themselves in American with Their Earning and Spending Power
Men because of the norms of society do not think of themselves as attractive or as unattractive. Most men characterize themselves in America with their earning power. These men attractive or unattractive would love to have a beautiful fast driving convertible sports car. And guess what girls, no man wants to be driving that flashy red Ferrari with an empty seat beside him. Regardless of his looks, because of his earning power, most men will approach a gorgeous girl. The gorgeous girl would look at his personality and not at his looks. There is something about a man whether he is attractive or not without regarding his actual looks that makes him attactive to gorgeous women
Julia Roberts and Whitney Houston Married Unattractive Men - Both Marriages Did Not Last
Remember how shocked the world was when gorgeous Julia Roberts married that guy who was not all that attractive. They eventually got divorced. Rememberhow the world waited for the divorce to finally happen after gorgeous Whitney Houston married Bobby Brown. Gorgeous women do not look for their men to be attractive. Gorgeous women looks for someone who they think they can mold into a better person or who comes equipped with a pleasing and pleasant personality.
Unattractive men on the other hand, because of the strength of their gender and society's attaboy for them to be in control of most situations chooses to corral whoever they please. Because of their earning power or lack of earning power, these unattractive men chooses gorgeous women. Gorgeous women caught up in society's trap to have her beauty recognized and complimented with the attention of a man without regard to lhis looks, takes the bait as an atonement for her efforts to get gorgeous.
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I have to concur with Hmrjmr1...
Besides women are a competitive lot that focus on their own advantage... When women where placed on the Madonna pedestal what you say might have been the case because they had that image of themselves; but today women are as confused as guys and just as dissatisfied.. I think that's what your really seeing from your perspective ~ Its time to give the average guy a shot all the others are self seeking; but the average guy can be just as big of an ass...
Trial and error is the only way, do your homework first, get to know each other as friends; the blind lust is just that...Fun but counter productive...
You should have more hits on this one you need to advertise it on twitter...
Have fun be happy its all an experiment...
I think you men missed the whole point. Women don't seek attractive men as men seek attractive women. Both of you are not attractive to my taste but yet am sure you get women.
Women first look at a man if he can care, nuture and love her and bring home the bacon to care for the kids and her.
Men the first thing they see in a woman, is the physical, the outside and before it reaches thier brains it is the brain of the penis first.
Men lust first, then lust..women love first then lust. Men don't need love to live with a woman as long as she is great in bed.
I have interviewed women who were and are with unattractive men and it is the strenght, kindiness,caring, nuturing and the attention these men gave them as if they were the only woman in the world that attracted them. That it was their inner beauty that attracted them, the physical wasn't all that important.
But men is the contrary..the only time men have told me they married unattractive women was to have kids, sex and no other man wanted them.
The only man that will truly seek a woman for her inner beauty is a true Christian..otherwise men of the world seek only the outer beauty and if she is good in bed.
Actually, men will sleep with women whether they are attractive or not.. not real women. Real women will sleep with a man because she loves him and hopes by giving herself to him that he will love her in return. But most of the time..it's just a one-time stand.
Great hub girl..you hit it right on the nail..
Ioua, thank you for your comment. I appreciate that although you disagree with the article you offered to have "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girl" Twittered. Read the comment that I sent to Hmrjmr1 as you both concurred with your opinions of the article.
DancingRedFeather, thank you for your comment. Wow! You nailed it when it came to what is attractive to a man and what is attractive to a woman. The nurturing will win a woman if the man looked like the Geiko GEICO commercial reptile. Seriously, there is definitely a difference in the attraction analyzer when it comes to men and women.
Are we all saying that men and women are *different* ?
Hey, is there going to be a followup hub: "How Unintelligent women snag Intelligent Husbands"?
nicomp, thank you for your comment. We are all saying that men and women are different is a given. Mostly what women are saying is although there are basic differences, they need to look further than just the woman's image and should look into the sensitivities that they are welcome to use.
Aya Katz, thank you for your comment. If "How Unattractive Men Get Gorgeous Women" was to be changed to focus on intelligence, the playing field would have been leveled. But content is king online and only if you want your Google Adsense earnings to dip would you speak on that subject.
There are a host of intelligent women out there and the majority of them are doing the same work for less pay. But again, that statistical data has become a norm of society as well. They are saying that women interrupting their careers to start families is one of the reasons for this fact.
That is a subject of another hubpage article but with not much content.
LindaGoffigan, actually the equal opportunity goes both ways. There are smart men and smart women. There are also gorgeous men and gorgeous women. But smart does not always attract smart, and gorgeous does not always run after gorgeous.
Some women who are not all that attractive themselves end up with better looking husbands or boyfriends. Some women who are super smart end up with men of moderate intelligence. (And vice versa.)
A famous example that comes to mind is Ayn Rand. She was intelligent and successful and married to a very good looking man who was not nearly as smart as she was. She also took a lover much younger than herself, who was better looking than she was, but not nearly as intelligent.
Now, exactly why would your Google earnings go down if you mentioned this?
Aya Katz, thank you for your comment. Who is Ayn Rand again?
Hmmmm sometimes yes and sometimes no
Lisa Hess, thank you for your comment. Curious response.
Linda quit tellin em all my secrets !
tony0724, thank you for your comment. Do you know what your are admitting to?
I tend to poke fun at myself as I think alot of people here take themselves waaaaayyy to seriously ! :D
It's all about ATTRACTION! Most women only rate looks as 20% of what makes a man attractive.
hmm, I don't know where this info came from, but I also don't agree. I think these are general stereotypes but certainly not true for all men and women. nor does one have to be Christian as one commenter says to look for a partner with inner beauty!!
Ayn Rand was (is) a famous author who has sold more than 25 million copies of her most notable books, The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged.
Interesting Hub, there are many angles to this topic.
We as women are indeed competitive but is that because the number of eligible interesting men is decreasing? Perhaps it is because women seek something other than "eye candy" and women seek a partner with substance that we place little importance on men's physical attributes.
It all goes back to our DNA and our desire to find a mate that is suitable for child-rearing (even if we don't want children).
A man will seek a beautiful woman because he want to add that said beauty to his lineage. Women want a man with substance because she will be stuck with that man if she does become pregnant; also it may be important to find a good, intelligent man with personality rather than good looks because she may seek a man who can provide for her and her children (again, based upon human DNA factors, not necessarily because all women want kids).
A great debate that I am sure will go on indefinitely!
Filipino girls, thank you for your comment. Interesting take on saying that women rate attractiveness at 20% for men. What is the rating percentage of men rating women on attractiveness. Uhmmm?
rebekahELLE, thank you for your comment. Also thank you for telling Hubbers who is Ayn Rand.
Jennifer D., Thank you for your comment. I agree 100% with your response. I also agree with you that "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls" is an evergreen topic that is open for lively debate and is endless.
The bottom line or the moral of the story is what works best for both couples involved and what is important to them works everytime. In the long run, however, as you said women select their men more on substance than looks.
Most men rate looks as 80% to 90% of what makes a woman attractive, but then most men don't act on what they feel to approach the woman :(
So what's your personal take on this Linda? I'm intrigued to know.
Filipino girls, thank you for your comment. My personal take on "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls" is that you are absolutely right. Men place a higher percentage on attractiveness than women. You comment is much appreciated.
Are you writing a psychology paper for a really liberal female professor? I suspect if you were to ask people in their 30s and 40s (my guess is that you're in your 20s, early to mid) to write this same article, you'd get a different response, one more in line with the reality and not psycho-pop-science. Sorry, but it needs to be said.
It's hard not be entirely rude while trying to correct someone, but guys need to learn something from this article. I'm an unattractive guy who has always been lucky enough to have long-term relationships with gorgeous girls. I am thankful that women who take the time to learn about what a guy has to offer are able to overlook physical imperfection (unlike men, myself included). They tell me that the qualities they like in me are my confidence, my easy smile, my positive attitude towards all things, my desire to learn grow and improve my life, and that I have taken mere interests and applied myself with these to the point of being really good at them. Oh, and I'm nice to the wait staff and I don't try to be cool or funny or something I'm not. I'm just comfortable with myself and am just as happy NOT being the center of attention as when I am.
Rob, thank you for your comment. Most guys think that they are unattractive. Most women just like the "nice"thing about guys that you seem to have. Your response and input into "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls" is greatly appreciated.
Sorry, but i'm not the norm. i like women who are fairly attractive, yet posess a brain and a unique ability to be versatile AND be able to correct my spelling errors....and i don't have a problem finding women to go out with me...and i'm reasonably attractive.
BTW - i love womens empowerment. i only wish it were a 2 way street, not just a matter of convienience.
Rob Dee, thank you for you comment. Are you saying that men should work towards women's empowerment as well as women when you said that you wish it was a two way street instead of a matter of convenience? I was a bit unsure of your last two statements.
All things being equal,(Be Honest Here) and I don't mean to put you on the spot and this is not the dating game but if one woman was more attractive, which one would you choose?
This is a really good hub. The topic is so worth discussing. Looks may not be the main factor, when the guy is warm and caring. Nothing wrong with a good personality. On the other hand, if the guy is great looking with a nice body, and a quiet sweetheart; nothing wrong with that.
As long as it works, it's fun and all that other stuff.
Great hub!
Hmmm....
It seems that for a lot of women, they talk a good game until they "need a big strong man to go get me a case of paper out of the back" If i say "no, that's sexist" then i'm the a-hole of the office....see what i mean? It's the same thing if i asked my assistant to fix me a cup of coffee....that's what i mean by a 2 way street and matter of conveineince.
And i would pick the brains over the looks....if average was the choice....i need to have a conversation with someone and i'd get bored eventually with just the looks....
believeinhim, thank you for your comment. I like your take on "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls." You comment is much appreciated.
Rob Dee, thank you for your comment. Also your explanation is much appreciated. So you are saying that if women want to use your strength then they should not reneign on offering their favors to you when it comes to office matters. The article was about relationship, but you explained what you were saying. That's good.
Most women have more than just being gorgeous to bring to a relationship. Most of these gorgeous women are actually attracted to men because of their own good character. You probably won't get bored in such a relationship unless the gorgeous girl is shallow.
Rob Dee, thank you for your comment. Also your explanation is much appreciated. So you are saying that if women want to use your strenght then they should not reneign on offering their favors to you when it comes to office matters. Most women have more than just good being gorgeous to bring to a relationship. Most of these gorgeous women are actually attractive to men because of their own good character. You probably won't get bored in such a relationship.
Haha, just thought I'd point out.. Your declaration of 'ugly' men to those women, might just happen to be their idea of 'attractive'. You write as if men with a good personality is a bad thing, and is far from being good enough.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Since when has there been a judge to say, "Ah! That girl! She's beautiful. But that man she is with, ew, he's hideous!" because to her, he might just happen to be the sexiest thing on the planet.
And, whether that is due to physical attractiveness or personality, who cares? Be with someone who makes you happy.
Want to blame someone for making women feel so inadequate? Blame consumerism, media and advertising.
As for men not getting the same deal as us and whining that its not fair... you're right, its not. But why would you want men to share the same fate as us and be bombarded with images of what they should look like? Address the issue of people becoming a product of their environment. Instead of always blaming the product, have a look at the environment first.
Relationships happen for so many reasons. But if a guy treats a lady like a queen as both Seal and Jayz do Heidi and Beyonce, she will be all his if she has some common sense; n if he is loaded with bucks all the better.
Linda (and others), thank you for your comments. Your responses are much appreciated. There are too many real-life examples of women going for the assholes while pushing the nice, "treat her like a queen" guys aside as a friend only for the "treat her like a queen" tactic to work. Of course, the article is titled "Gorgeous" and not "Gorgeous with a quality-thinking mind," because quality women don't play the games and usually find the good looking assholes distasteful.
We all know beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But that's the question that this article set out to answer: What makes a guy beautiful to gorgeous women. Since physical beauty is subjective, then one must consider other attributes. And many of these other attributes actually have a relatively common theme. This common theme is what guys need to know.
The challenge, of course, is for the good but unattractive guys to somehow garner the attention of the gorgeous women. And all I can suggest there is for the unattractive guys to NOT go to clubs because they will be constantly overlooked (or even laughed at). They need to find places where they can somehow show who they really are. They need to be able to have regular conversations, as an example, in order for women to see their better qualities. (One of the reasons why ugly musician guys can end up with a Julia Roberts or Christie Brinkley beauty). And even then, one can't be pushover nice. They must have their convictions and their own voice. Treat her like a queen, but expect and demand the same respect they give to her.
saraamos, thank you for your comment. "Blame consumerism, media and advertising." Done.
exellentte, thank you for your comment. I should add Heidi and Seal to the list as well.
Rob, thank you for the beautifully written response to "How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls." I especially like when you distinguished the treat her like a queen guys from the treat her like a queen tactic type of guy. You have soul and heart for the guy who have a gorgeous girl and may not be all that attractive and for the guys looking for a partner.
Your advice should be well received regardless of the attractiveness factor. Treat her like a queen works everytime, right girls.
My comment on this would have to be men see the wrong thing. Men seek beautiful women just as much as women seek handsome men. Have you ever sit back an noticed a gorgeous woman with an absolute geek, or not so handsome man. Well I have and it is pretty nasty, but that is my opnion. No matter what you are, who you are, or the way you look it is what is inside that counts. Does that man or woman play a special part in your life? Can you count on them as being your partner? It's very hard to say you can count on someone. When they meet that fold is when they shouuld be considered.
sabbatha1, thank you for your comment. You are saying that accountability is an important part of a relationship and your take on this topic is welcomed and appreciated.
Interesting...very interesting
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Remember, beauty is only skin deep, so if you have not got past the surface you should not be getting married. Any how, I don't think people get divorced over looks; usually other factors play into it.
DannieK, thank you for your comment.
Hohomn.., lindagoffigan, each comment makes your piece messier but nicer and very interesting; like an abstract painting. Now, I remember the Indian chant as he walked: "I want everything beautiful above me, beautiful below me, beautiful around me!" This lyrical guy has "content" too. Note, he said "beautiful", not "gorgeous". Maybe, the word "gorgeous" came in late. The former is deeper; the later is, well, it can refer to a dog, or a human being (excuse me). For us? We like everything beautiful around us! Thanks, I enjoy this.
tequilasunrise, thank you for your comment.
The topic, How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Women, flows beautifully with a play on the "G" sound in Guys, Get and Georgeous.
The word beautiful did not quite fit into the topic flow and more often than not the following response would have been universal: Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
The word gorgeous make people think more of attractiveness that has more to do with topical beautiful. If you notice, the word gorgeous were used to describe women. Women have the innate ability to find beauty everywhere around them including their men regardless of what other people consider attractive.
The latter sentence is the response probability of receipt from Julia Roberts, Whitney Houston, Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez and Heidi Klum.
Very quick reply! Well said, about the word "gorgeous". It is alive, more up to the point, a high impact description that triggers the imagination to jump! "Beauty", well, it can refer to a painting. I feel standing on quicksand with your piece Ms. Linda. Thank you!
tequilasunrise, thank you for your comment. You write your comment beautifully. When are you going to write hubbers a nice hubpage article. I would like to read something from you. Come on.
There are so many things to consider.I think at different ages of a mans life he is looking for different things in a future mate or spouse.When he is young he would love to have a sexy girl at his side and incredible in bed.Sometimes he realizes she has what he always wanted and finds out so many more things come into play.That maybe she is hot and sexy in bed but they just don't have things in common.So they soon grow out of love or lust.Maybe she wasn't the sexy girl he wanted but the sexy girls girlfriend since the hot sexy girl wouldn't give him the time of day.Soon he realized the other girl loved him more and was more beautiful in the inside.The guy being a good looking guy but not conceeded just wasn't given the chance since The gorgeous girl felt she could have anyone she wanted.She instead went after the bad guy who treated her like dirt like her father did.Thats a whole different ballgame.Maybe she always got everything she wanted and the down right jerk could careless if he lost her or not.She loved the challange.I think there are so many stereo types that put people in different catagories that hurts all men and women.The many ads that show a sexy girl with a handsome guy other guys don't even try thinking they have no shot at all.But in the end I think if you interviewed married couples and seen how and why they married and what kept them together.If you get to see the unattractive guys from the start or just after years of marriage????Interesting topic thanks for sharing.
there isnt anything wrong with whatever someones criteria for 'attractive' is.
good looks and a healthy body are generally 'attractive' to men, it makes sense biologically that we are programed to seek mates who are in excellent health to pass on our genes
the same can be said about women who find powerful or rich men attractive. Biologically, these men are more apt to be able to protect the woman and her children in such a way as to provide a safe environment for child rearing
we have no choice over what we are attracted to. Think about that for a moment.
Attraction is a pull, an emotion.
we are all just animals- and most of our behavior is biologically driven, as much as we would like to believe that we are above that.
anyone who wants to try and make themselves feel like they are somehow superior to or more noble than someone else because of something so silly as the criteria of what makes them drawn to another needs to stop taking themselves so seriously and remember that all of us are hairy mammals that will never be above our own biology.
btw- Julia Roberts is far from gorgeous. Her mouth is so big, I am always reminded of pac man. Case in point, she is 'gorgeous' because of her fame and popularity. Brad Pitt had a hard time hooking up with women before he became famous.
Everything is relative.
DREAM ON, thank you for your comment. Women reading your response are silently smiling to themselves because of the relevance of your comment. Sexiness in a woman is viewed more as a commodity in younger men. The test of the relationship is the longevity. The storyline you supplied was awesome. Your comment is much appreciated and thanks for sharing.
J-ART, thank you for your comment.
Your take on How Unattractive Men Get Gorgeous Women was quite raw when you compared the attraction factor to people classifed as animals. Human beings are considered mammals for scientific reasons and have most of the same procreation functions but the intellect is much higher that places them in dominion over the animals. So I take issue with that view.
Julia Roberts, Uhmmm ... I am going to say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. You just don't have a penchant for her lips but others may think that she is attractive in their mindset and in their own way.
About Brad Pitt, everyone knows about his hard times and how he made it from stratch and came to Hollywood with only a dream. So there may be truth to your story of not having good luck with the women at one point. I don't think that Brad Pitt considers himself attractive but why not ride on media hype if he gets 20 million per movie.
But as the article stated, very few men are aspiring to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney. Many women, howeve would like to look some of the singers, models and actresse pictured. Thanks for sharing.
Dating an attractive woman is a pain... Because everytime you go out with her there will be at least 10 other guys who try to get her attention. They will do anything to make you look like a fool... Beauty kills
Thank you for your comment.
This is very good site...
shiton, thank you for your comment. Welcome to hub pages.
shiton, thank you for your comment. Welcome to hub pages.
Im sorry but with some of the statements that women look whats on the inside and not the outside isn't always true. If your talking about looks this is usually true. But overall, women still look at a man from the outside first. One thing that comes in mind is how tall a guy is and this may signal whats down in his pants and/or security. Some women don't exactly give all guys a chance even if they do have a good heart. Women aren't exactly more perfect than men and I continuously talk to women that are friends and height always registers in there mind.
interesting theory
Eric, thank you for your comment.
Again, nothing is absolute and there are always exceptions. But for the most part, women are less sensitive to looks. Women are more likely than men to look for the core of a human being instead of the surface.
Men are visual and reports have been produced that say they act on their visual stimulants.
Women also have different preferences when it comes to height in men. Some tall women likes shorter men. Look at Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise, now she is married to Keith Urban. Both of these are short guys but each got gorgeous women.
You have yet to meet the woman that will look past that or maybe you are holding something that can not be changed against yourself. It is amazing how people have the tendency to set their own limitations or shortcomings which inhibits them from moving ahead or meeting new people.
Your comment is much appreciated.
ianbra55, thank you for your comment.
Its not about the looks a person has, maybe its about the
persons personality and the way they make the other person
feel.A man or woman can't do anything about the way GOD made
there face. People that arent really attractive on the outside didnt have a say in how they wanted to look during
the creation process in their mothers womb..
Zachariah, thank you for your comment.
Gee, I have strength of character, do not lack personality, and have a "practical side". I don't have any money to speak of and I am not exactly a "looker"! Where are all the good looking women in my life (LOL!).
I think that in case of Hollywood or the entertainment industry in general, most of these pairings are unions of status and money.
Looks don't matter if the person you are involved with can elevate your lifestyle, status, or contribute to your bank account. If you are a "D" list celebrity and get involved with someone who is an "A" then your "stock" goes up significantly.
Even those (in the entertainment industry) who have garnered money and wealth without their significant other will always seek out someone who is in the same business as they are, and have significant public exposure.
Do you think that Howard Stern could marry a woman like Beth Ostrosky if he was Howard Stern the bus driver? She is now more popular because of Stern.
I don't think so! I have not seen to many people from Hollywood who married or had a relationship someone outside the industry. It happens, but not often.
While your point is well taken in that there are some women who do look deeper then just skin level, I have to say that in least in my experience, most do not.
Women that I have met (not part of the entertainment industry) are looking for the complete "man package" of looks and money.
And older women, while they might "relax" their standards in terms of man's appearance are, at the very least, seeking security with a "man of means".
I am not saying that every women in the US is like that, but I will say that in this day and age - women do have very high standards - and in some cases - unrealistic ones.
Also, addressing the issue concerning women feeling the "pressure to be beautiful" I think that is something that is manufactured by the media. If you are a model then there is a major concern to be thin.
If there was an enormous amount of pressure for a women to be thin, we would not have an obesity problem in this country and the plus size industry would not exist.
Cosmo and Vogue don't seem to having an overwhelming effect (pressure) on women to be thin. Yes, some women take dieting to the extreme. But, I have never met a women who felt that she needed to have model good looks because of anything published in a beauty periodical. Maybe I am just naive!
I will say that men are motivated by the way a women looks. That is the initial attraction. But, in the long run, there has to be common values, good communication, compatibility, intelligence, unconditional love, and mutual respect.
Most men, at least those of substance, will not continue a long term relationship just because of beauty. Those who do stay with a women because of beauty alone will live a life of quiet desperation.
Just my 1/2 cents..
The Trade Show Display Guy..
How are you defining unattractive men or women?
The beauty is supposed to coming from the heart not the physical aspect materialized by money,dress and etc.
tradeshowpopup, thank you for your 1/2 cents worth that is really worth gold. Your comments were right on when you compared the entetainment industry pairing with regular people like you and I. You nailed it when you said that the union is mostly about money and status instead of looks. I am sure that readers are going to like your analogy of How Unattractive Guys attract Gorgeous Girls. Great comment well worth reading.
thibaut, thank you for your comment. How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous Girls was writtn on the pretext of a man meeting a woman for the first time without being in a relationship. Your comment is much appreciated.
Whether it's money, fame, good looks, something is attracting the person. But it's not one or two reasons. A poll says women are more attracted to humor, confidence, and trustworthiness than money.
And you portray guys as instinctive retards. I could care less what car I drive. I don't tell people how much I make as to not make others feel bad. And I like intelligent women.
Sorry but American culture is not all movie stars, pop music, attractive people, and expensive cars. That's like saying all ads are telling the 100% truth.
jlspartz, thank you for your comment.
How Unattractive Guys Get Gorgeous women is not about a 100% situation. The word, "all," was not used in the article because there is a major fallacy in using that all inclusive word.
Celebrites were used because most people have kownledge of these people and provided an excellent way to support the premise of the topic. Your comment is greatly appreciated.
Hmrjmr1 says:
4 weeks ago
This one is way off kiddo, the pressure placed on women is done by their competitive nature, with each other. It's in the genes not the jeans. Wake up, get the chip off your shoulder. If you want to empower women, teach them how to say no to a bad mate and pick a good one, based on what the guy demonstrates in his character.