How Men Attract Women Without Saying a Word?

You like them clean cut, and you like them scruffy. You like the muscle men or you like them with a few love handles. Yes ladies, your likes and dislikes range the gambit when it comes to your attraction to men. Question is, how do men figure out what you are attracted to?

Harder yet, how do some guys attract women without striking up a conversation?

The quick answer is that is there isn't a single answer. Visual appeal for women is the same as it is for men, although with women it usually goes beyond just the physical aspects of attraction. Women rely on far more than looks when it comes to stimulating attraction.

Whereas with men, we generally stop with the proverbial “36 – 24 – 36” rule since physical appearance is all we require. Here are just a few of the key characteristics a woman finds appealing that will draw her closer to her newest piece of “eye candy.”

The basic starting point is meeting the criteria of what the individual woman finds attractive. Women might like tall and built, or short and pudgy, who knows. Each woman has physical attributes that she finds attractive so we as men have little control over what she might find attractive. The only real option we have is hitting the gym, or going under the knife to shed that stubborn beer gut.

Does he have a great smile or great eyes? Does he have that special something that some women might be drawn to, like big biceps or a five o'clock shadow that separates him from the rest of the crowd?

Does he have an attractive woman accompanying him? A little known fact that men might not know is that a when a man and woman walk into a room together, the women who noticed their entrance will often look at the man's female companion first. Call it an alpha female response if you like, but most women will compare themselves to the female companion wondering if she is more or less attractive than her.

As you can see, there are many visual cues that can draw a woman's attention. Both men and woman use physical attraction as a screening process for potential partners, so obviously this is going to be a key, if not the main criterion for her to be attracted to newest man in her world.

Does he interact well with his friends? Do they appear to gravitate toward him? Does he receive handshakes or other pleasantries showing he is a well liked member of the group? Social status is often viewed as a positive for a woman who has not struck up a conversation with you because it is an indicator of how great a catch you really are.

What is his behavior like in the current setting? Are you mingling well or standing out like a sore thumb? If you're at a bar or club, women will not be attracted to the drunken moron making a fool of himself. Although, if he participates in a well orchestrated Top Gun like serenade of You've Lost that Lovin' Feeling, chances are she gave the man a few bonus points.

To reinforce my theory, checkout the movie clip below. For those who survived the 80s will know this clip by heart.

Does he possess some special skill that you have noticed? Maybe you noticed him playing catch with his dog or held a door open for you. Chivalry is almost dead, but still practiced by a subset of males known as Gentlemen that are currently listed on the endangered species list.

Last but not least, are the moments when woman gets close to a man, but not yet spoken to him.

Does the man look as good close up? We've all fallen victim to the Picasso effect - looks good from far away but close up it looks way different.

If she happens to venture in very close, does he smell nice? Smell is believed to be the most stimulating and mentally arousing sense we have as humans. The right cologne can make women melt if it suits their tastes.

Does he use vulgar or degrading language? Instant turn off for a lady if you refer to them as... well lets not even go there.

There are many options that men can choose from to attract a lady. Just remember that each woman likes different things, so there isn't one definitive answer that will work for every occasion.

If you aspire to be the guy that attracts the ladies during your big night on the town, some tried and true methods are always applicable.

Carry yourself well and maintain a positive self image to demonstrate confidence and an approachable demeanor.

Dress for the occasion, act like a gentlemen to those around you, and just be yourself.

Women are very adept at spotting the men who are desperate for attention, so don't be “that guy.”

Most importantly, be yourself and eventually a woman will find you likeable, or at least, somewhat tolerable.