You can become pretty desperate trying to avoid a divorce that you truly do not want. Sometimes when feelings run high and emotions become excessive, the push toward divorce can seemingly gain an unstoppable momentum.

But if your marriage is worth saving - if you know you both really care deeply for each other - there really is no good excuse to allow raw unthinking emotions to steamroller over sond reasoning and railroad you into an unwanted divorce. There are plenty of things you can do to allow reason to prevail and save your marriage.

The secret weapon you have readily available to HAVE a happy marriage is the fact that you once HAD a happy marriage!

Think about it for a minute. Isn't it true that 'Once upon A Time' you had an amazing relationship with the one you married. You were once able to make each other fabulously happy, true? You see, you know how to be happy because you were both very good at that in the past. Now you have your mind on everything but making each other happy.

Here's what I propose. You take some quiet time to dwell on how you where once happy. Make this a priority. Spend some time just 'remembering how' each day. Then slowly start implementing your re-discovered knowledge. It does not matter that you will be the only one participating at first. In fact, that's the beauty of this tip! You can begin to turn things around all on your own.

Be persistent and you may soon be pleasantly surprised at how your husband or wife begins to turn around. Imagine the secret thrill you'll feel when you begin to see your spouse responding to you and doing those little things that make you happy!

Only you can answer that question. But, if your answer is an empathic, YES! Don't ever throw in the towel. There is so much help available through, counseling, books, online resources, family, and friends that you can always have someone or something to turn to.

Yes, it can be a difficult challenge to save your marriage and rekindle your relationship with your spouse. But it can be a challenge well worth undertaking. Compared to the horrors of a costly divorce, saving your marriage can be an experience that you'll be thankful for for the rest of your life.