GUIDE #1: THE WORD OF GOD

“When you allow God’s Word to determine your actions, you will never miss his intervention in your situation.”

- Bishop George Amos.

Dear single brother or sister, for you to realize your dream of marrying in the God-given way, His Word in your life must be a dominant factor.

Not tradition or what people say matter but what the Word of God says. Why?

Let’s take a look @ what God says in His Word.

“Flowers and grass fade away, but what our God has said will never change.”

                                                                Is. 40:8 (CEV).

You have to choose whether you want to add to the plethora of problems the society is grappling with as regards divorce vis-à-vis failed marriages, or you want to be exempted from such by enjoying your marriage till the Lord Jesus Christ returns.

Once again the value you place on the Word of God will reflect in your decision making when it comes to choosing a marriage partner.

God’s desire for all His children including you is to achieve experience and swim in the ocean of Good success in all areas of your life, marriage inclusive God says in His Word.

 

“This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.”

                                                                Joshua 1:8 (NKJV)

You see my brother or sister, there are other books, e.g. novels, magazines, biographies, etc, but there is only one Book that guarantees good decision that leads to a lifetime of marital bliss-the Bible (The Word of God).

 

The world is changing. Fashion is changing Trends are changing. These are what the Bible refers to as “flowers” and “grass” They ultimately fade away with time, but God’s Word never changes hence very reliable.

 

A lot of women including some single Christian sisters wear crazy clothes that expose all their sensitive parts all in the name of moving with the current fashion trend. Even if others are doing it, must you a child of God? (Prov. 1:10).

 

A lot of things are changing leaving terrible consequences on its trail BUT the Word of God does not change. It is the same Word now as it was in the beginning.

 

The Word of God may be “old” but it is relevant in every generation (Heb 13:8).

 

You as an aspiring husband or wife must align your choices and decisions with what the Word of God says otherwise danger and regret will pay the fellow a visit in no time.

 

I am reminded of what the Word of God says in proverbs 14:12.

“There is a way what seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”

 

Unfortunately, some of our Christian youth nay singles are towing that path that seems right. The path that tradition, society, friends even family at time approves but which is totally against the Word of God.

 

I remember vividly when I went to my home town to intimate my people about my forth coming wedding that comes up the following year. One of my elderly aunt  called me aside to remind me of the general tradition or culture of putting your fiancé in the family way (i.e., ensure your wife to be get pregnant first) before wedding as an approved way of ensuring that she will bear children.

I bluntly refused because that is contrary to what God says in His Word which says that

“Have respect for marriage…God will punish anyone who is immoral…” Heb 13:4 (CEV).

 

It is lack of respect for marriage for a sister to be pregnant before her wedding day. Also, it is immoral for a sister and brother to be indulging in sex before marriage. The Bible says God will punish such fellows.

 

I need to ask you, what has culture or tradition done for us? Plenty of problems in every spheres of life.

 

The Bible also enjoins every genuine child of God that is if sinner entice you do not consent “Prov. 1:10 (KNJV).

 

Whether the sinner in question is your Father, Mother, Uncle, Aunt or guardian it does not matter. God says do not agree with their ungodly suggestions. Do not be pressurized! Do not be cajoled!! Do not be intimidated!!!

 

God has great and big plans for your life my dear brother or sister reading this book.

How do I know? His Word says so!

“I will bless you with a future filled with hope – a future of success, not of suffering.”                               Jer. 29:11 (CEV)

 

The New King James renders it this way.

“For I know the thoughts that I think towards you says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

 

Are you a Christian single sister and a brother is pressurizing you into having sex with him or else no marriage, do not consent (Prov. 1:10)

Here is a Word for you.

 

You should be happy and glad that God has exposed your current choice as not His plan for you as your husband to be.

 

Infact, if you are convinced that he is indeed for you, then try and make him see reason with the Word of God as we quoted earlier in Heb. 13:4.

 

If the brother chooses not to listen, you had better run for your dear life and wait on God’s leading and direction for a TRUE Child of God.

 

One of my mentors, a Pastor with RCCG (The Redeemed Christian Church of God), told me of an experience he once. Had while couriering a sister. He thought or presumed that was God’s choice for him, until the sister begins to show some traces of amorous behaviour towards him which was contrary to what he had expected.

 

What happened?

The sister paid the brother a visit in his two-room apartment bringing with her some x-rated sexual related films for them to watch. She got access to the brother’s apartment in his absence and when he eventually returned he was shocked to see her watching such a sexually explicit film. He scolded her but she did not see anything wrong with watching such films! Can you beat that?

 

On another occasion she requested for the brother to kiss her lips, before seeing her off after another visit. That was when my dear mentor called a spade a spade and quit the relationship.

 

Listen to this: it is better to have a broken courtship that to have a broken marriage.