I want to say first that this book is not a “push the button and it stops” kind of book. This is a book that tells you what the causes are for affairs, how to recognize it and then how to get out of the affair. Each affair is different and no one solution will work.

This book is a good book and I liked it a lot. I consider myself an intelligent person and it didn’t insult my intelligence. The book talks about some very deep psychological topics. Dr. Bob Cummings, the author, (yes, he’s a doctor) knows his material. There is not another informational eBook out there that I could find that has this quality of information.

Dr. Cummings talks about the “7 critical steps that you MUST take” to break free from having an affair. I have listed them below.

1. The shock of infidelity
2. Discover 7 types of affairs
3. Ask yourself: Do I REALLY want to be married to him/her?
4. Ready to study and employ a strategy
5. Crunch time stay or go
6. Process of rebuilding the marriage with him/her.
7. Or you begin the process rebuilding self without him/her

This book enables you to look in the mirror and you might not like what you see.

There are parts that you will not like, but the truth hurts sometimes but my personal favorite part of the book is where he actually shows you how you to envision WHERE your affair is headed. Yes, you can tell precisely what's going to happen down the line by certain signs. These are pure genius. But as importantly, he shows you a way to save your marriage EVEN if you've been caught cheating. Most people will mess this up

I could keep going on about this book but I'd only bore you to tears. Like I said, you must truly read it, understand it and act on his recommendation or you are just wasting your time. I am being dead serious.

At the very least, go to his site and read what he’s offering. If you want to end your affair and save your marriage, this book is a must have. Here is the site with information on ending an affair.

A Few Tips

When you sit down with the person, talk about the good times you’ve had. Tell the person what you like about them. Not all breakups have to be all bad. Truth is, no relationship is black and white. There is always some good and bad, even in the ones that stay intact. By pointing out the good times, you help ease the blow a little bit. Then, explain why you feel it’s best to end things. Make the explanation as clear as possible so that there is no mistake. Nobody likes a vague reason for ending things. Answers like, “It’s just not working” do not go over well. Explain WHY it’s not working. The person on the other end deserves that much.

If you want to end your affair and save your marriage, watch the video below. How to end an affair.