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How To Impress A Girl By Doing Something

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By BlackLover143

Everyone can name someone who"s nice ,pretty,smart,funny etc.Want to impress that certain girl? Here"s what want to do What not to do.



Be well groomed
Be well groomed
Have a great attitude
Have a great attitude
Show respect
Show respect
Have good conversations
Have good conversations
Respect her friends
Respect her friends
Be Romantic, but not over the top
Be Romantic, but not over the top
Show your funny side
Show your funny side

STEPS

  • Be Well-Groomed: Brush your teeth,floss,shower,wash your hair,& apply acne medicine( if you have a problem with skin).Don't wear your pants off your butt,often called "sagging".It's not that attractive to the majority of girls.This is essential if you are even going to approach an attractive girl.Wear clean,attractive clothes ( if in doubt, get an older sister or close female friend to help you in this department).Don't wear skin tight clothes either.
  • Have a great attitude: Be fun to hang around with,easy to laugh with,& be outgoing.Just don't be full of yourself.Don't try to impress everyone- girls like humble guys.At the same time,a sense of humor is always a plus.
  • Show respect: If you respect anyone & give them their space ,they will all respect you.With girls, it works even better.If they see you respecting anyone, & not getting pushed around while you are at it, they will be reassured that you will treat them right.Be kind to all.
  • Have good conversations: Don't talk about how you beat the king Black Dragon in Run escape... unless you know them well enough that you know they are at least semi-interested ( otherwise it's just a big jumble to her). Try to aim for you both to be speaking 50% of the time, but make sure that you are saying something worthwhile; it's not attractive when only one person talks endlessly.
  • 5.Show interest in her - let her talk: The 1# mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself.Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about their common interests,hobbies,favorite books,music etc. But not in that stalker kind of way.If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences & then redirect the question back at her.This engages her in the conversation.When in doubt , complement her.
  • Try flirting! If you both make eye contact,do not be the one to look away, but do not stare for too long .When you both make eye contact , just give a slight smile.She may look away & she might blush a little.Be careful though; you don't want to share her down.A good move is to look away , & if she likes you she will shoot your glances.Watch for that.And be courteous.Open doors.Give gifts.Do kind things.Girls love that.
  • Respect her friends & their ideas & opinions: Always speak highly of her & never talk trash about her.It will damage her reputation & yours & she"ll possibly dump you.Of course her friends are going to tell her that you trash talked her.Hopefully then it will work both ways - she will be tolerant of your friends.Be careful not to compliment her friends too much, however.Example: you may say " your friends seem cool.We should hang out with them & my friends some time.I think they'd get along". You may not say "Sally is so hot.She has the nicest eyes".
  • Have your friends be nice to her: It's a fantastic thing when your friends don't make a total fool of you.Warn them ahead of time & avoid topics pertaining to embarrassing moments of your past or awkward jokes that make her little sense.
  • Be polite to her parents: Be kind to everyone, especially them.Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide.
  • Don"t criticize her: Unless she asks for constructive criticism.and even then she probably wants you to compliment her.
  • Be Romantic, but not over the top: If you have been dating for a while you may attempt a grand romantic gesture ( note:"A while " = A month MINIMUM) otherwise you will look like a stalker.
  • Start talking to her casually: If you don't know her,make friendly conversation.Ask for the time, and/or compliment her watch.
  • Do not play " hard to get". Sure you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while , the girl will end up frustrated or think that you hate her for whatever reason, she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore.Or if she likes a guy who's like that, her friends might not like you because you are acting like a jerk( this happens way too much).
  • Be careful with what you say: Remember, Hotty McHotterson is not your pal Lenny.Do not discuss bodily functions in her presence or make jokes of a sexual nature unless she starts doing so.
  • Hum a few bars of a song she likes around her: She might think of you whenever she hears that song.And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music.Some girls are actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like.So, it's ok not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer/band.Try to agree with her as much as possible but not so over the top that she knows your not being yourself.Make sure the song you not overtly feminine , however.For instance, a killers songs is okay, an Ashley Tisdate song, not so much.
  • Start an inside joke with her: She will feel included & become closure to you.It also gives you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter.Try not to overuse it & kill the joke.
  • End later meetings with hug or plans to meet some other time,if you can.
  • Do not tell her that you " like her": Ask her out.If she rejects you, all is well. Example: You: "Betty, want to go to dinner on Saturday night ?" Betty: Sorry I just think of as a friend" you: oh, no offense. A Bunch of us were talking about going . and I think you might like to join us."
  • Try to get her attentions to your plus and away from minus , but be original.
  • Touch her ocassionally , like on the shoulder or hand ( but be sure to do it in a non-threatening way)!
  • Opposites attract.Be a courageous gentleman , not coy like a lady might be.Stand up for her.
  • Show your funny side: A lot of women look for sense of humor in a partner.You should however be mindful of their reactions to your jokes & avoid offensive humor .Unless they like that.Find out if she likes comedy . If she watches Comedy Central , find out her favorite Comedian or favorite impression & try it out of her.

Tips

  •  If you hold a girl around her lips, it will seem like a romantic move for her.Girls LOVE Romantic moves.She will feel important , and that someone actually likes her.If she says to stop,STOP.Nothing is worse than than a girl seeing you as a harrasser. If she acts a little odd, stop.Don't take it personally because some girls just don"t know how to act around guys.Do it another day if this happens.
  • * Some girls may be put off by such early outbursts of physical contact - the problem can be solved by spending more time with the girl.
  •  Show sympathy & affection.If the girl you really enjoy being around is sad or hurt, give her a quick hug.Don"t just say that you're sorry & you hope she feels better.
  •  If you have braces , glasses & acne ...don"t be disheartened! wear contacts,use some proactive / Accutane , & Viola.Girls put a lot of effort into their appearance , perhaps you should do the same.But don't think just because you have braces, glasses ,or acne , that the world is over , sometimes it works! Many people believe that Braces are a fashion statement.
  • Have good posture.
  •  Don't act tough or try to be a thug . This doesn't attract girls.
  • Don't follow her around everywhere.It automatically gives you a reputation of stalker , & it will freak her out.Even following her just a little can create a stalker rep , depending on how you act .How you act can determine whether she will actually want you to be around her all the time or if even just seeing your face is too much contact.If you know she sees you as a stalker , lay off because trying to do damage control tends to just worsen your situation , instead try to get a friend of your or of hers to help your issue.
  •  If she just doesn't get that you like her ( which most likely won't happen because girls are pretty good at detecting this kind of stuff!) drop hints.
  •  Don't play games.Waiting a few days to call her, showing up a little late to things or anything like that is only proving you are unreliable , a fake and a loser. Likewise, don't tolerate it if she does any of these thing to you.
  • Use correct grammar when texting her or talking to her.If you don't then she will think that you aren't very intelligent and that will turn certain girls off. ( E.G. use predictive (T9) text so that you can't spell something wrong in a text , if you're unsure of apostrophes and such just say the full world ( e.g. " they"re" right in conversation then read up on how to speak proper English.
  •  While it's important to connect to her friends, you must avoid coming off as a player.If a girls friends do not approve of you , this will influence her opinion of you.
  •  Don't be weird around her.NOTE: Weird & unusual are different things.Some girls will see your unusual attribute as unique & special, specially if it endears you because it's a secret from one of your friends.
  • Share a secret with her & hope she shares one with you ( e.g. strike up a conversation starting with something along the lines of "Do you want to know a secret? If she reciprocates then it shows she trusts you & knows you trust her.DON'T be disheartened if she doesn't share one back straight away, she will take your secret as a sign of your trust & this will build your Relationship.
  •  Be yourself.Don't be fake.
  •  Don't stand in the back & be quite all the time , you will look weird.
  •  Always be careful & respectful with her.
  •  Some girls find it funny when you get hurt. If you start bleeding & you're by yourself, probably a group of girls ( and probably the girl you like will be there) will be the first ones to notice you're hurt.If she gets you something to wipe off the blood, that means she cares about you.


!!! WARNING !!!

  •  If you have followed all the steps above & it didn't work , don"t feel disheartened.Be proud that you made an effort & accept that it wasn't meant to be . If you decide to still be friends , don't be bitter if she moves on to a new guy.
  • Also, it says above that some girls like to talk about themselves - remember, some girls do.Some also would rather not have you obsessing about her hobbies, sports etc.BE COOL.Relate what she's saying to something about you & then continue the conversation.
  • Remember to talk about yourself & your own hobbies etc.That way you come off as a good conversationalist & as a person with a life .DON'T hog the conversations though & be sure to LISTEN & find out about her too.
  •  Every girl is different! Find out if she likes tattoos before you show her the skull & crossbones tattoo on your chest ! ( it's probably a bad idea to get a skull & crossbones tattoo on your chest ( or elsewhere))
  •  Never rush her or pressure her or show her a bad attitude.
  • Don't talk about her weight or ask her anything related to this subject.Even the girl with the most attractive bodies have insecurities .Even a comment intended as a joke could seriously hurt her feelings.Leave this subject alone.If she asks you about how she looks boost her confidence, tell her something nice or flirt.
  • At the same, time keep your own weight in check.Eat healthfully & work out.Don't go too crazy with the body building , but being toned never hearts.Watch out for skinny- fat ( where you are skinny but flabby).
  •  Girls love confident guys.But don't be cocky .A cocky guy turn girls off.
  •  If you have problems with shyness , think of the most confident person you know & of what they would do in each situation. Don't be fake, Just change your mindset.
  •  Girls like that you care enough to buy them something.Don't go overboard & get flowers for her unless the time calls for it or she is very likely to think you did something wrong.
  •  Some girls don't really know what to talk about with a guy so they might tend to talk about things you don't care about or go on & on about who said what . Don' be mean about it even though you're fighting boredom because it could have taken her a lot of courage to talk to you . Just show interest & change the subject to something more interesting , or politely exit the conversation.
  •  Do not chew gum when talking to her.You should throw it away if there are no trash bins, do not chew with your mouth open,pop, or blow bubbles.
  • Don't ever talk about sports unless she likes sports, and don't boast about how you beat this other person.
  •  Never, EVER make fun of her.If the two of you are still only good friends , but you want to start dating, etc: then don't.Yeah, it would be funny if you said it to one of your guy friends , but it could be very Offensive to her.And if you do fun of her, don't giver her the guilt trip & say "Oh, it's your fault your angry.I was just joking.
  • Don't ever raise your voice to get a point across.
  •  If you cuss make sure it doesn't bother her or else it'll probably make her mad.

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crayonbrains profile image

crayonbrains  says:
3 months ago

Great !!! thanks for this lovely hub . *Guys jot down every word:)*

badcompany99  says:
3 months ago

Lol loved it, must use some of yer tips !

BlackLover143 profile image

BlackLover143  says:
3 months ago

Thanx to all

blondepoet profile image

blondepoet  says:
3 months ago

Wow you got me ROFL this is great. xo

marcofratelli profile image

marcofratelli  says:
3 months ago

Love it, some really great tips here!!

no body  says:
4 months ago

There is a lot of commonsense here blacklover143. Women are not an easy set of human beings to please but if someone does all of this stuff it will go a long way toward pleasing them for friendship.

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fastfreta  says:
4 months ago

This is an unbelievable hub. I have never seen such details. You should write a book, and pass it out in all of the high schools and colleges. Here in the States it is sorely needed. Please consider at least a pamphlet. I will highly recommend this hub to the young men that I know. I am glad you included that about "sagging," because most young ladies I know, don't like that either. Keep up the good work.

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world of the wise  says:
4 months ago

eeeehhh, you really made research. thank you

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rosariomontenegro  says:
4 months ago

Very good hub. In a general way, as a woman, I'd advice to do all the good things (except the specifically firtly ones) all the time with everybody. In other words, I wouldn't wait to be courting a girl to show kindness, good humor and the such. To be kind and considerate in general (wich you advice at the beginning) is something that will help the whole of your life ... and girls like good guys. (You don't want to be with the very few girls that like bad guys because they are a ticket for disaster).

Very good coaching! Hope many young people will read you.

Ivorwen profile image

Ivorwen  says:
4 months ago

Good advice! Hope the guys are listening. :)

Frieda Babbley profile image

Frieda Babbley  says:
4 months ago

These are certainly great tips. You've pointed out some very important things. I especially like that you added a warning section. I found myself giggling, but it's all true. Wonderful read.

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Drew Breezzy  says:
4 months ago

"Never, EVER make fun of her" *shakes head in shame

Not a good idea, to jokingly make a comment about her appearance. Been there...

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ralwus  says:
4 months ago

Good tips. hmmm Black in Scottish means hidden, or secret. You are Secretlover huh? cool

ralwus profile image

ralwus  says:
4 months ago

Good tips. hmmm. black in Scot Gaelic is duhb. It means hidden or secret. you are a secretlover then huh?

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jxb7076  says:
4 months ago

I could have used this info 20 years ago. Oh well...better late than never. Great information - thanks for sharing.

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BkCreative  says:
4 months ago

Yes, yes, yes, and yes!

All great tips!

Lady_E profile image

Lady_E  says:
4 months ago

Very good Guide - Love it!

Ps. but if you want to keep on impressing you have to be consistent with these tips. :)

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wannabwestern  says:
4 months ago

These are great dating tips, and some of the information is good for the rest of us who are just plain socially challenged. Are you a playa or what? Very

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Silent Horse001  says:
4 months ago

Great idea....i enjoyed this

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