After a divorce or after a relationship breakup of any kind, one or both of the partners are generally hurt. They feel a great big void in their life and their "heart is broken." This pain causes many to immediately find someone else to either fill the void or to try and forget the pain that they are feeling. This is known as a rebound relationship.

These types of relationships are generally not healthy; neither for the rebounder or the person that they chose to have the relationship with. The rebounder is just going through a phrase where they are looking to be loved and get over the pain. The new partner will eventually come to realize this situation - that they are basically just being used. Usually a rebound relationship lasts for only a couple of weeks or a month or two.

Most relationship experts and relationship books agree that after a breakup it is best to just be alone for a while. You have to try and get over the relationship if it is a permanent breakup. On the other hand, if you didn't want the relationship to end and you still love your ex and want them back, then there is still hope that you will get them back - even if they entered into a rebound relationship with someone else.

When your ex girlfriend gets into a rebound relationship you may think that it is the end of the World. In essense, it is actually a good sign. Why? Because a women that immediately goes into a rebound relationship is sad and hurt about losing you. If your relationship was based on true love then there is still a good chance that you can get your ex girlfriend back.

In fact, it doesn't matter who dumped who or who was to blame for the relationship breakup, if you were in love, then almost all relationships founded on geniune love can be saved. So, if you want your ex girlfriend back, you have just got to let the rebound relationship run its course.

You may be distressed to learn that she has gone into a relationship with someone who is the exact oppisite to you. You may think that she didn't like your personality or character if she is dating a "bad boy" type. For example, if you are a quiet, introvert, "good boy" type, then don't be surprised if she is dating a wild, extrovert, "bad boy" type.

You see, when she's with somebody as different from you like chalk and cheese, it suggests that she is missing you and what it was about you that she fell in love with. Just let the rebound relationship run its course, because, the more time she spends with the new guy, she is going to start to see the flaws in him. After a while, you'll start to look pretty good to her again.

That’s the reason why you do not want to crawl back to her immediately. Let her come to the conclusion that she misses the good things in your relationship. When she’s prepared to make a move back to you, be kind and understanding and welcome her back courteously. Don't do the chasing; just be a new and improved boyfriend.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship that I learned from a Relationship Book:

• Let the relationship run its own course - do not beg her to come back to you
• If you had some fault that caused the breakup, then apologize sincerely just the once
• Don't go into your shell and become anti social - instead, go out with your friends and have a good time to show her that you are appreciated by others
• Do NOT start having a relationship with another woman
• Remember, a rebound relationship is often a sign that she’s still in love with you - so you can get your ex girlfriend back
  

Finally, if you do get back together again, you have to explore the reasons why you broke up in the first case. Take the time to discuss the reasons with your girlfriend, make the neccessary changes, and build up your relationship so that it never happens again.