Men think there's some big secret to amazing a woman in bed... at least that's what movies, tv, magazines, and advertising teach us.

Just looking at the cover of Cosmo magazine can be enough to scare a man to death. But guess what? You don't need to know "36 super sexual positions invented by Tibetan monks that will drive your lover wild!"

All you need to know is the one little secret that isn't so secret... are you ready?

You just have to turn on her mind...

Now, that wasn't so mind blowing was it? But putting it into practice can be another issue.

Turning on a woman's mind isn't as hard as it seems. The problem is, very few men know how to do it on a consistent basis.

However, when you master this skill... your love making will be lifted to a whole new level and your partner will thank you for it... Yes guys... this means she'll be more willing and open to having more sex with you.

But if you don't, your lover will be constantly counting ceiling tiles, faking orgasms, and wondering what she needs to pick up from the store tomorrow instead of engaging with you sexually.

Do I need to point out this will mean less sex for you... and probably cause a tremendous strain on your relationship.

So I'm going to teach you four quick tips to simply and easily engage a woman's mind.

The obvious place to start is showing the woman that you actually appreciate the person inside that amazing body you're looking at. I know it's easy to lose your head when there's a naked woman in front of you... but if you take a second to stop staring at her breasts and look into her eyes it'll make a world of difference.

Eye contact is sexy, it shows you're connecting with her and not just her body. It also displays confidence which is a characteristic women find very attractive. Just make sure you don't go to Silence of the Lambs on her... you should never say "it puts the lotion on the skin" in the bedroom...

Talk to her... tell her that she's beautiful and that you're excited to be with her. Everyone has insecurities, but a naked woman usually has the most of all. If her mind's worrying about what you think about her thighs... she's not focused on enjoying herself in the moment. Complement her... and be specific... what she looks like, smells like, tastes like, sounds like, feels like... get the idea?

The key here is to earn her sexual trust. She needs to know she can let herself go around you and not be worried about being judged. You earn that trust by making her feel comfortable and secure with your words and actions.

You knew it was coming... didn't you? The mighty foreplay tip.

"Sure, sure... foreplay... we know!" you say.

"Then why don't most men do it" I say.

Foreplay is not about mucking around before the big game starts. It's not some kind of warm up that doesn't really matter. Foreplay can determine the result of the game altogether.

But foreplay should be enjoyable for men too. It gives you a chance to really appreciate a woman's body... and even have her appreciate yours in return. It still amazes me how men can spend so long trying to get a woman's clothes off and then want to get sex over with as quickly as possible.

So kiss, lick, nibble, blow, and bite (careful...) every part of her body. Enjoy yourself... after all, that's what making love is all about.

Teasing is a very easy way to excite a woman but doing it right is a mixture of art and science.

Basically, you don't want to rip her clothes off and dive on in. You want to make your seduction into a show that all can enjoy. Show some restraint and she'll love you for it... she'll even be begging you for more.

A simple guide is to use the "one piece of clothing at a time" method (patent pending). Before you touch the clothes at all... you kiss her... a lot. Kiss her lips and her neck. Play with her hair while you do this and really enjoy yourself.

When she's showing obvious signs of arousal you can remove her top... but not her bra. Now focus on her shoulders, her stomach, her back, her arms while not forgetting her lips and neck again. You're just adding to where you're pleasuring.

Next the pants can come off, and the same goes for her legs and her feet... but always returning to pleasure her entire body. By now she should be completely aroused... but we're not finished yet.

Yes... now you can take off her bra... but avoid just going to town on her breasts now. Remember the rest of her body and continue to tease her. When you kiss her inner thighs you can gently blow as you change sides. Start to tease her over her underwear.

By this point she'll probably rip your clothes off and issue some demands. If I was you, I'd obey them for your own safety...

Believe it or not, woman fantasise about sex a lot... they're just better at it than men. Thanks to the way their minds work they can actually think about sex all day long as they go about their daily routine.

So of course you want to use this to your advantage. If you plant the seed in her mind early in the day, she won't be able to control herself by the time she gets home from work.

All you have to do is say you have a surprise for her and let her mind wander. Then do something nice like cook dinner and light a few candles or get some massage oils. Make the night all about her.

Combined with her fantasising all day and your romantic evening... well you know it's only going to end well for both of you. You'll be amazed what grows from that tiny little seed... and want to plant it a lot more often...

That wasn't so hard was it? A few simple changes and you'll be giving your lover more pleasure than ever before. And it didn't take any sacrifices on your part... how about that?

I hope you enjoyed these tips and please leave feedback in the comments. I want to know what you guys (and girls) think about this stuff and maybe you have your own tips to share.

Have a good night!