Going through and having to deal with a break up sure can be one big ole' pain in the rear don't ya think?

I mean most people go through so much with the person that they're in a relationship with and to think that it can all just...poof...vanish...just in a blink of an eye is pretty hard to stomach...

Now here's the most painful part (at least from what I've seen), most people have no idea that just about ANY relationship can be salvaged... Seriously...no matter happened, no matter how bad it may have been...there's still hope that you can save the relationship.

This might be a bold move but I'm gonna assume that you're checking out this hub now because you're probably going through a break up and trying to figure out how to deal with the whole situation and I'm hoping I can help shed some light on the situation and even better... give you a chance to get back with your ex if that's what you wanna do...

Anyway... Before we go into all of that... I wanna go over a couple of things that you absolutley DON'T wanna do if you're trying to save the relationship...

• Text Message Terrorism (Don't go text happy and try and figure out what happened...this is a bad move)
• Drunk Dialing (Really?  Come on... this is just a disaster...)
• Apologize profusely for everything that happened
• Say that you'll finally change this time
• Talk to all of their family and friends
• Try and convince them to take you back

Now if you've done this already (which I'm gonna assume at least one of those things is something that you might have done), there's still hope so don't worry... but you gotta bear with me and more importantly... you gotta be open to some new ideas.

You see, this is gonna seem counterintuitive at first... Like something that just doesn't make any sense...but you gotta trust me on this and just follow through...

So...if you've already made one of the mistakes...but you still want to get back with your ex...  Pay really close attention to what's coming up next...

Now, again...it may sound weird at first but you just gotta do it and see what happens.  Trust me, I've seen plenty of people do this and it work like a charm...

Anyway, when you get "the talk" or text or whatever it is...just take a deep breath and roll with it...Don't fight it there and try and rationalize things and over react.  That'll just make it worse...

Tell them that you agree with them and in fact were thinking the same thing.  This way it becomes more of a liberation for you and you both are on the same page.

You see, they're expecting you to fight it and are expecting a reaction from it... But if you just agree with them, it opens the door to their curiosity and they start thinking that maybe it was something they did too... They start to get real curious.

I mean think about it... people are naturally attracted to things that they can't have, things that don't seem possible to obtain right?  Well if you simply let them go, it does some reverse psychology and they want to know what's up. 

Get what I mean?

Now you may have already passed this point and you've already tried to do some things that just flat out aren't working...

Well don't worry...

...here's what you're gonna do.

First, write a hand written (and yes I do mean hand written) letter saying that you understand and have now been thinking the same thing and it's probably best for you both to end the relationship.

Again, what you're doing here is simply opening the door to make the next move.

Give this a shot and let me know what you think... Once you've got the door open, it's time to make the next move and to find out how to do that, check out this site:

How To Survive A Break Up

From there you'll be walked through the process of exactly what to say and do in any given situation and simply just get back together with the one you love...