How To Take Care of Your Man
80Keeping Your Man Happy
I'm sure many activist women will have steam coming from their ears and blood oozing from their eyes when they read this commentary. However, let's face it. We've had a horrible reputation of emasculating our men; and allowing activist women groups dictate how we should manage (or not manage) our love relationships.
It's a known fact that men and women are different psychologically, physically, and emotionally. You can deny it all you want; but let's stop lying to ourselves. Stop believing the lies mainstream media and activists groups spew throughout the airwaves. We are just outright different.
Our sexual desires are very different. So, let's start with emotions and how men and women are different. Women, we are emotionally connected immediately upon having sex. Yes, there are some women who may not be able to connect emotionally when they have sex; but that's a rarity. We are nurturers. We are emotionally little girls who want to be held, caressed and told how beautiful we are and how much we are loved. We want to feel safe and protected. We desire the manly-man who can be our superman at all times. We want to be Sleeping BeautyTM and have our Knight-In-Shining-Armour rescue us.
As for most men, we want to believe that men aren't emotionally connected when they have sex, but that's another lie we've been fed. Most men fall in love and connect with their women just as easily as we connect sexually. Ladies, we need to stop allowing society to dictate how we should treat our men, and learn to be real women in bed, at home, and in public.
Girls, we should allow our men to open our doors and pull our chairs out at the dinner table. If our man wants to have sex everyday, we should take care of him unless health doesn't permit it. Believe me, even if you don't "feel" like it in the beginning, once you get busy, it's all very good! So, stop denying your man the simple pleasures in life because you're denying yourselves those same pleasures. Take care of him; and he will surely take care of you. If your man is "creepin'", then start taking care of his needs and watch how your relationship flourishes.
If you want to keep him home, if you want him to desire you often, then keep yourself looking good. If you were looking fine when you met him, then you should keep yourself in shape and looking sexy. Yes, I'm sure many of us have had children; but that's no excuse for letting ourselves go. Looking good for him also means looking good for ourselves. Not only will he be happy, but you will be his queen.
For those women who are angry with me right now, I don't care. I've listened to so much garbage from you man-haters; and I ruined great relationships because of that poison. So, I now stand up for my man and and all others out there who are wondering where all the real woman are. We are right here waiting to take very good care of you. Finally, Ladies, take heed. Take care of your man and keep him satisfied. You will be happier than you can imagine!
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Very good article, first one that actually makes sense. A man will give a woman the world, but a woman just needs to satisfy the one thing a man wants. Once that need is denied, then so is the world. Resentment sets in, trouble brews forth, and women often wonder what went wrong.
Men want a freak in the bed, and a lady at his side when out in public. So long as that is maintained, most men will deny a woman nothing.
Load of Bull:
This article does not suggest women must be slaves to their men. It suggests that we have roles that are natural and it is natural for us to fulfill each other's desires and needs. If you are in a relationship and you are not the woman he was attracted to before you had "sex", then it is your loss. I do hope you are not one of those women who "catches" the man; and then, reverts to some frumpy, whiney child.
this article isn't saying that we should be slaves to our mam. you ladies want men to be respectful towards you, yet you won't show them the same courtesy. its a two way street. its no wonder woman like you are so bitter. you never give a man a chance, but you expect the world in return.
Right on, MrsMtl. The article makes is very clear that we women are not to give up who we are; but to share who we are. You and I will never be men; but I am sure we want them to hang around. Of course there will be jerks out there; but there are women jerks, too. Again, you are right on point.
I agree that women need to cater to their man to some degree. I would stop at trying to meet his every need and whim cause then you not only lose him, you lose his respect. He is not a child. He should also be responsive to you and your needs. My man brings me breakfast in bed and can cook up a storm even better than me. However, I don't relax and think I have it made. I make sure I do my part in keeping the home and being his support. A woman is invaluable to her man and showing your worth keeps you confident and him happy.
It is refreshing to hear from other women who know that it takes more the bedding a man to keep him interested. My man tells me what makes him happy and satisfied; and I do my best to meet his needs. He also asks me what makes me happy and satisfied. Believe me, he does a fantastic job. Just as you implied, it is a two-way street.
This is a very good hub! As women we need to be real and not first present a good image and then resort to looking just any kind of way.
In a good relationship there is a mutual desire to satisfy one another, grow together and also a respect to encourage one another to be all they were meant to be. Good communication is key!
You are so right too many people go along with the trends of society.
There are differences as you stated between men and women.
Isn't it nice to be a real total woman...
Hi, DeBorrah:
It is all about being real with one's self. All we have to do is look in the mirror and know that God made men and women to share their lives together in positive, constructive ways.
just my opinion says:
12 months ago
I agree that sometimes women and men allow society's traditions, norms and biases to dictate their ideas, perspectives and expectations. I agree that sometimes women and men allow that impact to affect their relationship. But please stop telling women that if they give their men more sex this will cure infidelity. There is so much more to infidelity than sex. Furthermore, happiness comes within. I believe you should concentrate on finding inner beauty, inner happiness and inner love and then allow those qualities to extend to your relationships. And then you will attract a person who has the same qualities and together you can compromise and build a healthy relationship that lasts through the hard times.