When it comes to the sexual pleasure that you receive in your life, who is it that is in control? All too often people complain that they are not experiencing enough sexual pleasure in their life. They generally blame this fact on one of the following reasons:

1. They don’t have a sexual partner and/or love interest at the current time - OR
2. They do currently have a sex partner and/or love interest, but (for whatever reason) that person doesn’t satisfy their sexual desires.

Either situation would imply that our individual sexual gratification is reliant on someone else. With the countless personal massage products and erotic toys on the market, why do we tend to allow someone else to control our personal pleasure (or lack thereof)? Who is it that should be in charge of our pleasurable and erotic experiences?

If we consider the question of why there is a demand for personal massage products, we can look at the example of Bob, the now famous Enzyte man. Enzyte is one of many male enhancement products. While Extenz is another popular one, the number one being Viagra (Technically speaking, not everything that enhances a man's sexual desire OR ability is considered to be a male enhancement, but in this article I make no distinctions)

Expressing Sexual Dissatisfaction

With the coming of Viagra (no pun intended seriously), a new attitude about male performance was adopted. That attitude said, it's okay to acknowledge men don't (or can't) always perform, and it's okay for them to OPENLY do something about it. I believe it is that prevailing attitude among the men, that ultimately led to similar thinking in woman. It made it okay to OPENLY acknowledge that women weren't being completely satisfied by their mate (for whatever reason) and okay to do something about it!

When we think about it, most people exercise exclusive control when it comes to passion and pleasure in all other areas of their lives. Typically, if you have a hobby or love of something that makes you feel good, you indulge, regardless of other people's opinion, or participation. The same should be true of your sexual pleasure.

While personal massagers were typically thought to be for women, this is not so in our sexually enlightened society. Because they provide external stimulation in a number of sexually satisfying ways, men have found them to be equally enjoyable. There are a variety of types, in addition to the other kinds of erotic toys that provide both genital and anal stimulation.

Most people are shy about discussing ways to receive sexual gratification, especially through self-stimulation. If going into a store to purchase a personal massager or other erotic product sounds intimidating, not to worry. There are a number of available sites that will allow you to shop for, purchase, and receive your new BFF (best friend forever) discreetly. You can choose from a variety of products that will accommodate all types of self-stimulation and will provide hours of pleasure.

If you’ve been experiencing a drought when it comes to sexual gratification, it’s time you took control of your own pleasurable experiences. That is why self-gratification is called “self” gratification. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, and regardless of your sexual orientation, you can be in control of your own personal pleasure. Satisfying yourself alone can be liberating.

Once you decide to take control of your own sexual pleasure, you will need to buy your first personal massager. While most personal massagers can be used for therapeutic purposes, the primary objective is sexual gratification.

There are some things to know before you pick the right toy for your personal enjoyment. You want your first experience to be memorable, but not because it resulted with an embarrassing trip to the hospital! It’s best to know how the personal massage products that provide sexual gratification, actually work. Personal massagers are different from other vibrators (which vary tremendously in size and style). Here are three important points to keep in mind about erotic personal massagers:

1. A personal massager is a small battery operated device that typically fits in the palm of your hand, although Trojan’s newest “mini” massager is even smaller than most.
2. Personal massagers provide pleasure from stimulating vibrations. They are NOT typically created for insertion, and they are generally not even phallic in shape like a lot of other sexually stimulating toys.
3. Sexual satisfaction is derived form personal massagers by external stimulation. This stimulation can be given to the clitoris, the outer labia and (in the case of both, men and women) even nipples. There are many men that actually enjoy penal and testicle stimulation from a personal massager.

REMEMBER: The key point to remember about using any type of erotic stimulating device is: It is supposed to be pleasurable! So try to relax and leave your hangups at the door. (Just keep in mind the fact that sexual frustration can manifest itself in a number of negative ways.) This is about your personal pleasure, and taking it into your OWN hands. Don't leave the decision to your friend, lover, me or the salesperson. Take things into your own hands (smile)!

Make A Date With Yourself

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Once you’ve taken the necessary steps to obtain the personal massager of your choice, it’s time to make a date with yourself. You want to settle on a time and place where you can be alone and uninterrupted in order to fully discover your new BFF (best friend forever)! Unlike some erotic toys, personal massagers are usually pretty quiet, however, if you are normally a loud lover, you’d better make sure your walls are sound proof. Not only do you want to have plenty of privacy, you might find it enjoyable to actually set the mood with some low lights and soft music (after all, it is your first date).

Just like any new relationship you embark on, being comfortable with your new personal massager will take some getting used to. While you are sure to derive pleasure from the moment you experience what your new toy feels like, it will take some time to truly discover its full potential. In order to do this, you must not be afraid to be intimate with yourself and explore what exactly brings you the most pleasure. Allow yourself to kick back on your date and get in a totally relaxed frame of mind (thus the low lights and soft music). When your head is clear of all outside thoughts, it will be easier to free your mind of any subconscious hang-ups or inhibitions. Once you do this, you will find that personal massagers can provide extreme sexual delight. Your pleasure and satisfaction can be endless because you are in control of your own gratification.

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