Your girl has just broken up with you, but you are still in love with her. You try to reason with her, you beg her to come back, you even go to extremes and threaten to hurt yourself if she doesn't return; she still doesn't come back. First, you have to sit down and ask yourself why did she leave in the first place. Sure, when she called it quits, she told you "it's not you, it's me." The number one thing to know is that it is almost ALWAYS your fault and she only tells you it is not just to keep from causing you further pain. Your previous attempts at trying to win her back have failed miserably and now you're wondering what are you doing wrong. The number one mistake most men make when trying to win their ex back is they beg. All this does is push her further away. A woman hates a weak man and begging is a sign of weakness. Another huge mistake men tend to make is that they continue to talk to her, hoping to somehow convince her that he is all the man she needs. If you were all the man she needed then she wouldn't have left you in the first place. What you have to do is understand that you've changed from when you and her first started dating. What she saw in you in the beginning, obviously she doesn't see in you now. If she left you, most likely you know why. So now you have to somehow make her see why she fell in love with you in the first place. First things first, cut off all communication.

If you continue to communicate with her, she will never get the chance to miss you. If she doesn't miss you she won't come back. Stop texting her, stop calling her, stop all communication. Let her miss the good times she shared with you (assuming there were good times). Do not talk to her friends about her. Don't even check up on her. Let her believe you're doing just fine without her and you can live without her. So now you're left with the question, what if she gets another boyfriend?

Well, if she does happen to start talking to another guy and ultimately start dating him, it doesn't mean it's over for you. As much as it will hurt you to see her with another guy, you have to be strong and continue doing what you've been doing. Who knows, maybe the guy turns out to be a complete jerk, which would be great news for you because she will then realize how much she loves you and misses you. Maybe the guy is prince charming. Still, you shouldn't worry too much. Often times, the guy that comes after you is a rebound. Yes, she may seem to really love the guy but, what she really likes is the wonderful change. The change from the way you were. But more often than not, this "love" turns out to be infatuation and in a few months she will realize that. This doesn't mean she will return to you but this does open up the door for you. Now you have to somehow show her that you're a completely different person than you were when you two were together. Show her that you're the person that she fell in love with. This is easier said than done. The one thing you can't do is tell her you've changed. Maybe this isn't the first break-up and she has taken you back before, only to realize a few months later why she broke up with you in the first place. So, telling her you've changed isn't going to work. She won't believe you. If this isn't your first time breaking up then it just makes it that much harder to win her back, maybe seemingly impossible. But, there is always hope. Like I previously mentioned, let her see that you've changed. For this to work you have to be back in her life, as a friend only. As her friend, do the things you wouldn't do when you two were together (obviously only the things you're allowed to do as a friend). Show her the side of you you know she loves, but find a way to show her without giving the impression that you're still in love with her. Make her fall in love with you all over again.

But this isn't the hard part. Assuming all of this works to perfection, now you have to actually keep her by your side. So you can't just show that you've changed; you have to actually have changed. If you haven't then you will only lose her again and maybe for good. That is why I would advise you to actually work on changing before you try my advice. If you feel you have changed then take my advice. Hopefully, in just a few months, you would have your love back again. Do me a favor and keep her this time, before you regret it.