You know the saying that once a woman wriggle out of your arms, she will not change her mind about it. This is true to the nature of women, most of which are loyal and accomodating. It is usually when a woman's loyalty and patience is taken for granted that she start to seek fulfillment elsewhere. By then, it is a little late... but not impossible to get your ex girlfriend back, if you know the way.

So you've been dumped by your girl. Most guys will be dazed and dumbfounded for being executed without knowing the reason why. Perhaps it is because your ex girlfriend think that you ought to know? Now you are clueless whether it is because you left the toilet seat down or spent the last saturday hanging out at that football game with your buddy.

Women usually opt for break up for good reasons, although it may be sparked of by small things that you did. For example, you hanging out with the boys on weekends may be related to you neglecting your chores around the house... for the 100th time. You may not hang out with the boys very often (and you think that you're not doing anything wrong) but maybe you do tend to cheat on doing you portion of housekeeping. And that, could be the real reason for your break up.

Figuring what really went wrong requires some soul searching. However, it usually boils down to you getting so used to having her around and starting to take her for granted. This is the number one reason a woman wants out. You messed up the place? She's there to take care of it. You think that it is pointless and downright impossible to remember all the anniversaries and dates in your relationship now that you have been engaged to each other? She let it slip a few times before. Surely it can be no big deal here, right? To a woman, all this adds up.

Man and women have different sets of expectation in a relationship, and this greatly effect their behaviour to it. Do you know that the male seahorse actually give birth to their young, instead of the female? As a result of this, the female tend to compete with each other to win the male, a trait usually associated with male behaviour. On the other hand, the male seahorses are choosy when selecting a mate, an indisputed feminine trait. Now, isn't that what courtship is all about?

Since courtship is never really over in reality, ideally, you should remain competitive while your girlfriend can be assured that she has chosen the right person. She have the rights to be choosy, mind you. When other guys come along, she is open to all sorts of options and you are going to find yourself in a vulnerable position. Every woman wants to be the trophy that is cherished by the man she chose to give herself to. This is also why women are so ready to please. And she will be one as long as you treasure her, and she will in turn continue to please, a delicate balance that is ever so threaten by the test of time.

Another main possible factor for your ex girlfriend to walk out is when she feel she is not being taken care of. Maybe you are not being as ambitious in your job as you should be, or that you are spending too much time playing online games rather than fixing that leaking tap. This is translated as the inability to provide security and assurance of the future for the woman, a bad trait in a partner as far as starting a family is concerned. Your girlfriend is naturally hardwired to find a man that she can have babies with, and it is your responsibilty to fit into that role.

And when you are afraid of commitments, you should not need to be told why your ex girlfriend left. In understanding why woman behave and expect the way the did, it takes very little but constant effort to keep your girlfriend or lure her into coming back. A gift without reason every so often, a surprise hug and kisses when you come home and sweet compliments on the things that she do can help you score major. Make her feel safe and special and she would have no reason to leave.

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