Be Honest. Chances are that your child or children already have a sense that things are not right. The unknown can be the most terrifying for everyone.

We all need to know that we are going to be safe and secure, and children are no different. When you decide to tell them, plan ahead so you are in unity in your answers. Talk to them together, and assure them, that it is not their fault, and that they are loved by both parents.

Keep them updated as a team. Not all the details, and if you don't know the answer, as a team reassure them that the adults will figure things out.

It won't be easy and it won't be fun. Kids adjust better if they know that they will be loved, cared for and safe.