How do you think of yourself? How do others think of you? Sometimes these are completely different view points

Recently, A friend of mine laughed, when I said "Well I am an understanding person."

She was telling me how her husband was abusive, and she had nobody to talk to. She was crying and at her wits end. I made the statement above. She laughed and I didn't understand why.................... Well. A few years prior to this particular conversation, her then husband, was a physically abusive pile of ......... crap ( I thought about it and there is no other way of putting it.) I was at a bar-b-que, when he decided to show his nasty little colors. He was drinking and verbally abusive, as the night went on...... he became physically assertive. With his arguing. Which turned into punching people. Not cool!!!! a definate party fowl !! Which got my attention. He was put in an arm bar first. Until he calmed down. about ten minutes later........ he ended up in a sleeper hold. police were called and it was a bad situation. I never realized that anyone would see me as being bad in this situation. However I guess it was none of my business. Well although I view me as "Good" some do not.......... ouch! it hurts when you find that out. How do people really feel about you? Don't make the assumption like I did. Even though personally............ He deserved what he got. I still think I am good.