Emotional freedom starts with knowing of the self first. If one is too sensitive, caring and minding others business then it will be quite a task to achieve emotional freedom. It might even be related to one of my hubs here about Fear: To Conquer it or Not. In that article, it seemed as emotional freedom for me when I conquered fear. I did not care about fearing anything. In short, I was kind of numb from fear for some time until I realized its misgivings.

Fear is an emotion that has been said to be a common cause of failure. Do you have fear in God? If you do, do you also want to conquer that fear? It is not emotional freedom that we want but the correct and proper way to control or manage our emotions. That would be a better way to address it, instead of trying to free ourselves from it. The seat of emotions is conscience. Those who lack conscience seem to have more emotional freedom. That's what happens with hard core criminals and drug addicts.

The best way to manage emotions, as I found out, was to use the advantage and disadvantage T-bar equation. I found it best to be written than using my mind to find which weighs more. Draw a "T" on paper then label one side as Advantages and the other side Disadvantages. Focus on it and write down as many as you can with rationality. Most emotions are governed by by questions and biases shrouded by partiality. You might think it redundant by me putting bias and partiality in one statement though they might have the same meaning. For me, bias is more of something emotional or a feeling, while partiality is more on the use of mind and reasoning. Like, why would you protect a cat from a dog but will protect a puppy from a cat? This one is quite easy to rationalize.Most cats are smaller than dogs while a puppy is younger than a cat. Remember, I said cat and not a kitten.

Look at your past, are your biases based on your childhood and growing up experience? How much has it influenced you? Your present emotions might be based on that. What about your education and work experience? Is your rationalization and partiality based on that you experienced and believed in? Talking to others, you might find yourself alone or may be just a few of you have things in common, emotionally.

There may be techniques and they may work but on a transient basis. They may work for a while but not forever. Accepting reality, adjusting to it and giving yourself some lee way might just be better and could last forever. I have accepted that things are not the same when I was a teener and now my kids are teen-agers or older. Sales and marketing were the good source of income in my time, but being good right now in computers and Information technology (IT) is now better.

Only one thing keeps me abreast and it is the course I took in college which is Management. All professionals and careers need management and so do emotions. Keeping things in its right order and progression is management. Rationalizing biases and partiality will be a good start. That is Reality.