How much freedom should I give my kid?

Date Asked: 2/3/2009

Freedom comes at a couple different angles of trust. When a kid is seeking freedom it requires trust no matter what the freedom level their asking for. When it comes to freedom they must have already developed some trust with you in order for you to give them the freedom. So if your child is looking for freedom make them earn your trust first. There are many ways they can earn your trust and it depends on you and how your family works. Although it is completely your decision on how to have them grant your trust here are a few ideas on some ways they can earn it.

1) Talk them into sharing their life with you. Allow them to begin to trust you before you trust them. In doing so you will be able to trust them to be honest about how they make decisions in life with their friends and that way you won’t be worried about them having sex at an early age or doing drugs when you’ve taught them otherwise.

2) Give them responsibility they can handle like babysitting a little brother or sister, or cleaning up the house, or allow them to have a cell phone and ask them not to go over a certain amount of minutes. These are all some great ideas on how to build trust through responsibility. Responsibility is an awesome way to have your child earn some far longed trust.

3) Lead by example, trust them and they will trust you. Also when you show trust to those around you and show your children how you earned their trust it can help them see how to earn your trust. This normally applies to younger kids though so I don’t suggest this with teenagers as I’m assuming you have a teenager. Although if you also have another kid between the ages of 5 and 10 then this would work perfect for them.

So now that you know how to let your kids build trust it’s time they are provided with some freedom after gaining your trust Make sure to give it out in small amounts though and when they give you reasons to not trust them, “that is applicable reasons” then lesson your freedom with them. Don’t take it all away unless they do something that completely disregards your rules and the families morals. What ever you do DON’T ABANDON YOUR CHILD IF THEY COMMIT A CRIME, HAVE SEX OR ARE PREGNANT, OR FOR ANY OTHER REASON NO MATTER WHAT FOR THEY ARE YOUR CHILDREN AND NEED YOU!!!!! When they do something BAD it doesn’t mean they are a Bad kid or person. It just means they made a mistake. You show them love by Forgiving them and BEING THERE FOR THEM IN THEIR TIME OF NEED!

So now that you’ve learned how to give your children trust and freedom and know the laws of parenting I suggest you start applying them. Hope to see some comments on how it works out or if you have a different opinion about it. IF ANYONE HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION PLEASE COMMENT ALL YOU WANT! I WANT TO HEAR THEM! I LOVE YOUR COMMENTS!!!

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