Relationship Conflict 101 concerns how to handle a disagreement with a person whom you are in a relationship. The relationship began because there were certain qualities and characteristics about the other person that made him or her attractive to you. You have qualities and characteristics that are attractive to your partner. So why are there disagreements when two compatible people meet and decide to have a relationship together?

The simple fact is that life just revolved around love and happiness during tried state of affairs of the groovey generation. There will be no cause for conflict when everyone was seeking happiness. However, during that era as people are today protesting with tea parties, people at that time were together on the idea that they wanted the Vietnam war to end. So here we have a situation that the couples are happy but the circumstances surrounding the relationship causes for protest to bring an end to a war or to reduce taxation.

When the relationship is the war or the disagreement over taxes then the couples are involved in a conflict. The relationship is the entity that is at risk when two people who are in love disagree on a situation or circumstance involving the relationship. The disagreement may be on finances which is the fact in most cases. The woman in the relationship may want her partner to spend more time with her. The disagreement may be that someone got out of the habit of perking a cup of coffee in the morning as a subsidiary habit.

There is a multitude of reasons for an arguement to spring up from out of nowhere. So how do you deal with these relationship conflicts that are a part of everyday living. You choose to listen to each other. Listening is the best medicine when a disagreement erupts. Listening does not mean that you are the pansy or that you are trying to be the better person. Listening means that you are acknowledging the facts of the arguement and choose to not make a comment until after you have listened and pondered your response.

After listening even to an accusation on your character, you are going to weigh the facts with examples of evidence and as it is a right to defend yourself, you may enter facts into the converation. Do not try to make light of the arguement and but leave or walk away if the other person is yelling, screaming or becoming abusive. No good conclusion can come out of a conflict where the person has gone to tendencies to yell out of sheer emotions. If you listen closely to a person screaming during a conflict, the information is probably not factual but accusational.

Conflict can never be resolved if the parties are filled with emotions because that is all emotions do. Emotions are about feelings and feelings never accomplished anything except the feeling of love. Anger is a negative emotion that nothing good comes out of angry except hurt feelings. People in a conflict are not thinking of the loving aspect of the relationship. More often than not,the two people in the conflict are thinking about winning the argument. No one ever wins an arguement or conflict when emotions are the backdrop. The conflict just festers until the next clues for a resurgence.

To deal with conflict means you must handle yourself as if you are in a court room and deal with just the facts. You do not have to drudge up all of the person's faults thinking that you will win the conflict by humiliation. You must listen and only speak to the facts and when you speak to the facts have examples to support what you are saying. Listen and do not speak until the other person has finished stating his or her point. Do not try to vie for talk space by cutting through the person's conversation without listening. Keep emotions out of the confict, because emotions takes the conflict to a much higher platform where conflicts can not be dealt with constructively.