There is a controversial health care reform debate going on by congressmen and congresswomen.  Would not it be a great thing if there were relationship counselors looking to reform relationships with a security measure.  Of course because the subjective nature of relationship and the complexities of personalities and backgrounds involved; such a reform measure would be just about impossible.  The two people involved in the relationship will have to make a reform bill of their relationship themselves starting with a stimulant called relationship security.

Relationship security is when there is an assurance that the two of you are there for each other in thick and thin and that may mean literally.  But in this scenario, the talk is about the ups an downs of relationship because life happens and sometimes the roads may need repaving.  The most important security measure of all is the four letter word love.  Many couples want to prove their love with marriage but the divorce rate is indicating that a lot of mistakes are being made if this measure being used to secure a relationship without understanding one another.

Even in a love situation, action speaks louder than words.  Your security that the relationship is working between you and your boyfriend at an optimal level means that both of you are actively engaging in doing the things to please each other and to keep the relationship going strong and vibrant.  All of this relationship security should not fall on the woman in the relationship although most women seem to want to take on that heavy burden.  The obligation to secure the marriage should be on the two people involved in the relationship and with equilibrium.

You should not do anything that will hurt or damage the relationship by making a promise to your loved one and not keeping in.  For example, if she ask you to erase former girlfriends from your cell phone, why wouldn't you.  If she is the love of your life and do not want the photos on your cell phone, then all it would take is the action of pressing the delete command on your cell phone. 

If your girlfriend is trying to lose weight and even though you love her for how she looks you should take the action of not bringing foods in the house that will tempt her.  The action of not putting the chips in the cart because your girlfriend is trying to lose weight is a way of showing your love for her.  You may think that these are two of the simple things to do and you thought that security meant not cheating on your girlfriend.  Cheating on your girlfriend would mean that you would not have a relationship and  there is no need for any type of security moves to prove that you love her.  By spending time with someone else means that there is a major security breach and the relationship should be ended.

Maintain the security in your relationship by doing the things that is pleasing to your mate.  It is truly the little things that can seal a relationship and guys most of the time;you are the culprit when it comes to forgetting a birthday or an anniversary.  Women know that it is the little things that can cause a game changer in the relationship and most of the time It is not more security that is needed.  Little thing add up to big things and the best way to not go there and to keep the security in the relationship at the same time  is to do the things that make each of you happy and in love.