You talk to your man and he adopts the glaze look or gives you the 'nod' once in a while. However, when you bring the same topic up the next day, he gives you a blank look and you annoyingly wonder for the umpteenth time if he ever listens to you.

It's true:

Men and Women are DIFFERENT!

According to Dr Paul Popenoe, founder of the American Institute of Family Relations in Los Angeles, men and women differ in every cell of their bodies. This difference in the chromosome combination is the basic cause of development into male or female .. Besides the complete difference physically, more importantly is the vast difference of emotional intelligence between men and women.

Women are basically moved by emotions while men are ruled by logic. Now that you know, what you are up against (basically - natural) let's move on to the big secrets so that you will know exactly how to make him listen to you!

Method One: The Salt Principle

Step One: Clearly identify the need or concern you wish to communicate with your man. Never go into a conversation with him with a scattered load of information because he'll only be confused and shut down while you end up being hurt and disappointed!

Step Two: To identify related areas those are of high interest to your man. The trick is to step into his shoes and paint the picture he deems important. So, think of an angle that's of high priority to your man!

Step Three: Using his area of high interest, share enough information to stimulate his curiosity to hear more. This is where 'salting' has begun. For example; Jen's trying to get her husband, Pete to help out in cooking dinner since he craves delicious home cooked meal. He told her he would gladly help out but he seems to be too preoccupied whenever Jen wants to cook. So, for this step, Jen can always announce with great enthusiasm, "I can't believe these two cook books! The dishes are so mouth watering that it made my stomach growled and I had to put it down. I wish you were here so we could cook it because it only takes 15 minutes." Since, Pete is very interested in delicious home cooked meals; Jen would have his undivided attention.

Step Four: Add a little more salt. Don't answer his response to your first dose of salt; rather, pause and build his curiosity even more. Pete would probably respond with, "Really? Let me see it." Jen should apply her second dose of salt, without giving any relief to Pete's budding curiosity with a statement like: "They really are unbelievable. They tell two people what they need to do to make a scrumptious meal within 15 minutes."

Step Five: Use a short question to gain a commitment to his pursuit of your interest.

Now Jen can gain a commitment from Pete to tryout the recipes with her by asking him one or a few short questions: "Have you ever read a book like this that tells you how two people can make three delicious dishes under 15 minutes?" By now, Pete would have gladly look at the book and jump to the opportunity to try out the wonderful recipes.

Step Six: If he still doesn't show sufficient interest or commitment, keep adding salt. If Pete's still ambivalent about trying the new recipes, Jen can add more salt by saying, "I'm glad you haven't learned any of these yet; we will be dining at home all the time if you did and we will hardly ever go down to eat at Ho Wah's (Pete hates the place since they go so often!)

Method Two: Be the shining example

Be a good listener

If you want your man to really hear what you have to say, you've to start by being a good listener yourself! Listen to what he wants to say and be willing to take action to give him what he asks for.

Don't judge

Listen to what he's saying and beyond listening, offer something positive in return and never judged because men has a great fear of rejection.

Method Three: The 5 Cs

Say It Calmly

Say whatever's necessary in a calm voice.

Say It Clearly

Don't beat around the bush - ask specifically for what you want.

Say It Compassionately

Seek first to understand, and then to be understood. Don't say things out of revenge or to vent out.

Say It with Conciliation

When we confront someone, it needs to be for the purpose of reconciling ourselves to them. While we can't control others, we can check our hearts and motivations so ask yourself - are you willing to build bridges, not dividing walls?

Say It Consistently

Basically, don't say you mean business unless you mean it!

Practise these 'Golden Three' and watch with your own eyes how your relationship will be transformed!