You deal with a controlling boyfriend by kissing him and saying goodbye. Really, that is the best advice unless you like being controlled and told everything to do concerning the relationship and yourself. Relationships can work with a controlling boyfriend but the girlfriend for the most part has a submissive personality.You should not allow yourself to be controlled and told to adjust your behavior according to the other partner's preference.

You may think that you are only pleasing your boyfriend.  But if you doing something that you are ordered to do as a command coming from a sargeant, then you are not in a pleasing situation but a controlling one.  If you are being displeasing then that is another story. But if your boyfriend is controlling you and ordering you to do things, then that is a bad situation. 

Under no circumstances should you ever let someone control you. You control things that needs adjusting and regulating like your weight and that is something that you control. People should not be controlled in a relationship. Any adjustments made should be mutual and done on both sides of the relationship and not by one person always being told what to do. In a controlling relationship one person will not get the opportunity of getting a word in edgewise even if it involves them.  That kind of relationship is unbalanced and should most likely end during the dating stage.

Control is generally given in a situation that would go haywire if not regulated or placed under stringent guidelines. When you entered a relationship with your boyfriend, there should have been a compatibility factor between the two of you where nothing needed regulating or controlling. Usually you try to select a boyfriend who is "perfect" for you and he tries to select a girlfriend who is "perfect" for him. Later, you will find that some guys really do look for girls who they can control just to exert their power over another human being. These are the abusive cases that if the two marries end up with domestic violence as a major issue.

Your boyfriend should not be demanding that you wear a certain outfit or that you let him get you pregnant. Control is a nice word for abuse because your freedom of expression is being abused. However, neither of these words are nice: control and abuse. Whenever you can not do as you please without getting your boyfriend's permission by allowing him to tell you what to do; you are setting the stage for control or abuse. Control and abuse are not a good part of any relationship.

If you think that you need to be controlled by your boyfriend, you have serious personality and security issues. How can a girlfriend be happy with her boyfriend if she has no freedom to do what she wants to do unless she gets his consent or permission. You are not dating a parent figure, you are dating a person of equal status in the relationship. Equal status means that he has no more power over you than you have over him.

If you find that you are in an abusive relationship and  a controlling relationship is abusive; just tell him that you need your freedom and walk away. From your either self allowed control situation or a control situation where your boyfriend tries to control you with a dominant personality is a relationship that you should take immediate hiatus.   Men with strong personalities sometimes gyrates to women who are submissive because they think these women need their protection. You need to let your boyfriend know that you are not that type of person to just keep taking his control tactics because he perceived you as being submissive.

If this guy is just your boyfriend, then you have no legal obligation to him and should call it quits. If this guy is controlling you during the dating stage, imagine the discontent you are welcoming if you decide to marry. the possibility of domestic violence in boyfriend control situations has been discussed. Stop the madness and end the relationship, Use your female intuition as a warning of having asked this question that when in doubt about a guy who is a control person, just let him go.