Everyone could use a confidence boost now and then and learning to develop confidence will not only help you to meet attractive women but achieve success in every aspect of life. Many of us pay for courses and literature to help us improve confidence, and find our courage. We admire those who stand tall and stride forward with purpose and clarity. Women are attracted to confident men, as it is an indication of strength and ability. Men follow confident leaders that inspire and motivate. Confidence is that candle lighting the way in our darkest moments and the voice that cheers us on when others say it can't be done. Without Confidence Alexander would never have believed he would conquer Persia. Your confidence or belief in yourself will either raise you to new heights or hold you back. Confidence like any other skill can be learned and grown. In its simplest form it is merely faith in yourself and your abilities. Don't worry if your faith has wavered, I'm going to tell you how to be more confident and march forward into the life you deserve.

Confidence should not be confused with cockiness or arrogance while there is a fine line between them, confidence serves to help you grow. In the end arrogance will only irritate the women you desire and isolate you from them. The confident man has no need to brag or boast because he is sure of himself and his strength.His actions, posture, and attitude, speak for themselves. He knows without fail that he will be triumphant in the end. His knowledge of self is born from repeated exposure to success and from overcoming obstacles and problems. He decides his own self worth, and paints the image of him that he sees, and wants to be. A confident man sees the value in others and helps to bring it forward. 

Faith is more then Religion

Confidence is nothing more then faith in your self. Most of us have grown up being told we must have faith. Unfortunately we have received very little in the way of practical instruction on how to obtain this quality we must have.So we bumble around asking and debating, vainly struggling to find a definition to something abstract and illusive. Well my friend confidence, like faith is a condition that can be induced by repeated exposure and conditioning. Through practice and exercise any one may develop confidence and build a belief in self so strong that no matter what you come up against in life you will be able to face any challenge calmly and assured of yourself. By constantly pushing yourself to try new things and take action despite your fear you will develop a new faith in yourself and confidence.

What One Man Can Do, So Can You

Next time you go out look around at the people you see. Observe how they act and carry themselves. Notice their postures and gestures. Now also look around for the beautiful women. Who are they with, who are they looking at. If you're like me you've probably started to notice a trend. At fist you may be tempted to say that it's the good looking guys with the girls, or the ones with money, or with whatever positive trait you can image. In reality these are just all outward signs of something more important and basic.

All these guys with few exceptions share something very simple and vital,confidence. Money, good-looks, and power have the shared effect of instilling confidence. Now at first you may not believe me, but take a moment to really think about all the broke bums in this world that have in their lives a beautiful vibrant woman, you know who I'm talking about, all men wonder how they do it. These guys despite their situations and financial shortfalls have held on to their confidence and positive self image however twisted and deluded it may be.

Well friend surely if a guy like K-Fed, can attract a Brittany Spears you can get that gorgeous girl at the mall you've been drooling over. I have to warn you though its not going to be easy, and there is work involved. You see there are some things in your mind that have been holding you back and dooming you to lonely nights. In order to get the confidence you need to cross that space and talk to that girl you're going to have to learn a new way to think and see yourself. You're going to have to pick up some new habits and let go of some bad ones. Finally and most importantly you're going to have to dig deep inside yourself and find the man buried under all the lies and crap that have been shoved down your throat for most of your life. It's time to wake up men and be who we were meant to be.

Stop Caring So Much

The first thing we're going to do is calm down and take a deep breath. Woman are scary, I know guys, trust me, I know. However their only scary because we make them that way. What we're really scared of is not the girls we see, no matter how good they look, the thing that makes our palms sweat and heart race is the fear of rejection. As men we have been raised to be winners, well some of us have depending on how old you are. Others have been raised that everyone is a winner. Point is we're supposed to be tough, resilient and strong. We pride ourselves on our abilities and constantly compete with each other. In our drive to assert our standing in the male group so to speak we have attributed success with women as success in manhood. Being rejected by a woman regardless of the reason feels like a failure as a man.

In my life I've never had problems attracting gorgeous women now before I high five myself let me explain. Without fail every relationship in my life has begun under a very specific set of circumstances. It was all an accident. At the time I was first of all not looking to meet a woman, and so never placed any kind of emotional attachment on the outcome of any conversation or interaction with a woman. I literally just didn't care. I was doing my own thing, living my life and minding my own business. Whenever I talked to girls, I was relaxed, composed, and care free. because I wasn't trying to get a date or a number, I was merely talking to another human being about pointless things.In short guys I wasn't trying.

What does this have to do with developing confidence? Well to be blunt when you don't care if she says yes or no because you don't care if you get a date or not, you will not be afraid to walk up to a stranger and start a conversation. The first thing you need to stop doing is seeing the beautiful woman in front of you and start seeing just another person to talk to. Also don't worry about how this conversation will end, but focus on the moment,listen to what she is saying and she will give you the subject to talk about. Once you start building anyone up to more then they should be you limit your ability to relate to and then talk to them. For a while stop worrying about getting dates or meeting someone to have a relationship with. Just go out with the goal to talk to people. At first it will be counter intuitive to approach random strangers and spark up a conversation, but let go and just have fun.They don't know you so what do you care and besides you may actually make new friends. Conversation is a lost art.

Every time you approach someone with the intention of just saying hello or making small talk you begin building a chain of experiences with positive endings and outcomes. Each time you start you will notice that you are calmer then before and less worried, soon you will actually even begin to enjoy it, and your posture will reflect it. You will be able to smile and stand up straight. As your experience grows so will your confidence, and as your confidence grows so will your ability to approach women without fear or worry. Because you will learn through repeated exercise that there is nothing to fear.

Practical Exercises to develop Self- Confidence

Now at the beginning of this transformation I want you to concentrate and focus on conversation. Don't worry about rejection or dates, because you are your own man and are in control of your life, yes you should say this often and out loud preferably alone though. Practice taking deep breaths and standing up straight, DO NOT hunch your shoulders or slouch, besides shouting out to all that have eyes that you have no confidence it also inhibits you from speaking clearly and with volume. Look people in the eye when you meet them, and for God's sake smile more.The man that greets people with a warm, inviting, and genuine smile, is always welcome and sets people at ease.

Learn to be calm by thinking calm. Do not let your mind run away with you by imagining the worst possible outcome. Confidence and faith are closely related. Faith is the belief in the best possible outcome, fear is the belief in the worst. Now if you're reading this then your fear has been getting the best of you and has obviously got you no where. So for the sake of progress let's try something different and start believing in the best possible outcome. If your only goal is to make small talk and say hello then every time you do this then you have accomplished your goal and proven to yourself that it can be done.The more you successfully do anything the more your confidence will improve and grow.

You are guys, ultimately what you tell yourself that you are.So instead of telling yourself you can't or won't start taking some time each day to tell yourself you can and will. While it may sound silly, how long do you want to stay alone and frustrated? Now I know many of you have so far been unsuccessful in getting dates or attracting that woman you desire. That's okay, and more importantly in the past. There is nothing wrong with you or broken, you have simply not been educated to think and act in a certain way to achieve the results you want. On the contrary you are daily being bombarded with influences and images that do more to tear you down and ruin your self image then to help you.

The men who are successful with women to a large extent possess nothing you yourself can not know or acquire if you will commit yourself to change and overcoming a lifetime of self defeating habits and thoughts.Learn to first of all be calm and detach yourself from the outcome of any conversation with the girl you desire and you will be on your way to being the confident man you want to be.

To Be Continued....