Introduction to Love

Love- is a strong sincere emotion felt between one or more beings. Love is undeniable, and has no limitations. It is unconditional. Real love is an attachment that is almost impossible to disconnect.

Lust- is an emotion that can sometimes be mistaken for love. Lust is a deep physical or sexual attraction to another person. Sometimes there are no true signs of love, because lust can sometimes blurr ones vision. Lust only last for so long, it gets old. When the lust is gone, what do you have to hold on to?....NOTHING. You have to get to know someones heart 1st before being overtaken by their physical attributes.

Ways to Get and Keep True Love

1. Go to nice wholesome places to meet nice people:church,classy music,lounges, work,poetry sets, sports games, restaurants, through friends or family,nice online dating sites, and places that aren't too loud.

2. Always have good hygiene when approaching possible candidates. You should always be clean regardless of your financial status. It doens't take much to take a bath, brush your teeth,comb your hair, and wear clean clothes. Be presentable....

3. Be very respectful when approaching your candidates. Always speak 1st, and be confident while doing so. Always give them personal space. Ask if it's ok to keep in touch with them, and if they say yes.....then you can ask them when would be a good time to call. Even if you're super happy they gave you time of day, never let them know how overjoyed you are right then. It might make you seem desperate. That can be a big turn off. Always make them feel like you're equal to them.

4. When you make the 1st phone call to them, don't be too overwhelming. Don't overtalk them. Pay close attention to what they're saying.Don't give them too much personal information in that 1st conversation. Ask your candidate if it's possible to hang out sometimes at a place of their likings. Set a good time and date to meet.

5. Go on the 1st date and look your best. Be respectful, make eye contact, smile, be a good listener,and don't tell lies. Men should always ask to pay 1st. Use proper manners. Don't ask too many personal questions. Enjoy the moment. Give compliments when they are due. You usually know if you've made a connection with someone after the 1st date. If everything goes well on the 1st date, make plans for a 2nd one. Don't bring sex up at all on the 1st few dates. Don't be too pushy about anything.

6. If all is still going smooth, spend quality time on the phone, on dates, emailing, or just texting each other. Get to know each others inner beauty. That's a way of learning each other's likes and dislikes before taking things to the next level. Don't base your perception of them on materialistic or economical things. It will definitely cause a block in getting to know their inner being,which is the most important factor in finding real love.Once there are mutual feelings that the both are ready to move to the next level, it's ok to take the risk. One of the beginning steps to falling in love is being able to take the risk. Falling in love is definitely a risk. Love is very much worth it in the end.

7. Starting the new relationship is the most exciting part. Everything feels so right, and it's seems like the bond is unbreakable.Time spent together seems like it should never end. It's almost like you're caught up in a moment. It's ok to spend a lot of time with each other, but be sure not to over do it. Don't let it get to the point where you start rejecting other obligations in your life,and not getting personal time to spend with the friends that were there before the relationship. You don't want to get tired of each other too soon. Don't rely completely on them to make you happy. They should just add to the happiness you already have.Allow each either room to breath. Try to not spend every day together.Take breaks. Frequent breaks will give you time to miss the other person. Each time you see each other after breaks will feel exciting, due to the time missed. Distance makes the hearts grow closer.

8. Intimacy is the next step. When the intimacy comes into play, make sure it's something both parties are ready for. Before actually engaging in it, share each others likes and dislikes in this department. Talk about each other's health also. Use protection when getting physical. Kisses and foreplay brings lots of passion in this department. Don't treat the man or woman like their a piece of meat. Be sensual and make them feel secure. Make them feel like they can trust you with their body while their mind has escaped to another place. Do a lot of holding, kissing, wispering, and touching with the hands. It's ok to get caught up in the moment. Through intimacy you can definitely start building a spiritual connection.

9. Once you start building that spiritual connection,you can then start to share this person with your special friends and family. It's almost like the two of you know each others likes and dislikes about most things, so there should be minimum problems with bringing this person into your inner friends and family circle. After the family and friends have met your significant other, listen to their opinions. Don't let their opinion influence what you already feel about this person. Follow your head. ....not heart yet. Keep family and friend out of your relationship as much as possible.It will only cause problems.

10. One of the most sacred parts of the relationship is trust. Trust plays a major part in a relationships lifespan. If there is no trust, the relationship is dust. It's not a genuine relationship if each party isn't being completely honest with each other. If you have to lie or if you're having trust issues, there is a major problem somewhere. Work on that if that is the case, because distrust can be the death of your relationship.Remember,the best respect one can give is out of your presence. Meaning.....you should be able to trust them even when you're not around. Work hard at making trust one of the main factors of your relationship.

11. Make sure both parties are clear of past hurts or insecurities. Both parties want to make sure they are clear of those toxins,before getting to the major stages of the relationship. You don't want to punish your new mate, because of things past lovers did to you. Take your past hurts and mistakes and learn from them. It helps you grow. Live in the moment.

12. Uh ohhh....Now here is the big L word. Now you're at the point when both parties possibly want to say they love each other. It's ok to do that, if you're being sincere. It's the most amazing thing to know in your heart that you've found love. Start discussing long term desires. Share your goals and aspirations. At this point's it's ok to start letting your guards down with this person.

13. After you have established a complete spiritual connection through love, trust, space, and intimacy. It's almost like you are 100% sure that you have found your soul mate. When both lovers have come to that conclusion, it's ok to discuss marriage. If both parties like the idea of being together for the rest of thier lives, then both parties should actually do some soul searching separately. Make sure that you think with you head first, because it is more logical. Then think with your heart. When the man is comfortable and ready to ask the big question,he should do it in a respectful memorable way. You only have one time to do that the right way. Once the woman says yes, then from there you are officially engaged. Engagement is almost like insurance or maybe like leasing something until you own it. Then at this point it's ok to move in together if you're ready for that.Being engaged to someone is just giving you time to be 100% sure that you want to go to bed and wake up to this person everyday for the rest of your life.

14. Now is the time to start planning the wedding. Wedding plans are on. Happiness is in the air. At this point you can actually see yourself in that person's heart when you look at them and they see the same when looking at you. Pray togther and ask God for guidance and ask him to bless your unity. Love is Amazing.....

15. The wedding day is the most beautiful time of all. This is when you two are the only thing that matters. You make vows to love each other for as long as you both shall live. It's when you vow to love this person through sickness and health. Your love becomes a soul connection. Your souls become one with each other. The most magical moment is when the two say I do.....This is when you know you have found real love and it's yours for keeps