Find True Love by Finding Yourself, A New Earth Discussion, Part 1

How to Find True Love

“So when you are alert and contemplate a flower, crystal, or bird without naming it mentally, it becomes a window for you into the formless.”

Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth, 2005

“Without naming it mentally.” What the heck does that mean? It means not engaging the shoulds, should nots, expectations and judgments that are such a part of our daily life that most of the time we don’t even notice them. It means looking beyond to the field of possibility.

I didn’t get past page four of Tolle’s latest book, A New Earth, before I was seeing the similarities between what he was saying and the underlying principles I used to find my soul mate.

Not naming it mentally is a can be a guiding principle when finding and keeping your soulmate. Years ago, like many of you are right now, I was doing well in most areas of my life. I had a beautiful home, lots of friends, and a great little dog. I was always on the go. I didn’t need anything or anyone in my life to be happy. And, I wanted on special person to share it with.

So I sat down at my kitchen table, looked across at an empty chair, and proceeded to shock myself. All I was trying to do was define love, so I would know what I was looking for. All I got was a list of obligations. Who wants more obligations? No wonder I’m not in a relationship was the neon banner that pulsed through my head.

My immediate quest became to figure out what love really is. It wasn’t until I stopped naming it mentally that I was successful in my endeavor. And, guess what, I found my true love.

For 18 years I owned a technical writing firm and we often helped companies translate their business work-flow into step-by-step actions so they could have a repeatable process. I could do that for myself – what had I done? What was the process I used to find my true love?

In reflecting on what seemed to miraculously unfold in my life I couldn’t say exactly why it happened. I could document what happened, the steps I took, but not why. But when you put an intention or affirmation out into the Universe amazing things happen.

The first thing was that I re-read Dr. Candice Pert’s book, Molecules of Emotion, and it started to make sense to my logical brain. What I had done was tap into my emotional brain through a very special love song. After I was in that space for about three months, I started to be able to define love, as Tolle says, without naming it mentally. And therein lies the key – get out of your thinking brain and into your emotional brain – into your heart space.

I discovered what I have come to call my irresistible definition of true love ™.

Here’s what I did: I contemplated visual image metaphors, like the diamond, flower and dove that Tolle speaks of, to bridge the gap between my thoughts and my emotions. And, I found love in 3 months! I was in my mid 40’s.

As Tolle says, I became aware of my own essence. I stopped identifying only with my physical and psychological form. I started to identify with and live from my true nature, the essence of Colleen.

And, my friend, when you live from your true nature, when you live in this material world from your essence, you become irresistible.