In this hub I will try to outline several things that you need to do in order to fix your relationship. Apply it, and you will fix it. If you don't, you'll suffer.

Right now, we are living in a world where everything is done quickly and thus, everything are less appreciated, including relationship.

Just look at people who are miserable in their relationship with their loved ones. They tried hard, but it seems that to me they tried TOO HARD to see the result of their efforts.

In other words: they don't appreciate their effort. They are only looking at the end result. They are forgetting that they are trying to patch up their relationship is because they want to be together.

How to be together?

By enjoying things together.

By sharing things together.

By having fun together.

Now, I'm not a relationship guru, but I do know this: if you want to fix your relationship, do it by enjoying things you are doing with her.

Just asked her to go out for a dinner? Enjoy every minute you are with her.

Don't look out of the window and wondering when it will finish. Or don't start asking yourself (a.k.a doubting yourself), "will this patch up my relationship with her?"

Just enjoy yourself, and make her realize why you want her to come back to you.

Note: what I wrote here is applicable to both men and women.

Seeing through their eyes

This is easier said than done. To fix a relationship, you need to see what they see... what are they feeling. In other words, you have to walk a mile in their shoes. Why are they reacting this way? Why they don't see things the way I see it?

You need to consider everything from their point of view. Consider what Sun Tzu's said:

It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle.

How to win a losing battle? To learn about your enemy more than what they know about themselves ;-)

If you have someone who have gone through this problem, then you can ask them how they fix their problems. Sometimes, the fix is so simple... you hate yourself for it.