Men Never Get a Second Chance to Make a First Impression
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Let Him Treat You Like a Lady
"How to Impress a Man" focuses on the behavior of women that makes them impressionable to men.
Men have the abiity to impress a women with none other than their behavior. The lyrics from a popular song, "Treat Her Like a Lady" sums up how women would like to be impressed. It does not matter is she is working on a construction site as the only woman wearing a hardhat, the woman would appreciate if men would open the door to the fast food restaurant as the lunch bell rings.
Impress Your Woman with Your Behavior
In the context of a relationship, behavior relative to impressing a woman is even more prevalent. Of course she expects you to open the door for her. In fact, most men who are not in a relationship with a woman will hold the door open and let the woman enter first. Acting like a gentlemen has not heeded the feminist movement of the working women generation.
Go the Extra Mile
But in a relationship, when looking to impress a woman, men have to go the extra mile. Men having to go the extra mile should not be an obligation, they should want to do nice things for their woman. To impress the woman, the man should realize that a woman can not do it all when it comes to maintaining the home if she is married and holds a job. Help in the kitchen or with the kids would be an impressive act and men should step up to the plate and away from sports television ESPN to lend her a hand.
Be On Your Best Behavior in Private and Public
If the relationship is not at the marriage stage and the man is looking to sustain the relationship by standing out from the rest of the guys, then he has to be on his best behavior in public as well as private. Women likes to be treated as a lady and that involves more than just opening the door. If you are looking to make a good impression with a woman and to be unforgettable, you must treat yourself as well as her with the utmost respect. You must take care of your appearance and actions and always being of your best behavior.
Flowers and Fancy Expensive Gifts Do Not Always Earn a Good Impression
Treat your woman with a service attitude instead of buying gifts of flowers and fancy expensive gifts. She realizes that most of the time, the department store clerk waltzed through the store with the male shopper to select the most sexy of lingerie. Women would prefer an offer to cut the grass around her duplex or to help with the dishes after a romantic dinner. The woman in the relationship will remember her man's act of helping her with actually doing something instead of flowers that fade and gifts that gets lost or needs dusting.
Become a Helpmate to Make a Good Impression
Women want to know that the man is not going to expect her to be the domestic queen of clean on her own. The man in the relationship should be a helpmate and his being there and helping her will make a good impression on the relationship. Do more for her to impress her and more often than not, the woman will return the favor in more ways than one.
A Compliment Would be Much Appreciated
Don't forget to continue to open the doors of public places, open the car door for the woman and allow her to enter holding onto his arm on a dinner date. Also women spend a lot of time looking good for her man and a compliment would be must appreciated and will make a good impression, as well.
Do not ever talk about her weight even if she is a size 0 because women are sensitive in these areas. Never compare a woman to what is seen in glossy redone photos of top models. Men will not make a good impression if he makes a comment comparing his woman to doctored up photos of beautiful women. Most women know that men are visual people and are very observant of how they look. Make a sincere complete compliment and really the man in the relationship should mean it when he tells her that she is beautiful and gorgeous by his own standards. The man's standard may be plumb and pleasurable, thin and enticing or medium and mesmurizing. An honest compliment from the man in a relationship must be sincere and not given lighthearted because the reception from the woman is all too serious.
Listen and Give Her the Gift of Your Time
Listen and Give Her the Gift of Your Time
Men should not get relaxed with their woman and think that she can read his mind when it comes to her knowing how he feels about her as a person. The man in the relationship should listen to his woman and respond to her to make a good impression.. Men can impress the woman with more than a purchased product. Men can impress your woman with listening and the gift of her man's time.
Sometimes There's Never a Second Chance to Make a First Impression
Remember men, to treat your woman like a lady always and take the time to help her out. Women are detailed individuals and think that they must do in all. Let her know and impress her with your help with everyday mundane activities and you will receive a good impression and even a thank you. The sayings goes that sometimes men or women never get a chance to make a second impression. If men wants to impress their women , and want to keep on impressing the woman in their life, they got to keep treating her like a lady.
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Connie, thank you for your comment. You are the second hubpage writer who called my writing prolific and I do appreciate you for saying that. I treat each hubpage article like a job that I want to perform well in.
I may be working a lot of overtime writing and it is something that I enjoy. Drive and determination is so important in what you do that when you find that a task is refreshing and intriguing, you continue the journey. I love hubpage and the hubpage community because of the setting provided to do what I enjoy best. I believe that whatever you do that you should always do your best work and I am pleased that you like my writing. Connie, your comment is much appreciated.
Hey I enjoyed your views on how to treat a lady. Very entertaining but, lets be honest, 90% of guys who get laid treat their ladies like crap. If you comment back I would be appreciative. Theres this girl I really like her, she knows this because I have told her. She said she's got a man. I guess my problem is I need to get over it but I really want to go out with her. Any advice would be great. My thoughts are to leave her alone and maybe she will come around if she breaks up with the guy, but then I feel like I just sat around waiting for that. I dont know, women are a damn mistery.
B says: Thank you for your comment.
There is no mystery about the girl you like. She has a man. It seems though you have not been out with her and you may want her because she is unobtainable. You know that apple on the tree that should not be picked.
My advice is to place your attention elsewhere. You have admitted that you liked her and that is a good feeling being able to extend good feelings to another person. Be pleased that you have that capacity but be warned that her feelings are with the man who she is with now. Follow your thoughts and "leave her alone" but do not sit and wait for her to leave the guy. There is no telling how long you would be out there waiting when there are plenty of single women who would like to meet you.
I kind of figured you would say something on those lines and to be completely honest with you I couldn't agree more. I'm the kind of guy who has always treated everyone with respect and I have even more respect for women.
For example, a couple months ago my friend got married and to make a long story short I went to the wedding, partied at the reception and met a girl and got her number. A couple days went by and I asked her to go to lunch with me. She said yes but she wasn't going to be available to go out for a week, so during this week she sends me all sorts of text messages saying things like "you have to come to party with me sometime" and "maybe you could teach me how to dance" of course I said ANYTIME. So we go out to lunch and we chit chat and eat and spend like an hour and a half at the restaurant. After we finished up I walked her to her car and she gave me a hug. I was thinking, "okay thats a good sign." So I left things at that. She hopped in her car and took off. A few hours went by and I was thinking everything went great so I asked her if she wanted to go out again sometime. Her reply was, "Well I was thinking maybe we could just be freinds." Of course I said, "Yeah that sounds great." She never talked to me again.....Haha how funny is that. During that story did I seem dumb or do you think it was just bad chemistry?
B says: You just sound a bit insecure to be satisfied with a hug when you had been communicating with her through text messages. I do not think that the chemistry was bad, I think that she was not the one for you. When she was talking to you electronically, she may have been at work and wanted to pass the time. Then once she had used you for conversation that is all that she wanted.
I do not think that she wanted a relationship with you or anyone else. This is only my opinion as I do not know either of you. I do think that you should not look for signs but for chemistry between the two of you. She did not give you the chance to see if the chemistry exists. Sum this relationship up as time passed talking with someone who liked to text and move on.
Again, your most likely right. I wouldn't say I was satsified with a hug though I mean I am a man and we all do have one thing on our mind. So let's move on to the next item of business... your pretty good at this. You're obviously a person of intellect and class. Your writing skills and knowledge of relationships is, lets just say above average(far above). So I'm going to drop some more on your shoulders. I'm a college student and aside from the studying I have a fair amount of time on my hands. I may drink occasionally but I'm not the type of person to go out to bars looking for a lady. I'm actually hoping to find someone to spend some real quality time with and not just a fling thing if you know what I mean. Also all these internet dating websites, come on thats just insane. I'm not going to lie I have tried them out and from my experience their a freaking joke. You have taken the time to read my letters and amazed me with your responses because your probably about 98% right about everything you've said. I really dont have a clue who you are or where you are but thank you for your time.
B says: Thank you for your comment and encouragement.
Linda, is that you in the photo? Two words, freaking beautiful. So I have a question for your expertise. If I like a girl but we have never gone out for coffee or lunch or anything would it be dumb of me to send her flowers at her work? I was thinking of doing this and maybe not putting my name on them so she just kind of wondered who was behind this. Not the greatest plan is it?
B says: Thank you for your comment. Thank you for the compliment. Unless you are an infatuated teenager leave the flowers at the florist. Mature adults should be able to talk to each other. If you read most of my articles on relationships, I always point out that the most important part of a relationship is communication. Now, you do not have a relationship with this girl at work and need to let her know that you are interested. Most women like flowers even as a friendly gesture. You want to get a thank you for your thoughtfulness and to be recognized for such a romantic gesture as sending flowers.
Okay I just wrote like three paragraphs and they all got erased by my stupidity. I think I just spared you a lot of rambling from me. Basically I was saying why cant I meet a smart lady as down to earth as you? Most girls are stupid, in a relationship or just think they are too cool for school. You made reference to me as possibly being an infatuated teen. Well, I dont think so, I'm 26 and I like to believe fairly mature for my age. The real question is (aside from the fact you are really smart) are you an amazing beautiful blonde haired blue-eyed lady? I mean I've met smart ladies and beautiful blondes but the combination of both Thats one in a million.
Also I love your articles. Everything you say like men never get a second chance to make a first impression. That is so true, unless that guy wins the lottery, then he might get a second chance. No? Ok ok joking aside women are so different, you may like the guy that opens the door for you and pulls out your chair and, some other girl likes to be treated like dirt, just talk down to her and she loves you, the point is you can summarize what a majority of women like and how they will act to certain situations but each woman is different. That is why I love women so much, you ladies are like fortune cookies. One girl likes romance and cuddling the next one likes rough sex, whips and chains or maybe a combination of both. Me personally not into the whole dominating type of woman, its scares me.
Finally one more thing and you can move on. We have conversated or whatever you would consider this. Basically its just me writing you letters on your webpage and you being kind enough to respond but what is the first impression you get from the way I write and act in my letters? Because if men never get a second chance to make a first impression then your mind has already been made up of what you think of me.
B says: Thank you for your comment.
I appreciate the compliments about my writing. My goal here at Hubpages is to empower women and make men aware of them as viable human beings with heartfelt feelings.
A woman and a man does not love the same way and I have taken it upon myself to write as a woman with experience.
I hope that your stories are real and not to get to know the author as the basis of the writing is not to conjure any admirers of nothing more than how the content of the writing is presented.
Okay well any man who doesnt realize that women are viable human beings with heartfelt feelings is most likely a giant douchebag. I believe you are a woman with experience in what you write about. You got way to technical on that last statement for me. Dont be so defensive, I am a good person and if I cannot get to know the author of what I'm reading whats the use in reading it? You may have great knowledge but to me it seems like you are also a bit wound up. Read my last letter to you, and respond honestly, not with some whack job answer.
B says: Thank you for your comment. The response was meant to be professional as I do have a purpose for writing. I appreciate the time you have taken to respond and to comment about my writing.
So you are a great author so I have a feeling you can shed some light on this new episode I am involved. I have recently been interested in a very beautiful girl. She never really seemed to like me so I kind of left it alone. About two weeks ago she broke down to me(not crying or anything) and told me her and her boyfriend split up. She went on to tell me how long they had dated and how hard things have been for her....that night I was left with mixed emotions or whatever you want to call it. I thought to myself that maybe she told me this because she liked me, not that she wanted to jump right into a relationship or anything. So the next day I sent her 3 roses at her work. I'm not to sure that went over well, she kinda hid from me for the next few days and then finally approached me and said thank you for the flowers. I'm thinking my techniques are beyond retarded and she definently wasnt impressed althought she did thank me. So my question to you, would pursuing this seem to be stupid or should I just go for it since I have nothing to lose other than a little pride right??
B, thank you for your comment. Your rendition of your friend breaking up with her boyfriend and then telling you about how hard things had been for her as a result is indicating that she still have feeling for the other guy. The fact that she did not immediately thank you for the roses and your apprehensions about her reaction says that now is not a good time for a relationship.
Give her time to get over her lost love because I do not think she is ready for a new relationship. Save your pride and give her time to get over the other guy. And I think that she would have appreciated the roses from him.
You are most likely right on the money. I found out the reason she was dodging me so much is because she actually got back with the guy. But heres a crazy twist for you, they broke up and she told me about it and she said it was real difficult for her, I sent her flowers to try to cheer her up, a couple days later shes back with the guy. Then he totally throws her under the bus and breaks it off with her again. I mean seriously, I wouldnt treat her like that and it really pisses me off that he is getting away with it, but like you said she would have much rather got the flowers from him not me and most likely she has no interest in me at all. Anyways enough of that, I do hope to hear your opinion though its always nice to have a thought outside of my own.
B, thank you for your comment. Your post sounds like you are really in love with her. Remember that my opinions are just that and you should continue to pursue her if you think that she is for you.
I'm not so sure that I know what love is. I have been very interested in dating a few people in the past few months but its been a failure. This girl that I was telling you about has been dumped and got back with the guy, then he cheated on her they broke up again and she got back with the guy, I'm beginging to think thats a lost cause, I like the encouragement to keep pursuing her but she has made it quite clear that no matter what he does, dump her, cheat on her.....you get the point. I hate being the nice guy, I've been nothing but kind to her and treated her with respect. I finally decided to give up. I've been single for 5 years now, I think the problem is more me than anything else.
B says, thank you for your comment.
Hurrah for you and your decision to move on. Obviously, you are a good friend but the object of your friendship wants it to stay that way. Your friend is set on being in a relationship that is as you say a lost cause.
You can take a horse to the well but you can't make it drink the water. I am by no means calling your friend a horse. What I am saying is that you are there for her to be romantically inclined but she continually refuses to look in your direction for love when the other guy lets her go.
You were in an odd situation to actually follow your friend's relationship to know that if she continually takes him back that her interest is him and unfortunately not you.
The first step to moving on is to see the clearer picture and you saw that she did not run to your open arms but instead chose to keep getting in a relationship that did not work out for her.
Shake off the "lost cause" and look in the direction of someone who will return your love and not continue to hurt your feelings by telling you and letting you see that you are not the one for her.
There is someone for you but you must get yourself out of the lost cause and move forward forgetting the past and forging to a much happier future.
I am glad that you have finally decided to let go because only you can make that decision. The problem was holding on without anything to hold on to. The problem during that holding on stage was you. You were holding on to thin air hoping that she would choose you. But now you have decided to let go and move on.
Good for you.
Connie Smith says:
5 months ago
I am having trouble keeping up, Linda. You are a very prolific writer and it is amazing that you can keep up the quality along with the quantity. No wonder I see you so often at the top!