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How to Keep A Guy in a Relationship

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By lindagoffigan


Give Him Some Space

To keep a good relationship going you must give him some space. Suggestion are general because couples were not interviewed and the views is the sole opinion of the writer.

Guys just need their space, plain and simple. You may want to spend every waking minute with him and being that caring may be a bit much for him. Guys are not raised to be independent and are not always available to be with you. Regardless of how much love he may profess to love you, at some time or another he is going to want his space. There is a time when a guy has to go into a retreat status and muse other something other than you. Hopefully, the guy is not musing over someone else. But you would know if that was the case based on how the status of the relationship was going before he resulted to retreat status.


Guys Place More on the Relatioship Than Just Being Together

 

Girls, it seems to be the luck of the Irish to get a guy and then realize that you can not be with him all of the time. Sometime the feelings of togetherness is not reciprocal and that is something that you will have to get used to. You may have centered your entire life around him but he places more to the relationship than just being together all of the time.

If you have a standing Friday night date, then you need to kind of break it up a little so that he will not get too familiar with the routine. There is an example of a guy who cheated on a girl and now he makes it a point to take her out on a standing date. It was kind of the girl to take him back but a tanding obligation to take her out on a date in almost like having a job and very few people likes their job. The girl should have declined and chose another path to relationship redemption. Sometimes guys will result to wander away in quest for freedom if he feel closed into a relationship. But then again, it is up to the two people involved and the value they place on togetherness.

Can You Give a Guy Too Much Space?

Can you give a guy too much space? Will giving a guy too much space cause him to cheat or to lose interest. It is all about how you work your show. You should first of all let him have his space so that he does not feel closed in and want to escape. Secondly, you should not feel bad if he says that he wants space from the relationship. Time away may bring a new closeness and a freshness to the relationship. If he leaves to get his space and find somewhere else to occupy it, then it was better that you found out now instead of later.

You keep a relationship strong by abiding by the wishes of each other. You should not feel left out of your guy's world if you are not with him all of the time. Cherish the time that you have together, otherwise, he may feel trapped. No man wants to feel trapped even when married. So let up on his space and let him have it. There will be plenty of good times and the times will be better when one of you do not feel trapped into being together but is together to build a lasting and strong relationship.

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DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

DeBorrah K. Ogans  says:
6 weeks ago

Lindagoffigan,

Thought provoking hub! It is important to spend quality time together enjoying one another! It is also important to give one another space. Balance is key! A good healthy relationship is built on Love & Trust and two strong individuals who respect one another. You never want to smother one another, or loose who you are as an individual. This way together you both are twice as strong! Thank you for sharing.

Blessings!

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lindagoffigan  says:
6 weeks ago

Deborrah L. Ogans, thank you for your comment. After reading your informative response, I think that maybe I should do an edit and add your thoughts. Thank you much for the comment.

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pepperlynn76  says:
6 weeks ago

While I do agree with giving him some space. You know so he can have "his time". Like maybe he wants to just have 3 hours of uninterrupted video game time on a saturday afternoon. But ultimately I do believe there needs to be a balance. And perhaps a real question to ask yourself about a relationship is "why does he need space"? I've always thought it was weird when I heard of couples say that they need space. If you need space...you should rethink the relationship altogether. I want to be with a person that loves being with me no matter what.

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lindagoffigan  says:
6 weeks ago

pepperlynn, thank you for your comment. "How to Keep a Relationship Going Strong" was moreso for the couples that were headed for marriage or a more serious relatioship. Again, the togetherness and the time spent together is totally up to the individuals involved. Your comment is much appreciated.

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