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How to Know if Your Boyfriend Loves You

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By lindagoffigan


Your boyfriend's committment to the relationship with time spent together is one determinant factor

You will not know if your boyfriend really loves you even if he always tells you so at the end of each cell phone conversation. You will not know if your boyfriend loves you if he sends flowers to your office and gives you chocolate as "just because" gifts. You will not know if your boyfriend loves you if your pet loves him. There are just no indicators as to know whether or not your boyfriend loves you except his commitment to the relationship.   Your boyfriend's committment to the relationship with time spent together is one  determinant factor.  The only way you will know if your boyfriend loves you is when he is there for you and committed to his want and need to love you unconditionally.

It is said that actions speak louder than words and guys know this. That is why when something is amidst, you will sure to see him do something about it by one of the actions mentioned.  For no explainable reason on your part, you may receive roses,  chocolate or jewelry.   Boyfriends may do these actions of kindness because of society's say that it is the right thing to do in a relationship. Boyfriends may do these nice things because he thinks that you expect these actions from him as the second sentence of this paragraph says, he may have something amidst. After three times of showing up with roses on your dinner and dates night, sometime these actions just become a habit.  HIs actions in these cases would not mean that your boyfriend really loves you.

You must be secure within yourself if you are to believe that your boyfriend really loves you. Actions speak louder than words but is what he is doing somewhat superficial or mechanical? When you are secure in yourself, then you will not be deceived into thinking that your boyfriend loves you because of him giving you a box of chocolate for no reason and all; even if he follows up the gift with a kiss and a "I love you." Why? Because a box of chocolate and a bouquet of roses can not fix it when you want to be with him but he seems to want to be with his friends or elsewhere.

If your female intuition makes you hesitant to call him when you want to be with him because you think that he may be doing something more important than being with you then your boyfriend probably do not love you. A relationship brings two people together as one entity and what is important to you should surely be important to him. It is easy to stop by the local convenience store and pick up a bouquet of flowers. It is tougher to turn down an important sports event because he wants to be with you or you want his company. It is true that it is the thought that counts and not the gift. But the thought would be more heartfelt if less retail is put in his feelings and more detailed time together is invested as a loving couple.

What is emphasized here is that what your boyfriend does for you with his time is a better indication of if he really loves you instead of what he buys or even what he says. If he wants to be with you more so than with his friends, then he probably really loves you. You should be of the most importance to him and have to shoo him from you to be with his friends because he wants to spend every moment with you. You should not be wondering why hasn't he called or waiting for an email. You should not be asking "How to know if my boyfriend really loves me?" A quick answer to the question is if you are in doubt then he probably doesn't. But for the sack of purely understanding if your boyfriend really loves you, "How to Know if Your Boyfriend Loves You" continues.

Insecurity in your feelings towards yourself or to him will most likely make you ask the question: "How Do I Know if My Boyfriend Really Loves Me." Otherwise, you will not be asking the question because you would be assured of his love. Get over your insecurities so that you can access the situation and see clearly without malice or doubt as to whether or not your boyfriend really loves you. Thank your boyfriend for the many gifts and be pleased when he says that he loves you. But to really prove that your boyfriend really loves you depends heavily on how you feel about yourself and what he does for you in matters of spending time with you and sacrificing time with his friends. He may say that he thinks the world of you but if his actions prove otherwise, then there is a fallacy in what he is saying.

Have fun in your relationship with your boyfriend and if things get serious, be aware of your trust and security issues before you take him at face value that he really loves you. You will only know if your boyfriend really loves you if he has shown time and time again that you are the one for him. Sometimes this process of trusting and dealing with your insecurities will provide a better page on which to answer the question. Do not contemplate him telling you that he loves you to be truthful with actions to the contrary. It is said that time is a healer but time can also be an excellent indicator factoring in time spent together in the relationship to prove if your boyfriend really loves you.

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itsmybeats profile image

itsmybeats  says:
3 weeks ago

u great Mrs.linda.........it sooperb

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lindagoffigan  says:
3 weeks ago

itsmybeats, thank you for your comment.

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gary777g  says:
3 weeks ago

Now if only I had a girlfriend, so I could NOT bring her flowers and NOT buy her chocolates and just be with her all the time...

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lindagoffigan  says:
3 weeks ago

gary777g, thank you for your comment. You got it!

Portia Briton  says:
6 days ago

I do agree with this in part, however, I do believe a healthy relationship requires time away from your partner, I would find it creepy if my partner wanted to me with me all the time. I know my boyfriend loves me because he takes care of me, he is kind, thoughtful and loving, but we both need a break sometimes, time spent together then is even better!

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lindagoffigan  says:
6 days ago

Portia Briton, thank you for your comment.

The idea was that your boyfriend would choose you to be with instead of an event that you know he was passionate about if there was a choice. If he makes the choice to be with you and you have to be the one to convince him that your are fine if he goes to the event, then you are in a good place in the relationship.

If you read my myriad of articles on relationship, you will see that I definitely believe that space should be given to each other in the relationship for it to be a fun and a loving place to be.

Your comment is greatly appreciated.

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aefrancisco  says:
4 days ago

OH! How i wished I read this before we broke up TT

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lindagoffigan  says:
4 days ago

aefrancisco, thank you for your comment. Knowledge is king and hopefully you will have use of this information at another time. Your comment is much appreciated.

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jperlini  says:
2 days ago

Pretty spot on, my girlfriend would appreciate this.

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Wedding101  says:
2 days ago

Well said Lindagoffigan!

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lindagoffigan  says:
2 days ago

jperlini, thank you for your comment. You sound confident that your fulfill the requirements of the article. Your comment is much appreciated.

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lindagoffigan  says:
2 days ago

Wedding 101, thank you for your comment. I like you moniker Wedding 101.

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aefrancisco  says:
2 days ago

WC - Welcome ... yeah... I absolutely agree ms.lindagoffigan, life is a learning process anyway.

leny  says:
2 days ago

yup i do believe that time spent with me is more valuable and priceless than any flowers, chocolates and jewelries, because memmories left on every time spent is forever, while flowers withered, chocolates consumed and jewelries fades....

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lindagoffigan  says:
2 days ago

leny, thank you for your comment. Nicely said.

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LiamAnderson  says:
2 days ago

Hi. Interesting comment.

Can you make some analysis or people who have been married a long time, where both partners have demanding jobs and may also have hobbies which they do on their own?

I know many couple who hardly see each other, since they work in different places, have their own hobbies but they still appear to be staying together.

Where do you think is the balance between 'quality time' together and 'quality time' alone?

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lindagoffigan  says:
2 days ago

LiamAnderson, thank you for your comment. Check How to Keep Relationships Fresh with Demanding Schedules just published.

ealcide  says:
2 days ago

nicely put lindagoffigan.

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lindagoffigan  says:
2 days ago

ealcide, thank you for your comment.

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Rob in Las Vegas  says:
29 hours ago

You sound like you know what you're talking about. Can I get some advice on what women are thinking? Please check out my article on the subject and give me some feedback. Thanks!

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Rob in Las Vegas  says:
28 hours ago

Linda. Thanks for taking the time to read my hub and for your in depth comments. I really appreciate it. I will be posting an update on the situation as it develops and hope you check out the rest as it plays out over the next few weeks.

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Rob in Las Vegas  says:
25 hours ago

Linda, thanks again for your advice. I have another hub I would like you to check out if possible. It's called STARTING A FIRE. No advice needed necessarily, I just think it would be nice if you could check it out. Of course, any comments you might have would be cool with me!

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