How to Leave an Abusive Relationship

It's Time To Make A Change

Both men and women can and do get abused by their significant others. One in 3 women get abused during their lifetimes. Beleive it or not, the numbers for abused men are about the same. No mater what the situation is, it's time for a change. Read the steps below to create that change.

Step One: Make The Decision

This is of the upmost importance! You MUST make the decision and stick with it. Here are some questions to aide you in this process:

How have you changed since entering this relationship?

What have you lost since entering this relationship?

Are there truly any worthwile benefits to being in this relationship?

I know I deserve better but why?

Who else is being hurt because I am in this relationship (i.e. family, friends)?

The Direction You Take is Up to You

Which Path Are You Willing to Walk Down?

Step Two: Make A Plan

Leaving an abusive relationship is a big decision. Like any other decision, it's important to have a plan.

Your plan should answer the following questions:

List Anyone Who Can Help You

Is there anyone that I trust and know can help me? Are there any organizations in my area that can help?

Know The Habits of Your Partner

When does he/she go to work?

When does he/she come home?

Is he/she taking a vacation or time away from me anytime soon?

If You Have Children, Prepare Them for the Journey

What do my children need for a long journey?

Is ther any place they can spend the night before the date of our departure?

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Gather Evidence

Are there any marks or bruises I can take pictures of?

Has anyone else witnessed signs of abuse; will they help me if I need to testify?

Make Sure Your Finances are In Order

How much money will I need to leave?

How can I get that money?

Where can I keep that money?

How long will that money last when I leave?

What is my plan for making money once I arrive in my new home?

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Prepare to Leave

What day will be best for me to leave?

Where will I place all tickets and travel information until it's time?

Where will I go; is there someone to support me at my destination?

Map Out Your Departure

Where will you go and how will you get there?

Step 3: Begin the Healing Process

This final step is essential. It may take longer than any of the other steps, but it is extremely important that you begin the healing process as soon as you have left the abusive relationship you were in. At this point you are no longer physically in an abusive relationship but mentally you still may be and that can be just as worse and lead to the repetition of a horrible pattern.

Say this affirmation to yourself every day (I sugest saying it in the morning while looking in the mirror). You may not believe it at first but in time you will:

I am worthy of the best life and treatment by those I love. I am worthy of respect. I deserve to be loved. I love myself too much to not be loved by those around me.

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Resources

Here are some resources to aide you on your journey.

Leaving An Abusive Relationship
This page is titled deciding to leave and it offers other things you should take into consideration when deciding to leave.

Signs of an Abusive Relationship - How to Leave an Abusive Relationship
Know the signs of an abusive relationship or an abusive personality so that you can leave an unhealthy, abusive relationship or protect your loved ones from an abusive spouse. Abuse can be physical or verbal.

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DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE Help for people in abusive relationships.

It's Not Easy, But It is Possible!

You Can Do This With the Right Information & Support!

Abused Men Speak Out
This page is for abused men. It features e-mail excerpts from men who share their stories.

Community Coalition Against Family Violence | New Bern, NC
This organization provides assistance to abuse victims. Even if they are not in your area, I suggest contacting them for information about organization in your area,

http://www.womensweb.ca/k2news/example1.php?Action=Full&NewsID=30
This is an online community for women and girls that discusses various issues including abused.

ACADV: Children And the Effects of Domestic Violence
This article discusses the effects of Domestic Violence on children

Family Violence Law Center : Domestic Violence Agency : Alameda County : California
This organization provides support to families in Alameda County, CA.

JohnniesHouse.com - A Safe, Loving Home
Provides housing and services to abuse victims in Atlanta.

Domestic Violence Survivor's Handbook
This is a PDF with useful legal information and suggestions for abuse survivors.

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If you are a domestic abuse survivor or are in the process of leaving an abusive relationship, please comment or ask questions below. This page is designed to be as helpful as possible!

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