Once I met a man in one of the seminars I attended. He runs every morning before our sessions and when one time he hurt his leg on the course of our training I massaged it. During this time he had told me that his brother lives in a dumpster of a home and that his mother, a socialite in one of the big cities constantly begs him to please take care of his brother. He refused and continues to refuse. My logical mind could not fathom this, until a few days ago.

To enable someone to hang on to their addiction is to actually hinder them from their growth. It is what is termed as idiot compassion. The textbook definition of compassion.

Contrary to what our logical minds can conceive an addiction does not have to be with chemicals. An addiction is simply something that one has a compulsion to do, whether it be exercise, food, sex, the temporary ecstasy of drugs or or it could be hanging on to any identity that enables us to generate something out of our intended audience.

Real compassion is intelligent. It is sharp, ruthless, and most importantly, it comes from a space of unconditional love where there is no room for frivolity. The analogy being, would you give someone money when you know they would use it to buy drugs? It is the same with continuing to validate a belief by listening to them and commenting on something that they want to or unconsciously trying to validate. Had the man in the story tried to “alleviate” his brother’s condition, it would have hindered the brother from experiencing what he wanted to experience.

To continue in the path, we need to realease all kinds of baggages. We travel light. But we also have to honor the stages in the path.

This release affirmation is a combination from several sources and I only formulated them here for simplicity. You can rearrange the words, delete or add words and phrases however it suits  you. What is important, always, is what rings true to you.

Release tecnique "I release every thought pattern, attitude, behavior, programming, cultural and ancestral beliefs patterns, things and relationships that are longer conducive to my well being on the physical and spiritual level at this point in my path. I bless them all for at one time or another they were necessary for my growth. May they all be encased in divine light and divine love and returned to the Source."

So the steps

On the spiritual level, we release everyone into the space of unconditional love. Say the release affirmation above every day. Pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings is your gauge, an inner guidance mechanism. If you always feel bad when you talk to someone because of anything, then perhaps it is time to let go of this relationship. You are not bound by anything. Only our minds try to cage us, but we are all free.

On the physical level, we let go of things that we don’t use anymore and don’t intend to use. Cleaning the closets, so to speak, but also drawers, cupboards, all the material things that someone else may use, we give to someone who can use them or donate to charity. Others we throw away.

The combination of the two allows for other experiences to come to our lives be they in the form of material things or new relationships.