How to lose an Ex and move on is a very difficult thing to do especially if the ex is a husband or boyfriend and the person seeking to move on is the wife or girlfriend.  Why is it so difficult for the ex to let go so that the woman in the relationship can move on? 

This scenario goes back to the fact that men are bacially on the conquest and once they perceive that what they have caught is worth keeping, they are reluctant to let go.  The woman of course wants to move on because she found something lacking in her partner or relationship that he refuses to see and to acknowledge.  The woman in the relationship may find out that his interest is not truly her but he is just pleased to have her around as a trophy or eye candy or even worse as a convenient back drop to the bedroom when the woman may be looking for a relationship with more substance.

The amount of time that is spent in a relationship also contribute to the hardship of making the ex move on so that the woman can find greener pastures.  Men are practical and pragmatic about the amount of time that they spend in a relationship.  They are so consumed with the time element that a majority of the time, they do not realize that the relationship may be purely superficial.  A superficial relationship means that more often than not, he is making all of the important decisions while the woman in the relationship may be treated not as a partner but as a convenient sex partner, cooking and cleaning  companion.

Let's face it, most men do not like to be in a relationship.  Once they find by hook or crook that they are in a relationship and have spent precious time romancing and wooing a woman, it is almost impossible to convince them to move on.  Women have  to go to great length to distance themselves from failed relationship to have the losing partner try to follow them to prove that the relationship can be rekindled.   A woman has to be careful because some men result to anger if he finds out that she wants to break off the relationship. Most of the time, these are the  type of men who do not want to face defeat and tries to linger even as exes long after the relationship is over.

In most cases, women are the first to know when the relationship is not working and will ask for a divorce hoping to find happiness elsewhere.  In a situation like that where the woman takes the lead, the man in the relationship is sure to try to hold on to prove that he is in charge.  The woman may seek a restraining order which is the worse thing to do to get the ex to move on because the proactive move of the woman in the relationship angers him. He may be angered or appalled that the woman has used a legal entity or other intermediary to end the relationship.  The best thing to do is to divorce him; however, when the relationship is over and to go separate ways  legally, carefully and cautiously after much thought.

If the husband in this scenario continues to communicate with the wife needlessly trying to recoup the relationship, then she needs to seek the advice of her lawyer and professional therapist on what she should do to move on.  Most men that cling on to a failed relationship has problems with possessive ownership and needs help to loosen the ties.  The feeling or ideal of being owned may be the very reason why the woman in the relationship wants out.  Professional advisers and the clergy will be helpful to the woman in this type of relationship telling her  the best thing to do.  Every relationship is different but if you have been trying to move on and have been thwarted by your ex, then a mediator needs to get in the picture to further explain to the ex that the relationship is over.

Time is critical in a situation of a clinging ex.  The woman in this situation depending upon her personality, needs to act quickly to dissolve the relationship or marriage.  The woman should not use the security of the children to stay in a dyfunctional relationship and should resolve the marriage being cognizant that the children are cared for.  The children do not need to be in a relationship that has crumbled and if he tries to cling on and to not move on, professional advisors can help you to find a solution that will be best for your particular circumstances.