How to move on after he's had an affair is one of the choices for the betrayed. The moving on  is more difficult if the betrayed is   married with kids.  As far as your feelings are concerned, it would mean examiining how strong your feeling are for him who laid it down for someone other than you and the two of you were supposed to be in a relationship together. 

Many women say that their partner have never had an affair.  He may have cleverly hid his xual antics.  It is after the woman finds out about the affair that all of a  sudden the relationship has to stop and then consideration has to be made whether to move on or to try to mend the relationship.  The fallacy on the guy's part was getting caught or not being that much into his game that he made a slip. 

 It would be amazing if that program called "Cheaters" was to follow some unsuspecting partner and the statistics of men having affairs  would skyrocket.  You may think that your man is not cheating or having an affair but you can never be sure.  It is easier to believe that nothing is amidst and that you are secure in yourself to know that you have all of the goods to keep him sexually satisfied.

A man who have an affair while married more often than not wants to have fun and have lost that loving feeling for  his partner.  Or the opportunity may present itself to him and he has a problem saying no to an insistent woman after him knowing that he is married.  The man in the relationship is the only one who can put a red light on his actions to not have the affair.  His feelings of love for you are supposed to be the green light for the advancing woman perpetrator to stop enticing your man.  He is supposed to just say no to the affair because of his love for you.

You will have to weigh the consequences of his actions on the relationship.   Decide whether or not the sexual part of your relationship is important enough to feel total betrayal and to just leave him where you found the telephone number of the girl he was having an affair with.  Tolerance is a word that comes into play if you know that he is constantly having these affairs.  If you continue to accept his behavior, that means that the sexual part of the relationship is not important and that you value other aspects of his personality or the relationship.  The relationship may not be value to the eyes of others but you are happy that he always come home to you.  Believe it or not some women think like this.

You must understand, however, that sex and love for most women means a whole lot in the marriage or relationship.  Most women intertwine the two together and think that his commitment to the relationship means that he is only going to share himself with her.  When that sexual relationship is betrayed, then the love relationship suffers because of the importance the woman place on love and sex being  inter-related. 

A woman in the situation described as being in love wiith her mate and also placing a high priority on the sexual part of the relationship would most likely end the relationsihp.  The relationship would be ended because of the affair that took the place of her bedroom pleasures that she had surmised to be an ample part of her mate's showi of love.  As to forgiving in such a situation, there is none.  The affair  would have most likely been discovered after he had tried to hide it over time.   That means that the woman's trust for him would have been tarnished as well as someone else entering the relationship that she thought was only for the two of them.

One time of finding out that the partner had as affair would be like a adhesive part of a tape that once used has no other purpose and can not be used again.  The connectivity of the adhesive which is equivalent to the love that was supposed to make a relationship last would not be a part of the union anymore.  With nothing to hold the relationship together because the adhesiveness of love had been lost in the relationship because of an illicit affair, there would be no other choice but to call it quits and to move on.  The woman who had placed such a high value on her relationship in regards to sex sealed their love, would have no other choice but  to move on. 

 The relationship would have been damaged and once the door of infidelity has been opened a lot of guys just don't know how to close it again.  They know that most of the time their woman may forgive them and forgiveness for some means permission to have an affair again, the next time the opportunity comes up.  Women knowing of the open door policy will most likely move on as a consequence of when he's had that first affair.