They may be saying: "I really like your hair," while flicking a hand dismissively or suddenly developing a cough attack. Then you know they're lying. So how do you read your date's body language accurately?

Martha Graham said that the body couldn't lie. Instinctively we all converse in body language but being skilled at it requires some study. Yet because the language is inborn, even in animals, learning more about it is just re-affirmation of what your subconscious already knows.

1. Concentrate on the eyes, where do they focus? Are they evasive, looking away or wide open, making friendly eye contact with you?

2. Is your date facing you or are you sitting side by side, each facing your own way?

3. Is your date's posture and position open, welcoming, assertive and approachable or closed up, frightened and introvert?

4. Does your date have involuntary twitches, like moving the feet and legs without being aware of it? Or chewing on the fingers or nails?

5. Does the body language agree or contradict what the person is saying as in the politician who says: "We are giving the issue utmost priority!" while sitting there cross-legged and inadvertently kicking the issue away with a nervously kicking foot.

6. And finally, does the date synchronise with your own body language or do they move in opposition, against your position and movements?

PS: The worst crime: Answering their cell-phone at length in your presence!

You might believe that every person's body occupies the amount of space it needs from head to toe and as far as the limbs can reach. But it doesn`t stop there. Although that space is fixed by the size of your body and could be measured with a ruler, as soon as you begin to move and act, so your personal space also begins to change.

The area around the body we use when moving, breathing, speaking, shouting or jumping may project itself far beyond the limits of the physical body itself. It can change in size and density.

You may act big or small and you can, to a certain degree, control who or what enters or has an influence on your personal space. Expanding your personal space or "aura" involves energy coming from the gut: the whole body, heart and soul. The allure of great actors and the grace of dancers depend on this. You too can do it and grow from within to project your personality. To experience this for yourself practise the two extreems of your personal space. Then somewhere in between, your choice of application of this piece of awareness can be applied to every situation that is presented to you.

For example, when ever I have to stand in a crowded queue at the airport or in the bank I take a strong stance and expand my aura. It really helps keep the crowd at a respectable distance.Rather convenient, don't you think?

How to Read Your Date's Body Language

Body language is a two-way process. Language is communication. If your own aura is set to block out messages like I do in a crowded airport queue (with a strong protective shield) then however hard your date is trying, his or her messages won't come across as freely as they could. I mean if you, the receiving end, are open and welcoming, have thrown off all unnecessary barriers in your own body language, then the reading of your date's body language becomes a conversation rather than some secretive and judgemental observation.

There is a lot of reading and research out there about the do's and don'ts of body language.The whole beauty of body language is that it is spontaneous. You can always tell when a politician or other public figure has been "trained" in good body language. With motionless hands, unblinking eyes and fast speaking lips, they come across as fake as people with plastic surgery. Verbalising and analysing body language too much is killing the goose that laid the golden egg. If you really want to know how to read your date's body language, I suggest you learn to recognise, acknowledge, and trust your intuition and your basic instincts.

Good Movers

This is the 7th hub in the Good Movers series. You can find all the episodes I have written so far in the bio on my profile page.

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