If you have been feeling for a long time that your marriage needs saving or reviving maybe it is time for you to do something about it. Life gets in the way of relationships and marriages as children needs and family obligations are always prevalent

 If you feel that that love is hidden and connections are vague in the relationship, it still can be saved dependent on two factors. The factors or the ties that bind are internal or external causes. You must examine why there has been no intimacy in your marriage or relationship.  Then you must reason the  causes as brought on by internal  or external forces that you think you can not control.  Internal forces  can be controlled with counseling and therapeutic measures. If you feel that your marriage or relationship better off being kapot,  then reconsider these two causes before you throw in the towel.

Separation is an option if there are internal causes where your partner have humiliated you. If your partner have the control factor on high speed to silence your every contribution to the well being of the family then the prognosis of the relationship is not good. Before you take any action ,  seek counseling even if your partner refuses to attend the sessions. A counselor can deal with the internal forces that are not allowing you to seek true happiness and reveals to you the cause of your unhappiness. Your obligation should not only be to the family but foremost to yourself if you consider yourself an equal partner in what is going on in family matters. If the children are affected by the yelling and squandering then immediate action has to be taken and more often than not, it is the woman who makes the move.

You have to ask yourself several questions to move on with your marriage or to move away from your marriage. Is there  a chance to bring the intimacy back into your relationship? Would you welcome the chance to bring back the intimacy. Can your husband or spouse be pleasant company? What has changed since the marriage vows were taken? This is a start to finding out if your marriage can be  saved.

If internal forces are making you respond negatively to these answers, the resultant impact on the relationship is not a good one. It is tough to come back to a relationship if you have a distaste for your husband or partner because of how you have been treated. Would it be better to have the kids estranged from one of the parents? This is a tough question because it is the kids in the relationship who may suffer when two parents are constantly bickering, especially in front of them. The damages can be long term so you must make a decision right away if these internal forces of dislike are being materialized in front of the kids.

But if the forces that separate you from your partner are external; then there may be a glimmer of hope that your marriage or relationship can be saved. If these demands will eventually pass, then there is a chance for the marriage to be saved.  Temporary circumstances as the basis for the disagreements and arguments are not long term reasons for a separation or a divorce . Make small gestures to improve the relationship between the two of you. Go out to dinner or a movie once  a week if the finances allow and  if finances are not a basis for the discord. Try holding hands, cheesy as it may seem, a connection of the hands is a good way to get back the intimacy. Strangers shake hands everyday and touching your partner's hand may be the beginning of the intimacy that needs to be brought back into your relationship. Can you hire a babysitter so the two of you can enjoy some of the fun things you both use to do when you first got married?

It is surprising what simple and affectionate gestures can do to save a marriage or a relationship. The first gesture in saving your marriage is to schedule an appointment with a marriage counselor. With a determined dual  effort and the drive to make the relationship the way it was in the beginning; the marriage or relationship can be saved. Consider  the external and internal forces to  help you save your marriage.