If you're like me, you've probably been unable to even walk into a bar... and not see at least one (probably a lot more) woman you just HAD to meet. But how do you do it? What's the trick? How do you go about it and avoid all those nasty problems at the same times? We see all the time... Women complaining about being annoyed by guys approaching them or sleazy pickup lines, yet at the same time, they are in a "singles bar". How do you go about it in a way that guarantees success? 

Well... You could always move to another planet. Because there is no way to guarantee success on this one. That is, if you define success as getting a date with that woman or getting laid. But there IS however another way to guarantee "success". And that is, if you define success in the same way that women hope that men do. What if you defined "success" as being able to walk up to any woman, in any bar and have a fun, flirty, engaging conversation? A conversation that leaves you both happy that it happened. Well THAT my friend is not only achievable with an almost 100% rate, but let me also tell you one more secret... Its actually the secret to increasing your chances with that "other goal". 

I know, i know, it sounds like some new-agey mumbo-jumbo, and its a bit ironic... But the actual way to "get" more women (be it dates, sex, whatever)... Is to NOT actually want or look for it. The secret to getting more women at these bars to come home with you, become your girlfriend (or a good friend)... Is to actually not want it from them. How so? How does this freaky paradox of nature occur? It happens for a simple reason... Nothing infuriates women more than a man wanting to "control" them. And walking up with a "goal" of "getting her" to sleep with you... to her, feels like control. She wants it to be HER idea.  

And as a man, you're gonna wanna ressist this. Because you want to have a tight-grip on and control things, you don't want to "leave them to chance"... But guess what, actually talking to women as an actual human being is actually FUN. Actually approaching women with no other goal than just getting to know them will seem "weird" and "not right". But guess what... You go into that bar, and let the cheesy, horny pickup-artist go and try to steer every woman into a "lay"... And then you let my mentor go and just befriend and get to know every single person in that same bar, and see what happens. The pickup dude will  annoy 90% of the women in the bar, and if lucky get one girl (out of falling in her "type) decide to go for him. And my mentor will have women continually walking up to him, trying to re-engage that "human" conversation that he had with them, and THEM trying to get a score with HIM. 

And oh, if you're more interested in the actual basics of "ok, what do I say, what do I do", the technical nitty-gritty, you need to check out where you even stand in terms of your basic approaching and dating skills, and you stack up compared to other man. So check out the dating quiz here.